What do you guys do when...

[thatfeel]

...you meet up with a girl and she's completely smitten with you. Let's pretend for the sake of this thread that the girl is pretty decent, shares similar interests/qualities, and gives you the mike adriano treatment on the D. Literally matched with her on an app, we chatted via a discord call, and then I went to her apartment all same day and stayed over.

I'm not necessarily used to receiving the adoration of every girl I meet so it always makes me hesitant but I don't want to pass on something that could turn out to be legitimately good quality.

My knee jerk opinion is this specific girl will fall for any guy that she "hits it off with" but I don't necessarily think that should exclude her from being potential LTR material.

What are ya'll's opinions and experiences?

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

Don't overthink it. If you're interested, spend time with her and ask questions. If you later realize it's not a match, kindly express that and move on.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

You might want to find out first if she's not narcissistically 'love-bombing' you before you conclude she's 'smitten'.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

...you meet up with a girl and she's completely smitten with you. Let's pretend for the sake of this thread that the girl is pretty decent, shares similar interests/qualities, and gives you the mike adriano treatment on the D. Literally matched with her on an app, we chatted via a discord call, and then I went to her apartment all same day and stayed over.

I'm not necessarily used to receiving the adoration of every girl I meet so it always makes me hesitant but I don't want to pass on something that could turn out to be legitimately good quality.

My knee jerk opinion is this specific girl will fall for any guy that she "hits it off with" but I don't necessarily think that should exclude her from being potential LTR material.

What are ya'll's opinions and experiences?

Slow down man.

You know NOTHING about that woman.

Before you talk about passing on her or if shes LTR material or not, date her for a couple of months, if she is really interested.

Also, dont get excited or show to much enthusiasm about her. She might get the impression you fell for her and you dont want that.

Play it cool and see if she fits your frame.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Congrats on the Same Night Lay, bro. My advice is dont give her exclusivity, plate status only /recreational use only.

 

[greatsnake]

If she is being aggressive, escalate so you get laid. That’s the only way to know if she really into you that much.

 

[Bingo-Player]

You might want to find out first if she's not narcissistically 'love-bombing' you before you conclude she's 'smitten'.

I had a girl like this last year , on the surface is seemed like she was crazy about me and I guess she technically was

But after a few weeks when we scratched beneath the surface she was very very emotionally and psychologically damaged she had multiple personalities and was living a dual life as a sugar baby escort

It was my first experience of love bombing and not one I wish to repeat

 

[Bingo-Player]

Just to add you need to be very very careful with OLD girls most are on there for good reason I am yet to meet a quality woman thats constantly available on a Swipe app

I've seen profiles in a few areas which seem to have been around for YEARS

there are very very few valid reasons as to why a grounded and attractive woman who has self esteem and confidence would need to be on a swipe app

Be very very careful

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

It was my first experience of love bombing and not one I wish to repeat

Love-bombing is par for the course with NPD and BPD personality types. I've had several in my lifetime and a lot of my clientele has these traits, so I'm always alert on this type of behaviour.
Another thing is that 'smitten' isn't 'love' but 'infatuation', it's like lusting after a celebrity. These people get dopamine rushes from being near you and they associate that with 'love', while it's more 'lust'.

 

[thatfeel]

Good stuff guys. The love bombing takes are particularly interesting.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This chick is for recreation only. Do not allow easy sex to let you consider a low quality woman for an LTR or you will regret it in short order.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Good stuff guys. The love bombing takes are particularly interesting.

I guess you already figured something was wrong with her being 'smitten' so quickly.

 

[thatfeel]

I guess you already figured something was wrong with her being 'smitten' so quickly.

I just feel uncomfortable being so adored when I haven't really given her any reason to be other than being nice (not in a "nice guy" way but in a "i'm not an a$$hole" way). It's definitely a subconscious ick. She has some past issues (and current ones if we want to be pedantic) but otherwise seems okay as a person.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

It's definitely a subconscious ick.

Your subconscious is warning you that the exaggeration is an extension of some buried trauma. I don't get uncomfortable anymore, because I treat women who use these (unconscious) tactics, so I'm inundated.