Ran into my ex I posted threads about with her new bf - Prove I am right

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This is for @BackInTheGame78 especially due some discussion we had.

What he means is in the core a very good, centered and confident thought, but you shouldn't look at it like that. This forum changed my life because I saw the light in the years lurking and changing my life. I am going to give a shoutout to him because he has major knowledge about women, but we just have a different opinion on this matter.

Backinthegame says you should not impress your ex's, I think you should. Use the negative energy of rejection as fuel to work harder on yourself

I believe any rejection should fuel and energize you to become a better man. Use it to skip the booze, to eat clean, to say no to bad food and hit the gym when you don't feel like going. To wear nice clothes and to be on point with your purpose.

Real life example of last fridayevening

I went to the gym, wore nice fit clothes, had my hair on point and felt great. Been eating well and healthy and going to the gym 6 times a week for months now.

I lost like 8 kg since my ex fvck buddy/date/plate and I stopped seeing eachother, wrote some threads about her.

I walked in the city going to meet with friends and what has God planned for me again. I run into my ex with her new boyfriend (who looks better then her imo).

I am confident but theres a new aura I feel since I am in the best shape of my life and hit it off with higher quality women then I ever imagined I could land and also getting way more chosing signals on the streets because of that.

She walks past me hand in hand with her bf in the street, I see her checking me out from head to toe and back, her body shocks a little and she smiles. I smile back in a flirty way and don't look at her bf and go on.

Obv she liked what she saw, I am better now, looking better and sharper and bet I got her pvssy tingle right there and then on the streets. She even smiled in front of her bf and has to explain that she just smiled to her ex guy to her current bf.

I think she even slept 50 centimeters of him that night, just to process the evening. I know her very well to make that conclusion.

A couple of points.

If she didn't care about me, she would not look at me, or dont smile, or dont check me out or just look at her bf when I pass instead of doing what she did, she couldnt help herself, caught off guard and that gave a lot away.

I don't care about her anymore because I got new options I'm busy with so I just don't feel excited or anything to go to her appartment if she would reach out.

So yes, use the fuel to become better and the by product will be that your ex's will regret to a certain point.

Will she leave her bf or come back? Probably not. Will she reach out if they split up, chances are higher because she thinks, hes different now! Do I want that? Absolutley not, he jizzed her mouth, her cvnt and she slept with his sh*t in her pvssy for 8 hours, gross, I just don't want to hit it after seeing that guy with her.

So the point is, yes become a better man and show it off on social media and make them regret. The purpose is for yourself, but the byproduct is a huge ego booster and even some old pvssy if you feel like it.
 
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I'm not going to generalize, but I believe that every ex-girl cares about her ex.

About three months after my ex broke up with me, I noticed a fake account looking at my stories. I knew it was her because the nickname was very similar to one I used to call her during the relationship.

Some friends have told me that exes behave similarly to what your ex did when she met you on the street. Staring, making small talk and flirting, even if indirectly.

So yes, they do care.
 

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I don't care about her anymore
She walks past me hand in hand with her bf in the street, I see her checking me out from head to toe and back, her body shocks a little and she smiles. I smile back in a flirty way and don't look at her bf and go on.

Obv she liked what she saw, I am better now, looking better and sharper and bet I got her pvssy tingle right there and then on the streets. She even smiled in front of her bf and has to explain that she just smiled to her ex guy to her current bf.

I think she even slept 50 centimeters of him that night, just to process the evening. I know her very well to make that conclusion.

A couple of points.

If she didn't care about me, she would not look at me, or dont smile, or dont check me out or just look at her bf when I pass instead of doing what she did, she couldnt help herself, caught off guard and that gave a lot away.
Will she leave her bf or come back? Probably not. Will she reach out if they split up, chances are higher because she thinks, hes different now! Do I want that? Absolutley not, he jizzed her mouth, her cvnt and she slept with his sh*t in her pvssy for 8 hours, gross, I just don't want to hit it after seeing that guy with her.
I don't care about her anymore
Uh huh...

Can't wait for the update thread.
 

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Bro, this is so emotional exhausting. Can’t imagine how she feels about you stalking, simping, and being delusional about their relationship.
stalking and simping ? Yeah right lol I ran into them out of the blue didn’t talk to her over 2 months now and yes idc lol.

im just writing field reports instead of key jockeying like a DJ Aristoteles
 

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This is for @BackInTheGame78 especially due some discussion we had.

