So this article is lying?
A Pew Research Center survey found that 30 percent of them identified as single, but when broken down by age group and gender, 63 percent of men between the ages of 18 to 29 reported being alone.
www.dailymail.co.uk
If not lying, then who are the 70% of women dating, when only 40% of men are in relationships? The numbers should obviously match. 70% of women are in relationships... 70% of men should be in relationships.. But only 40% of men are in relationships.
People are not pairing off correctly. Why are 70% of women going after only 40% of the men? We can only rationally assume these men have higher smv then most of the 70% of these women. It's not mathmatically possible for any other explaination.
Quick demonstration. Lets assume only 10 men and 10 women exist. The men are ranked from 1 to 10. The women are also ranked from 1 to 10. If 7 of the women are dating only 4 of the men, that means a lot of these women will have SMV lower than the 4 men. It's just math.
In other words, there are quite a few women dating higher than their rankings. The old pump and dump by chad. There is no other real conclusion...
Top tier men are monopolizing and using a different definition for relationship.
A woman who is a 6 is having sex with a man who is an 9. It happens all the time. She thinks she's in a relationship with him when she's just one plate in a rotation. The 9 enjoys the sex with the 6 and then moves on to have sex with his other plates.
Meanwhile, men in the 5.5 - 6.5 range are getting shut out from getting into a relationship with that 6. The men in that range would have sex with her AND commit to her more meaningfully. Today, it's common to see more and more lower tier men shut out of the sexual marketplace. The 50th percentile guy today is virtually ignored by the 50th percentile woman, unless they happen to have a social circle connection in common, and even then she's not thrilled about having to settle for him.
This is why it is said that women would rather share a top tier man (typically called alpha) than have exclusivity with a lower value man (typically called beta).
I believe it is naturally tempting for familiarity of comfort and conforming to social norms to date within your demographic. With that said, there are plenty of young guys that would happily bang any hot cougar that offered. The frightening popularity of the "step-mom" genre on dirty websites, leads me to believe that many desire such an encounter.
Dating within your demographic is the easiest thing to do in a lot of cases. There are multiple demographic factors. The most common ones are age and race/ethnicity.
Age: Younger men have it easier in terms of access and quantity. When a man is roughly 18-29, he has access to the most unmarried women possible. That doesn't mean everything, but it is a good thing. A lot of those 18-29s will be in a relationship and not open to new penis at the moment he approaches in real life. It's easier to approach in real life too. From ages 21-29, the bars are filled with similarly aged women in similar stages of life. Social circle setups are also easier. On the swipe apps, there's also a lot of quantity in the same age range and women tend to choose someone similarly aged on the swipe apps with the abundance they have.
Things become more complicated for most men somewhere in their 30s, especially the 35-39 range. In their 30s, it becomes more difficult to men to be taken seriously by women in their 20s. The larger the age gap, the more likely a man needs to be an outlier type case to be considered. For men 33+ seeking a woman 10+ years younger, he's probably going to need money to get serious consideration for this type of relationship. Most men don't have enough money to impress a woman 10+ years younger.
Men in their 30s may not spend time in same places in real life as women in their 20s, reducing the chances of an interaction. This is more likely the case for men with children than childless men. A childless man in his 30s can live a lifestyle similar to a 20 something woman with freedom. This might enable a real life interaction to happen, but that doesn't mean the real life interaction will result in a first date or an extended relationship. Most of those interactions will be meaningless. This gets even worse for men 40+ seeking interactions with women 10+ years younger.
Additionally, men 35+ are very unlikely to get swiped right on by women in their 20s. Men in their low 30s can get right swipes from women in their late 20s but right swipes with a 5+ year age gap are less common. Those match percentages are low.
What do men do with regard to age in their 30s/40s with these obstacles? Men will usually do things to reduce the age gap. They'll settle for women close to their own age to increase the probability of a successful match, either on the apps or in real life. This is more commonly happening on the apps and needs no explanation but I'll explain what a 30s/40s man would do in real life to reduce the age gap. The most common tactic that a 30s/40s man would use in real life would be going to a nightlife venue with similarly aged women. In bigger cities, there are nightlife venues that tend to be frequented by 30+ women. There are a few non-bar tactics that 30s/40s men to meet 30+ women, but these are more challenging to implement and are marginally effective at best.
Race/Ethnicity: Generally speaking, it is easier to date within your own ethnicity/race than outside of it.
I can elaborate on my specific experiences as a White man who has mainly interacted with White women.
I have noticed over time that it is easier for me to interact with White women than non-White women. Over time, I have tended to go to places where White women tend to be more than non-White women. I've never had good social circle options with non-White women either.
My sense is that it is easier for the typical person to interact with people within their own races/ethnicities.
As a 30+ childless man, I've wanted to date childless women. The childless women who have been and are now close to my age are White women.
When I was on swipe apps and dating websites before that, I also noticed that more of matches/responses were from White women as compared to non-White women.
