Is it worth going to nice weddings for poon ?

[FlexpertHamilton]

A good buddy of mine is having a wedding but it's pretty far away and it'll probably run me at least $500 round trip for everything. One of my other friends who lives close by might be going too, so we may be able split some of the costs, but still, mehh.

In movies, like Wedding Crashers, or even more serious films, weddings are seen as a place to get easy poon and find lovers and network/socialize. I'm sure this isn't true unless it's one of those extravagent weddings with 200+ people and an open bar.

I've only been to 1 wedding in my life (my Mother's which was brief remarriage) - it was dreadfully boring and drab. Part of my idealistic mind is thinking of going to a nice wedding and having a transformative experience, but another part of me thinks that's naive wishful thinking to expect so much and might be the last remnants of blue pill ideology in me.

For the record, I'm 90% leaning towards no, even if money weren't an issue.

 

[SW15]

In movies, like Wedding Crashers, or even more serious films, weddings are seen as a place to get easy poon and find lovers and network/socialize. I'm sure this isn't true unless it's one of those extravagent weddings with 200+ people and an open bar.

I wrote a post in 2021 specifically about why Wedding Crashers was an unrealistic movie. In general, weddings usually are not a good place for pickup. Most weddings are not going to result in you getting either same night sex or even getting a first date after the wedding.

It is important to consider that in weddings 2010-present, the marrying couple is much older than they used to be and that their social circles are also older. At 2010 and later weddings, the typical 27-33 year old wedding attendee is coming to the wedding with their significant other. A decline in marriage rates does not equate into a decline in couplehood.

"Wedding Crashers" Would Never Happen in Real Life

The 2005 movie "Wedding Crashers" could never happen at weddings in from 2010-present. In fact, I would say that it was far fetched and detached from reality even in 2005. The main reason that "Wedding Crashers" could never happen 2010-present is that people get married much later in life now...

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I also found a 2nd thread about wedding pickups from 2022 and I dropped some good knowledge in this one too.

How to pick up girls at a Wedding?

I have a friend whose getting married on the 10th of December and he’ll likely have a couple of eligible maidens for the occasion. If you were invited and going solo, or with a male friend, what are some good opportunities to approach and strike a conversation with someone you like? I know...

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A good buddy of mine is having a wedding but it's pretty far away and it'll probably run me at least $500 round trip for everything. One of my other friends who lives close by might be going too, so we may be able split some of the costs, but still, mehh.

It's a non-local wedding so it's high effort for you. Local weddings are less effort. Often with local weddings, you'll have a better chance of getting poon if you went to a random local bar on a Saturday night as compared to the local Saturday night wedding reception.

If you want to spend $500 to travel somewhere, go to Las Vegas, go to some random nightlife venue near The Strip, and try to get drunk tourist poon. That's a better use of $500.

I'm 90% leaning towards no, even if money weren't an issue.

This is good thinking. You'd be wise if you took it to 100%.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

My friend who's getting married is very social and I can imagine it being filled with mostly 30 somethings and plenty of hot young women too. It has a very nice location too. But yeah, I think a wedding is one of the last remaining vestiges of blue pilled fantasy that I have left in me.

 

[SW15]

My friend who's getting married is very social and I can imagine it being filled with mostly 30 somethings and plenty of hot young women too. But yeah, I think a wedding is one of the last remaining vestiges of blue pilled fantasy that I have left in me.

Most of the 30 somethings at this wedding will be coupled up. As for the under 30 women, some of them will be in relationships too and not open to new penis. You'd have to research the audience attending. I did some of that with some of the weddings I was invited to over the years.

Wedding game seems more like a Boomer or Gen X'er thing.

I have some data points from TheKnot's 2016 wedding survey, a survey of 13,000 brides who got married in 2016.

https://www.theknot.com/content/wedding-guest-hookups

In 2016, 19 percent of newlyweds reported that some of their guests hooked up during or after their wedding. That could be either a post wedding reception hookup or something like a phone number exchange followed by dates later. 4% reported that guests who met at their 2016 wedding are were in a a committed relationship at some point post-wedding. I'd guess most of those "hookups" were one night only.

If you look at that pool of 19% hooking up as a result of wedding attendance, I would guess that most of those hookups occurred at weddings when the bride's age was 26 or under. If a bride is 27+, she simply doesn't have enough friends in her social circle that are unattached.

I skipped the "couples fest" weddings I skipped not just because they were couples fests. There were instances of "couple fest" weddings I skipped because they were going to be all couples AND required me to travel to them. That's so not worth it.

Later in life (age 28+) first marriages or 2nd/3rd marriages have a mostly shiit pool of attendees. The younger the bride, the better than chances for unattached female attendees. 27-28+ brides just don't have social circles that are good for wedding hookups.

I think unattached women are less likely to skip a "couples fest" wedding of their female friend than unattached men are to skip a "couples fest" wedding of their male friend.

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

A good buddy of mine is having a wedding but it's pretty far away and it'll probably run me at least $500 round trip for everything. One of my other friends who lives close by might be going too, so we may be able split some of the costs, but still, mehh.

In movies, like Wedding Crashers, or even more serious films, weddings are seen as a place to get easy poon and find lovers and network/socialize. I'm sure this isn't true unless it's one of those extravagent weddings with 200+ people and an open bar.

I've only been to 1 wedding in my life (my Mother's which was brief remarriage) - it was dreadfully boring and drab. Part of my idealistic mind is thinking of going to a nice wedding and having a transformative experience, but another part of me thinks that's naive wishful thinking to expect so much and might be the last remnants of blue pill ideology in me.

For the record, I'm 90% leaning towards no, even if money weren't an issue.

How close are you to the person getting married? If this is a dear friend or someone you want to maintain a strong relationship with, your presence might mean a lot to them (and to you in retrospect).