r you are flirting with her and she doesn't know how to flirt back so she plays this passive "hide my feelings towards him role and hope he keeps giving me attention and it leads to something"--while you are primed and ready to just make moves and make things happen. This to me is also a huge sign of INCOMPATIBILITY. There's 2 diff mindframes going on here/2 diff levels of experience/anxiety/confidence surrounding dating/etc.
<-- This is what this thread is about.
Im gonna play devils advocate here and lean in towards evolutionary psychology, because it's an established science that factually explains why people do what they did and the framework we are building on top of today.
Simply put, the only thing that would make a man and woman incompatible is when the man is not a protector or a provider, that is all, like you guys aren't gonna spend every waking moment together, you aren't working together, most guys here agree you wanna spend about 2 days a week with an LTR woman, that being the weekend or maybe weeknights.
Sure, a woman can provide for and protect herself today, but just because she can do those things for herself does not mean this is gonna rewrite hundreds of thousands of years of genetic conditioning, I would call it a foundation, but it's not even that, this is all that attraction is, whatever is built on top of this is only existing because this was here before it.
With this being said, the only thing a woman could find attractive are men that further her own goals through, because even though all women possess that same conditioned foundation, they possess different goals to achieve this and society has recognized this, interfaced with this and tolerated this, like for example the way society treats a woman who gets paid alimony versus a man who is paid alimony... Is it the women who complain about a man being paid alimony? No, typically it is other men and here in lay the giant blind spot in your theory here, that it aims to explain the behavior of women, but it does not explain the behavior of the man.. I would say there is an inherent relationship between what men and women do at the highest levels of attraction, it's not a choice, it's genetic engineering essentially.
GGenetic engineering, but here is the thing: Women seek quality, because they can only have 1 baby at a time usually, where as men, we can have as many as our options allow us to, this also plays into the genetic conditioning we've been subject to for hundreds of thousands of years, point being women want access to the higher tiers of masculinity, even if they don't want kids, again, just because they don't want kids does not make this invalid or non-existent, it is still beneath the surface at all times.
Any idea that interfaces with this foundation, that sits on top of it, it just must satisfy the foundation, it must, if it comes into conflict with it, it will not exist for long.
To suggest incompatibility between a man and a woman, this isn't something that can exist without sitting on the foundation of masculinity and feminity, a biological Incongruence, a vibe, a feel, chemistry, these things are not individual, these things are pieces of a whole, when you have it, you just have it, your compatible with like 99% of women, when you don't have it, the only reason you aren't compatible is because the woman isn't satisfied and for us to invest a bunch of time in a woman when she can be biologically satisfied by a man in 2 minutes, it just doesn't make sense for us to continue to chase after her for years when she's just after a 2 minute window.
So even though, fundamentally, we are in agreeance, you are also trying to bring the individual into this when the individual has no place in this conversation at all. She's after the whole package, don't kid yourself.