What he means is in the core a very good, centered and confident thought, but you shouldn't look at it like that. This forum changed my life because I saw the light in the years lurking and changing my life. I am going to give a shoutout to him because he has major knowledge about women, but we just have a different opinion on this matter.

Backinthegame says you should not impress your ex's, I think you should. Use the negative energy of rejection as fuel to work harder on yourself

I believe any rejection should fuel and energize you to become a better man. Use it to skip the booze, to eat clean, to say no to bad food and hit the gym when you don't feel like going. To wear nice clothes and to be on point with your purpose.

Real life example of last fridayevening

I went to the gym, wore nice fit clothes, had my hair on point and felt great. Been eating well and healthy and going to the gym 6 times a week for months now.

I lost like 8 kg since my ex fvck buddy/date/plate and I stopped seeing eachother, wrote some threads about her.

I walked in the city going to meet with friends and what has God planned for me again. I run into my ex with her new boyfriend (who looks better then her imo).

I am confident but theres a new aura I feel since I am in the best shape of my life and hit it off with higher quality women then I ever imagined I could land and also getting way more chosing signals on the streets because of that.

She walks past me hand in hand with her bf in the street, I see her checking me out from head to toe and back, her body shocks a little and she smiles. I smile back in a flirty way and don't look at her bf and go on.

Obv she liked what she saw, I am better now, looking better and sharper and bet I got her pvssy tingle right there and then on the streets. She even smiled in front of her bf and has to explain that she just smiled to her ex guy to her current bf.

I think she even slept 50 centimeters of him that night, just to process the evening. I know her very well to make that conclusion.

A couple of points.

If she didn't care about me, she would not look at me, or dont smile, or dont check me out or just look at her bf when I pass instead of doing what she did, she couldnt help herself, caught off guard and that gave a lot away.

I don't care about her anymore because I got new options I'm busy with so I just don't feel excited or anything to go to her appartment if she would reach out.

So yes, use the fuel to become better and the by product will be that your ex's will regret to a certain point.

Will she leave her bf or come back? Probably not. Will she reach out if they split up, chances are higher because she thinks, hes different now! Do I want that? Absolutley not, he jizzed her mouth, her cvnt and she slept with his sh*t in her pvssy for 8 hours, gross, I just don't want to hit it after seeing that guy with her.

So the point is, yes become a better man and show it off on social media and make them regret. The purpose is for yourself, but the byproduct is a huge ego booster and even some old pvssy if you feel like it.
The amount of assumptions you make is on a level that is so delusional I don't even know where to begin.
 

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One shouldn't care at all if an ex gives a sh!t about them or not. When it's over, it's over. Never look back or even give them a concern. As Mr. Wonderful says,"you are dead to me" after a failed offer.
Last year I was sexually exclusive with a girl (no label of girlfriend and boyfriend) the only time I think about her is when I use her HBOmaxx (the login still works a year later) the crazy part is, in the last year she hasn't used it. I have watched Harry Potter and House of Dragons with a few different women in the last year. I'm pretty sure she will catch on soon, but hey seeing Dune 2 for free multiple times has been epic!
 

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So the point is, yes become a better man and show it off on social media and make them regret. The purpose is for yourself, but the byproduct is a huge ego booster and even some old pvssy if you feel like it.
The fact that you seek out this ego boost shows that you still haven’t moved on. When you don’t care about a girl, you don’t give a sh!t if she gets wet for you.
 

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The fact that you seek out this ego boost shows that you still haven’t moved on. When you don’t care about a girl, you don’t give a sh!t if she gets wet for you.
Moving on requires letting go. This guy cannot let go.

I was tempted to quote his post and point out all his assumptions and delusions, but I'd be talking to the wall, so I'm just going to enjoy the hilarious updates to come. From a pathological perspective it's pretty interesting still.
 

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Can someone enlighten me here? I feel @TheGambino has some solid points.

He talked about using the break up pain as a fuel for self-improvement. Then becoming the best version of yourself.

By chance his ex saw that, and it was nice to rub it in her face.

He also mentioned that he does not want to get back with her.

