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What Are The Green Flags You Look For In A Keeper?

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What top six qualities would you look for in order to take her seriously for LTR.
1.- She was a virgin when you met her. Cant find one or dont believe its possible, replace with less than 4 notch count.
2.- Parents still together BUT the dad calls the shots in the house.
3.- Not a feminist.
4.- She already knows how to behave, you rarely have to tell her your boundaries.
5.- She respects you, admires you, and looks up to you. She follows your lead and goes to the gym
6.- Genuine desire for you.

Its like looking for a needle in a haystack. Best of luck brother.
 

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1.- She was a virgin when you met her. Cant find one or dont believe its possible, replace with less than 4 notch count.
2.- Parents still together BUT the dad calls the shots in the house.
3.- Not a feminist.
4.- She already knows how to behave, you rarely have to tell her your boundaries.
5.- She respects you, admires you, and looks up to you. She follows your lead and goes to the gym
6.- Genuine desire for you.

Its like looking for a needle in a haystack. Best of luck brother.
Great list man... You know which one I believe is the most important one from your list? Number 2
 

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Great list man... You know which one I believe is the most important one from your list? Number 2
I dont know if its always the case but many years ago I dated a girl whose mom called all the shots in the house. She was crazy, It didnt work out.
 

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I dont know if its always the case but many years ago I dated a girl whose mom called all the shots in the house. She was crazy, It didnt work out.
That's exactly why it didn't work out.. The girls that come from homes, where daddy isn't about or daddy is a beta, and mom runs things.. Those chicks are the most masculine, the craziest and the most permiscues.
 

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1.- She was a virgin when you met her. Cant find one or dont believe its possible, replace with less than 4 notch count.
2.- Parents still together BUT the dad calls the shots in the house.
3.- Not a feminist.
4.- She already knows how to behave, you rarely have to tell her your boundaries.
5.- She respects you, admires you, and looks up to you. She follows your lead and goes to the gym
6.- Genuine desire for you.

Its like looking for a needle in a haystack. Best of luck brother.
Your number 1 is really important.
If a woman is into you she can still play the submissive role. Her being submissive doesn’t mean she’s wifey material. If she had 20 guys it’s more likely that she will replace you when things get difficult or she had enough of you.
 

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Your number 1 is really important.
If a woman is into you she can still play the submissive role. Her being submissive doesn’t mean she’s wifey material. If she had 20 guys it’s more likely that she will replace you when things get difficult or she had enough of you.
Yeh body count is important.. If she had a high body count, it's more likely she will jump onto the next dik, when things get difficult.
 

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  1. She's a terrible liar.
  2. She has a conscience.
  3. She cooperates, doesn't necessarily yield to your way, but seeks to find a solution that will work for both.
  4. She has the sense to not keep bad influences around.
  5. She clearly enjoys being with YOU, not your wallet, your car, your house, your status or just your body, YOU.
  6. She's a terrible liar.
 

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  1. She's a terrible liar.
  2. She has a conscience.
  3. She cooperates, doesn't necessarily yield to your way, but seeks to find a solution that will work for both.
  4. She has the sense to not keep bad influences around.
  5. She clearly enjoys being with YOU, not your wallet, your car, your house, your status or just your body, YOU.
  6. She's a terrible liar.

Number 5 is a big one.
 

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If you add in some of your "green flags" (married parents, not psychotic, etc.) some of you guys are fighting for less than 1% of the population.

 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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- empathetic
- understanding
- supportive
- structured
- able to stand her ground against me
- has a conscience
- I'm her first choice and she's willing to make sacrifices for me
 

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These are great things to look out for in an LTR, hower finding these qualities in a girl you met online is almost impossible.

And in chicks in 2023 are unlikely tick all those boxes either.

I suppose the question is, which bad habits or red flags would you be willing to tolerate?

Considering that unicorn type of woman doesn't exist.
 

