Do your followers ever interact with you on social media ?

[Bingo-Player]

I have around 500 followers on my personal instagram page at least half of them are females I've collected over the years that just seem to be orbiting me

I am moderatley active I will post a couple of stories each week doing a variety of different / interesting things but very very rarely will any of the females ever interact with my content

I've actually stopped adding women on instagram now because after thinking long and hard about it I don't really understand what the purpose of it is anymore ?

Who am I posting the content for ? them or me ?

If it's me then why am I always trying to find the perfect thing for an instagram story / post

And if it's for the followers what is the point when hardly anyone interacts and only watches

I have to admit I really can't understand what the point of social media is anymore

 

[The Duke]

I have around 500 followers on my personal instagram page at least half of them are females I've collected over the years that just seem to be orbiting me

I am moderatley active I will post a couple of stories each week doing a variety of different / interesting things but very very rarely will any of the females ever interact with my content

I've actually stopped adding women on instagram now because after thinking long and hard about it I don't really understand what the purpose of it is anymore ?

Who am I posting the content for ? them or me ?

If it's me then why am I always trying to find the perfect thing for an instagram story / post

And if it's for the followers what is the point when hardly anyone interacts and only watches

I have to admit I really can't understand what the point of social media is anymore

That's a good conclusion to come to. Most post for attention/validation. Me, me, me, me.

 

[Bingo-Player]

That's a good conclusion to come to. Most post for attention/validation. Me, me, me, me.

Which to me would indicate its actually "anti social" media

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I have around 500 followers on my personal instagram page at least half of them are females I've collected over the years that just seem to be orbiting me
I am moderatley active I will post a couple of stories each week doing a variety of different / interesting things but very very rarely will any of the females ever interact with my content

I have some 800+ followers on IG. About 600 of them are women. I don't post weekly, or even monthly. Maybe a photo or poem every few months. I get a lot of messages from women. I never counted them, but I think about 10-15 percent of my followers regularly contact me through IG messaging and most of them are women.

 

[The Duke]

I have some 800+ followers on IG. About 600 of them are women. I don't post weekly, or even monthly. Maybe a photo or poem every few months. I get a lot of messages from women. I never counted them, but I think about 10-15 percent of my followers regularly contact me through IG messaging and most of them are women.

You offer something that the majority of men don't. They always like a man that is unique and stands out from the crowd.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

You offer something that the majority of men don't. They always like a man that is unique and stands out from the crowd.

Not to mention having the ability to hold interesting conversations on interesting topics.

 

[Gamisch]

Recently someone made a thread about how to Instagram or something like that. I didn't know what to tell him. Instagram is great when you are a man who is active, takes lots of vacations ,loves his family yadiya.

If you dont have to many skeletons you're hiding ( such as being broke, having lack of social circle in any form, having no good pictures and nothing going on) ,then it's or can be basically a more robust version of a dating app, or I'd say if OLD is your intro then Instagram can be your actual movie.


Instagram ( like the gym) is something that few people love to do, and many despise it despite being a part of it. Dude just made this thread right?

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To me that makes sense. If you are that dude who is everywhere doing fancy shyte, might as well document it especially if you wanna OLD.

 

[Gamisch]

You offer something that the majority of men don't. They always like a man that is unique and stands out from the crowd.

And to answer your question: THIS is imo a better way. Offer something unique that basically forces you to post and be on social media. Being a specialist at whatever can already be a reason to do so. Or running business and having the need to connect with people.

I organize live music events and that allows me to Use Instagram with a clear purpose. Or post even pictures of myself in nothing but social settings. On top of that, if a woman insists on getting my instagram for whatever reason I use this as a disguise.

Just use it for something that's not specifically about you, although it shows you .

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Instagram is great when you are a man who is active, takes lots of vacations ,loves his family yadiya.

It's also great if you're an artist to post your portfolio online.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Just use it for something that's not specifically about you, although it shows you .

This.

If it's too much like 'you in front of a waterfall', 'you in front of a lambo', 'you in front of the Taj Mahal', everyone knows you're posing for validation.

 

[The Duke]

Not to mention having the ability to hold interesting conversations on interesting topics.

I wish more guys understood how important conversation is to women.

 

[parabellum]

I have around 500 followers on my personal instagram page at least half of them are females I've collected over the years that just seem to be orbiting me

I am moderatley active I will post a couple of stories each week doing a variety of different / interesting things but very very rarely will any of the females ever interact with my content

I've actually stopped adding women on instagram now because after thinking long and hard about it I don't really understand what the purpose of it is anymore ?

Who am I posting the content for ? them or me ?

If it's me then why am I always trying to find the perfect thing for an instagram story / post

And if it's for the followers what is the point when hardly anyone interacts and only watches

I have to admit I really can't understand what the point of social media is anymore

my answer would be for them, and for you too.

for them because you’re giving them gossip content (either good or bad) which is the point of IG

for you because you’re validating yourself/making an statement with what you post

in other words, if you post awesome stuff the masses are going to think that your life is awesome and either like you more or hate you more.

also to your other questions, I used to get likes from both men and women when I posted states and posts.

