Walked Away From BPD Ex, Please Help!

[fknhelp]

Hey Guys,

I just walked away from my bpd ex and as you know am going through the grinder. Any Don’s out that willing have a chat on the phone? I need to run through and process some stuff, but am only looking to speak with someone who has been through the bpd ringer and came out the other side.

Thanks!

 

[Plinco]

You cannot help someone unless they are willing to help themselves. It's not your fault that she is like the way she is, and it is not your job to fix her. Walking away from a toxic relationship is a good thing and you ought to feel some self-respect for doing so.

 

[BPH]

@fknhelp you don't need to talk to someone, your situation is not unique.

I dated a bipolar woman recently, and a lot of this board some experience with them at one point or another.

Speaking from experience, go no-contact/block her and go out to meet other people.

 

[HaleyBaron]

OP thinks he's the only one who dealt with BPD women. Boy, ALL WOMEN are BPD. And I have yet to be disproven on that.

Stop acting like your situation is unique. I do not know what you want from us. You did exactly what we would have told you to do. What else is the problem.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Well, I counsel women and not all of them are BPD.

Women are BPD every day of their lives. If you ever hung around a woman for at least a day, and paid attention, you will see how flip floppy their views and perspectives are. It's on the little things that you catch it. It's why I don't take women seriously.

 

[HaleyBaron]

So you think that all women are clinically BPD? That's a bold statement. What are your credentials, apart from 'hanging around women for at least a day and paying attention'?

Yes. BPD is their natural state. That's how they navigate the social world. My credentials is being a man who been with women.

This also means that I consider BPD not a real illness. Just another business to prescribe pills.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Thanks for clearing that up.

Unless psychiatrists are professional pick up artists, their word ain't squat. Probably one of the most phoney jobs in the world.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yes. BPD is their natural state. That's how they navigate the social world. My credentials is being a man who been with women.

This also means that I consider BPD not a real illness. Just another business to prescribe pills.

Sounds like you might be BPD.

 

[fknhelp]

She was diagnosed and I went through complete hell. I just throught it would be helpful to have someone to chat with who’s been there, I thought that’s what these groups were about?

 

[The Duke]

She was diagnosed and I went through complete hell. I just throught it would be helpful to have someone to chat with who’s been there, I thought that’s what these groups were about?

I think you would get some of the help you are looking for it your shared you story here. Most guys aren't going to call some stranger on a forum thats a "new member".

 

[Grandma Penkitten]

Yes. BPD is their natural state. That's how they navigate the social world. My credentials is being a man who been with women.

This also means that I consider BPD not a real illness. Just another business to prescribe pills.

So, you have never actually met a BPD woman - just regular women who naturally have feelings all over the place.

 

[Tilex]

Chat on the phone? Are you serious??
Bro this ain't the 90's anymore.
You need to buy yourself a time machine and subscribe to AOL

It would help if you explained your story in this thread, then we could help you.

 

[Foe]

Hey Guys,

I just walked away from my bpd ex and as you know am going through the grinder. Any Don’s out that willing have a chat on the phone? I need to run through and process some stuff, but am only looking to speak with someone who has been through the bpd ringer and came out the other side.

Thanks!

There is a difference between dating a woman and dating a BPD, anyone who says its the same hasn't had the experience. I broke up with mine over a year ago, more if you count the countless breakups before that and I talk to my mates about her almost every day. I have had a girlfriend for over a year and Im still getting over the BPD. These woman are like a drug, getting off them is extreemly difficult. All I can say is read my posts, maybe it will help.

I hope for your sake it is over, I doubt she will make it that easy for you but if you are know you are in a better place.

 

[DarwinTaurus]

@fknhelp you don't need to talk to someone, your situation is not unique.

I dated a bipolar woman recently, and a lot of this board some experience with them at one point or another.

Speaking from experience, go no-contact/block her and go out to meet other people.

I wholeheartedly agree with this. My Ex was bi-polar in my opinion, but because it was my first relationship in a very LONG time, I denied it. We broke up and got back together around three times. I wish, in hindsight, after the first breakup, I went no-contact, and blocked her.

Sometimes, even in older age, you still learn...

 

[HaleyBaron]

So, you have never actually met a BPD woman - just regular women who naturally have feelings all over the place.

That's a BPD woman.

 

[Grandma Penkitten]

That's a BPD woman.

No sorry. There is a big difference.

 

[HaleyBaron]

No sorry. There is a big difference.

Be sorry all you want. Women are BPD personified.

 

[HaleyBaron]

This is how men become when they've been f*cked over a few times: all women are bad and out to ruin you. Except for their mommy, of course, although they see how their fathers cowered before her, and they loathe their father's weakness.

You're right, Haley. All women are bad. Men are good, maybe you should go the other way.

You made a big, big stretch. I never once said that women being bad and out to ruin you is BPD. Low iq take. I won't even warrant it with an explanation.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is how men become when they've been f*cked over a few times: all women are bad and out to ruin you. Except for their mommy, of course, although they see how their fathers cowered before her, and they loathe their father's weakness.

You're right, Haley. All women are bad. Men are good, maybe you should go the other way.

It's so easy to tell who are here because they enjoy and love women and those who are simply out of revenge and spite to hurt women the way they have been hurt in the past and actually hate women.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Alright, since you brought this up, Back, it looks like you got a chip on your shoulder so time to oblige this little behavior of yours.

Show me where saying women are naturally BPD inherently makes someone spiteful of women. This seems like one of the biggest stretches of projection I have seen so far on this site. I would love to see the reasoning behind such a ludicrous reasoning.