What is wrong with that?
 

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I walked in the city going to meet with friends and what has God planned for me again. I run into my ex with her new boyfriend (who looks better then her imo).
Maybe you'd be happier if her BF had glanced at you ;) Who knows what God has planned for you again.
 

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Can someone enlighten me here? I feel @TheGambino has some solid points.

He talked about using the break up pain as a fuel for self-improvement. Then becoming the best version of yourself.

By chance his ex saw that, and it was nice to rub it in her face.

He also mentioned that he does not want to get back with her.

What is wrong with that?
He keeps talking about her. He's defining himself around her, and they're not even together.

But apart from the obsession, yes, solid points in theory.
 

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Be careful not to center your new self around your ex because then you will become “enemy centered”. This is not independence at all. It’s still codependent thinking. You need to completely forget about her and only concentrate on higher principles of self improvement. Basically you have to become “principle centered.”

The fact that you created a thread about this and mentioned your ex means you have not fully become independent of her. True independence has no enemy. It simply exists as a never ending upwards spiral towards greatness.

True independence is a singular focus. Thus, you become a singularity. And only after you’ve achieved true independence can you finally achieve……inter-dependence - a true relationship between two complete people.

Inter-dependence is a choice only independent people can make. It is because they really own 100% of themselves and can give themselves fully into a relationship with no baggage.
 

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Can someone enlighten me here? I feel @TheGambino has some solid points.

He talked about using the break up pain as a fuel for self-improvement. Then becoming the best version of yourself.

By chance his ex saw that, and it was nice to rub it in her face.

He also mentioned that he does not want to get back with her.

What is wrong with that?
He has a very long history of asking for advice when it comes to this girl, not listening to it, doing his own thing, then coming back to ask for advice saying he'll listen this time, and repeating the process.

It probably wouldn't take too much effort to find it, it's several pages long.

For this reason, creating a thread about how he's "over her", yet spends half his post talking about how she's probably thinking about him instead of her boyfriend, and why he wouldn't take her back, means it's very likely he's still not done yet...
 

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This forum changed my life because I saw the light in the years lurking and changing my life.
You are yet to see the light, but still, no cigar my man.

If you 'claim to be a wise man, surely means that you don't know'
I don't care about her anymore because
Hate to break it down to you mate, but you do.

The guys said it already, your post is delusional, and FULL of assumptions.
Let's recall that she DOES NOT GIVE A FLYING FVCK about you.

As a general rule of thumb:

If you are beginning a new thread, you already lost.
 

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Can someone enlighten me here? I feel @TheGambino has some solid points.

He talked about using the break up pain as a fuel for self-improvement. Then becoming the best version of yourself.

By chance his ex saw that, and it was nice to rub it in her face.

He also mentioned that he does not want to get back with her.

What is wrong with that?
Rule 3:
Judge by actions, not by words.

Pay attention to what Gambino is doing, not what he is saying. @BPH already answred your question.
 

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Can someone enlighten me here? I feel @TheGambino has some solid points.

He talked about using the break up pain as a fuel for self-improvement. Then becoming the best version of yourself.

By chance his ex saw that, and it was nice to rub it in her face.

He also mentioned that he does not want to get back with her.

What is wrong with that?
You shouldn't need external motivation for that.

If that's where the motivation comes from and not internally, eventually it will not be enough to keep you going.

You shouldn't need any of that stuff to become the best version of yourself, you should want that because that's something YOU want for yourself.
 

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Hmmm let me think about all of this @Lotus Effect

I surely don’t give a fck about her it’s just my ego is boosted that this happened since she didn’t want to go further as fwbs when i fcked up
 

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You do man.

It is okay to say it.

You will do, until you don't.

But it takes waaaaaaaaay longer than a month or two.

Clara took me 3 years.

Adriana took me pretty much a lifetime.
And, when I was really over, some 10 years later (read it again, ten), she showed up out of the blue and we had a thing. Fvkced me up.
It's been one year today actually.

Guess what? it is still there.

Way way less, but still there. At least now I don't talk about her, and she is not the first thing coming in my mind in the morning.

Took a whole year, and 10 lays to get me to this point.

You will get there eventually. Just do yourself a favor.
Stop talking about it. Focus on yourself. Bang other chicks on the process
 
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