 

[hellonwheels]

I have to admit I really can't understand what the point of social media is anymore

I just have Instagram and use it as a creative outlet for memories (mainly hiking/moto trip pics) to look back on. Shedded a bunch of followers that I picked up (similar count to you) when I moved from LA to Midwest a few yrs back. Only view family and close friends that I actually interact with - and those are the only ppl I care about seeing the minimal posts I ever make.

Believe that those who are on it too much, or view people’s stories that don’t actually interact with them are kind of losers.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Mine is kind of like a mini vlog I moved from the UK to Australia in February so I have been documenting that ,

For the first month I posted like 3-4 times a week with some moderate engagement but I think people were just trying too live their lives through me at least thats what it felt like anyway .......

I have taken a step back from it now because it is time consuming and recording and presenting yourself is not easy

There is that overarching temptation to just completely delete it and live a simple life

But there is also that temptation to try and leverage the attention thats on there into something

Wether that be social proof or a business venture .......it is by far the fastest and most efficient way to build an online enterprise

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Like I said above I've come to the conclusion now that as far as dating and meeting women goes its a black hole

Women like mysterious men and theres nothing really mysterious about instagram its just an easy way for her to reassure herself she did the right thing in disqualifying you for whatever reason

I think thats the trap myself and many other men have fallen into , we add these women on instagram thinking that they are interested in us

They aren't really interested though they just want to keep an eye on you after they ghost or flake on you.

like "has he found a better woman than me yet ? ..... no ......ok that's fine I made the right decision"

" Has he become a millionaire yet ?.... no.....ok that's fine I made the right decision "

I think there is a hell of a lot of this ^^^^^^ going on

I can practically guarantee if i started posting photos with some celebrities and i gained 10K followers within a short time frame these same women would be interacting with every single thing I posted

Like I said its a game

 

[hellonwheels]

They're not orbiting you, you're orbiting there, don't be fooled into thinking women on your social media will want to fvck you, they're there just for the attention and validation of "this many people follow me" therefore I feel important.


Cause you do it for validation, you do it so people will know how "great" your life is, so you feel better about yourself.



Social medis is for women to post $hit and feel good when orbiters interact, its actually the only thing that social media is for.

Men don't feel good posting $hit and people liking his $hit, men feel good accomplishing things, overcoming challenges, not receiving likes from social media.

Men today are raised to be defective women

I get what you’re saying but this sounds like a cope for a guy that’s not successful with social media. You can flip that same script on attention/validation seeking for almost anything.

like saying - “Dressing nice is women $hit behavior and only seeking validation from strangers that don’t know you” and “lifting is only about lifting heavy, not about vanity and showing off how good your physique is”.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

I have around 500 followers on my personal instagram page at least half of them are females I've collected over the years that just seem to be orbiting me

I am moderatley active I will post a couple of stories each week doing a variety of different / interesting things but very very rarely will any of the females ever interact with my content

I've actually stopped adding women on instagram now because after thinking long and hard about it I don't really understand what the purpose of it is anymore ?

Who am I posting the content for ? them or me ?

If it's me then why am I always trying to find the perfect thing for an instagram story / post

And if it's for the followers what is the point when hardly anyone interacts and only watches

I have to admit I really can't understand what the point of social media is anymore

Social media is a fvcking waste of your time and you could spend your time way better by doing stuff that makes you move forward in life.
In the end of the day you are communicating on social media with strangers that do not give a fvck about you or your precious time which you never will get back. Unless you're not selling something where you can gain personally from it - dump the social media bs.

My 5 cents tho.

 

[Clockwerk50]

About 2 years ago I had a girl that complained to me why I don’t write back on her stories after I told her I saw them and she looked good.

I guess the point of social media is attention and validation.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

Being a follower is a must for some people, you can carry on with your life being just another face, speaking a set of words and resembling actions that can be repeated and replicated by any other person chasing the popularity game and trying to feel important. That is, after-all. is what social media and instagram is.

But I'll say this. Let's take two different men:

If one man has 20k instagram followers, spending his days and nights running dating apps, scraping yoga studios, following and unfollowing, buying likes, archiving and reposting traveling photos, constantly whxring out his story status, doing number closes, instagram closes or whatever, trying to demonstrate value and popularity.

and you give me another man who simply walks into a cafe, store or social event and says to the lonely Latina in the corner " Hey, look, you're absolutely beautiful and tomorrow after work, I'm going to be at that Ben and Jerry's ice cream shop across the street having a ice cream, I think I'm going to do one scoop of pistachio in a waffle cone, and you know what, you should come help me eat that scoop of ice cream.

That second man will not only have a happier and more fulfilling life, he will go to his grave knowing that he held the cards, he wrote the rules, and he was in a league of his own that no book or forum post could ever explain.

Notches and numbers aren't everything, homie. It's only a per-requisite to get to the second chapter of game and the second chapter of figuring out who you are and what you are worth. None of us have things figured out, the world is cruel, people are broken, and we lose the ones we love the most to black death and suffering but molding who you really are in order to be accepted by others is not the way to live a happy life. That natural way for a man is to always be satisfied with himself.
The only way to do that is to design a life around the things that make you happy and writing your own script. The moment you begin to see instagram as a necessity and a permanent thing revolving around likes and false impressions in order to get laid, is the moment your life will become lifeless.