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I agree with the lists y’all made. Loyalty as @alvinkels stated is very important however you must be a man who is capable of leading and you must be someone she is willing to submit to, willing to follow, happy to please.

Never make the mistake of thinking just because you are male any woman should submit to you. You must create in yourself to be a man worthy of a good woman’s submission.

Not every man deserves loyalty. Be one who is worthy.
 

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Never make the mistake of thinking just because you are male any woman should submit to you. You must create in yourself to be a man worthy of a good woman’s submission.
I've always said that one of the big reasons why males lost the leadership position they had in the '50s was that they failed to be good leaders. Too much cheating, alcoholism, and abusive behavior. They were not good stewards of their position.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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This is true. No porn and no masturbation is a good life practice and I recommend it. It will have some positive effects but it doesn't make a man extremely irresistible to women and a master seducer.
No nutting can give some men the energy and confidence to go out into the real world and actually interact with REAL women that they normally wouldn't otherwise have. This is why I practice it and recommend it.

When you make it a goal to never masturbate and only release your seed during sex.. suddenly you find yourself having sex more.
 

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No nutting can give some men the energy and confidence to go out into the real world and actually interact with REAL women that they normally wouldn't otherwise have. This is why I practice it and recommend it.

When you make it a goal to never masturbate and only release your seed during sex.. suddenly you find yourself having sex more.
This.. I feel much more motivated to talk to girls, cold approach.. It's the only option you have considering fapping is out of the picture & so is P0rn.
 

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I suppose the question is, which bad habits or red flags would you be willing to tolerate?
None that would be in conflict with the green flags I listed at the very least.

Red flags are red flags. A red flag to me is something that just isn't tolerable and sustainable for a relationship of any kind.

I can take a few minor bad habits, but that would be something trivial that I only find slightly annoying, not anything that would compromise the entire integrity of a relationship.
 

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When you make it a goal to never masturbate and only release your seed during sex.. suddenly you find yourself having sex more.
How is this supposed to happen? Will hot women magically knock on your door and offer sex just because you stopped masturbating? :rolleyes:
This.. I feel much more motivated to talk to girls, cold approach.. It's the only option you have considering fapping is out of the picture & so is P0rn.
From talking to girls/cold approaching to sex with them there's quite a jump. And if you specifically approach because you're horny, they will sense that and the already low odds of something happening will become even lower.
IMO this current anti masturbating movement is one of the dumbest ideas there are out there. It's even dumber than the old, religious motivated one. It's a totally natural urge to unload, particularly if you're a healthy, fit male and it makes absolutely no logical sense to fight against it. There are no benefits, only downsides, as for instance distracting you from your daily activities and potentially turning you into a creep who harasses women in order to obtain sex.
 
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How is this supposed to happen? Will hot women magically knock on your door and offer sex just because you stopped masturbating? :rolleyes:

From talking to girls/cold approaching to sex with them there's quite a jump. And if you specifically approach because you're horny, they will sense that and the already low odds of something happening will become even lower.
IMO this current anti masturbating movement is one of the dumbest ideas there are out there. It's even dumber than the old, religious motivated one. It's a totally natural urge to unload, particularly if you're a healthy, fit male and it makes absolutely no logical sense to fight against it. There are no benefits, only downsides, as for instance distracting you from your daily activities and potentially turning you into a creep who harasses women in order to obtain sex.
@pipeman84 other than your views on virgins, I agree with virtually everything you post including this^ post.

I actually recall a time not too long ago when a man was advised "to" masturbate before a date so as to NOT appear so thirsty and anxious. And to last longer whenever sex did happen.

What happened? Now it's ditch masturbating altogether?

Common sense dictates not masturbating will result in you becoming more thirsty and @pipeman84 is right, women can and will sense that thirst and deem you a creep.

It also relieves tension and anxiety, serves as a natural sleep aid and will actually give you more energy as you're sleeping better, naturally.

I dunno, don't mean to invalidate your experiences with no fap but I’m wondering if it's similar to a placebo effect.

Everything in moderation.
 
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