I agree that attraction is not just about sex but to be honest, I cringed a little bit when I read your "chase her soul" line. What does that mean? How do you chase a woman's soul? (And do women even have souls? lol)
Is this just another way of saying you need to have some things in common beyond physical attraction?
I mean you should aim for much more than just sex. I can understand that aiming for her soul sounds cringe and it might be. Yet its how I think.
Imo you should strive to be the absolute best she ever had. The experience you provide her should be incomparable to other men's. To get here a man must be aware of all those details that will make such an experience outstanding. That's something you learn over time and by putting in the work.
In novels for women the male protagonists is always a successful man with game. One who seemingly "has it all". Thats ofcourse a condition to pull this off. You gotta look act and be financially up to it. Think of some recent examples in popular culture that appeared: mr Big in sex and the city, that man from 50 shades of grey. Its almost unnecessary to mention that there are plenty of men like this roaming the world and they're alpha widowing many women.
I used to always aim for the ***** while AT MANY TIMES women wanted to give me much much more than just p00sy. I couldn't see it, blinded by lust.
There's a reason why so many men experience "power struggles" with women tbey actually treat well in their eyes. She doesn't want to be equal to a man, she want and NEEDS to look up to him. She wants you to be and act MUCH more powerfull .