She said "I love you"

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she said i love you for the first time in bed.

She said it twice (the second time was when we did it again later)

Does it mean anything?
 

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Not a thing.
 

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Words are nice, actions are better. Could have been said in the heat of passion.
 

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I had a girl start telling me that, and it started in the bedroom. Just tell her she is sweet if she keeps doing it. Don't feel compelled to ever say it back. I went 1.5yrs not saying it back. If anything it keeps that hamster wheel spinning to your advantage. It's ok to be a dihk. Stay true to yourself.
 

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Pierce's Rule #1: Never believe a g0ddamned word a woman says in the heat of passion.

"I love you"
"I don't ever do this!"
"No one has ever done THAT!"
"You're the biggest I've ever had!"
"I've never come so much!"
Damn. That is absolutely brutal. But come to think of it, it's the truth.

She really does do that often but she likes you a lot so she wants you to think more highly of her.

How do you proceed in those cases?
 

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Damn. That is absolutely brutal. But come to think of it, it's the truth.

She really does do that often but she likes you a lot so she wants you to think more highly of her.

How do you proceed in those cases?
If you read a totally random man or men proclaiming these things and they sound familiar it’s because women deploy these often, and by nature.

I do not believe they mean to lie, to them it may be true in that moment, it’s all she can think of because she’s into you. To her it’s a way to be intimate and show you how much she likes you and is enjoying what you share.

But like with most things related to women it is conditional - they are fickle and no sturdier than a blade of grass in the wind.

Women are for the most part emotional creatures that act in the moment - it’s the reason a man that knows how to control and exploit those emotions can get a woman to bend to his will.
 

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Pierce's Rule #1: Never believe a g0ddamned word a woman says in the heat of passion.

"I love you"
"I don't ever do this!"
"No one has ever done THAT!"
"You're the biggest I've ever had!"
"I've never come so much!"
"Be gentle with me."
"I like sensitive men."
"Pain is temporary; glory is forever."
 

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she said i love you for the first time in bed.

She said it twice (the second time was when we did it again later)

Does it mean anything?
Yeah, run because based on the timeline of your posts you could have only dated this women for like 3 weeks tops.
 

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That depends on a few factors. For example, is she criminally insane?
Well, she has a Masters in accounting, holds a high-level position at her company and is charismatic.

As I was leaving her apartment I also saw she had a prescription for something. I tried to distract her to go to the kitchen or something but failed, she wouldn't leave my side lol. I'll have to find out sooner or later.

I really hope it's not anti-depressants because that will just end it for me.
 

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she said i love you for the first time in bed.

She said it twice (the second time was when we did it again later)

Does it mean anything?
Women confuse lust and infatuation with love.

She might actually love you. If she does, that’s nice, but from what you write on here, I guess it’s not reciprocated.

Is this a “girlfriend” or someone you want to form a family with?
 

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Women confuse lust and infatuation with love.

She might actually love you. If she does, that’s nice, but from what you write on here, I guess it’s not reciprocated.

Is this a “girlfriend” or someone you want to form a family with?
So far, I haven't seen any red flags. I am interested because by the 3rd date usually at least one pops up...

No-Nos
[ ] Tattoos. Female beauty is not to be tainted.
[ ] Clingy and insecure. If you don't feel like you deserve my love, you should love yourself first.
[ ] Has children. Not interested in baggage and/or raising someone else's children.
[ ] Drug and/or alcohol abuser. Escapism with substances will only make you more miserable the next morning.
[ ] Negative. By focusing on what you don't want, you will attract that object. The positive feedback loop yields an undesirable life.
[ ] Deceptive. This trait, in a female, in a relationship, is rooted in insecurity, resistance and low self-esteem.
[ ] Irresponsible. Throws caution to the wind with disregard to the consequences, concern of others (particularly her partner) and the future. Ties with impulsivity and lack of foresight.

Not a single one of these yet. In every single date she has one drink and only drinks water after, even when i offer her another drink. Thats a big plus for me.

Her apartment is in a high-rise and well-ordered. She has a positive attitude and is catholic, etc.

The only idiosyncracy is that "I don't do this often" comment but it's not a red flag for me.
 

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Well, she has a Masters in accounting, holds a high-level position at her company and is charismatic.

As I was leaving her apartment I also saw she had a prescription for something. I tried to distract her to go to the kitchen or something but failed, she wouldn't leave my side lol. I'll have to find out sooner or later.

I really hope it's not anti-depressants because that will just end it for me.
Maybe it’s azithromycin ;)
 

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So far, I haven't seen any red flags. I am interested because by the 3rd date usually at least one pops up...

No-Nos
[ ] Tattoos. Female beauty is not to be tainted.
[ ] Clingy and insecure. If you don't feel like you deserve my love, you should love yourself first.
[ ] Has children. Not interested in baggage and/or raising someone else's children.
[ ] Drug and/or alcohol abuser. Escapism with substances will only make you more miserable the next morning.
[ ] Negative. By focusing on what you don't want, you will attract that object. The positive feedback loop yields an undesirable life.
[ ] Deceptive. This trait, in a female, in a relationship, is rooted in insecurity, resistance and low self-esteem.
[ ] Irresponsible. Throws caution to the wind with disregard to the consequences, concern of others (particularly her partner) and the future. Ties with impulsivity and lack of foresight.

Not a single one of these yet. In every single date she has one drink and only drinks water after, even when i offer her another drink. Thats a big plus for me.

Her apartment is in a high-rise and well-ordered. She has a positive attitude and is catholic, etc.

The only idiosyncracy is that "I don't do this often" comment but it's not a red flag for me.
OK, got it.

What are your intentions with her?
 

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Well, she has a Masters in accounting, holds a high-level position at her company and is charismatic.

As I was leaving her apartment I also saw she had a prescription for something. I tried to distract her to go to the kitchen or something but failed, she wouldn't leave my side lol. I'll have to find out sooner or later.

I really hope it's not anti-depressants because that will just end it for me.
The wonderful thing about a woman with a master's degree is that she pays her own bills and doesn't need your money. Oh wait, you live in America... a master's degree means she's going to be even more greedy.

Rather than going though her medicine cabinet you should just ask her outright which STDs and mental disorders she has.
 
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