No real motivation to meet/date girls anymore

[CornbreadFed]

That's another impression I get, that Indian women wouldn't consider me unless I had some sort of white collar profession, which I do not. As for SJW white women there's no way I would date anybody even remotely associated with SJWism. I don't associate with leftists or SJWs in any way. Indeed an unfortunate fact is that the majority of white women that are vaguely into "eastern" religions tend to have had their minds poisoned by impersonalism and new-age mindset, and thus they actually don't understand what Hinduism or Buddhism is really about and are incapable of comprehending what those religions actually teach. It's really quite sad, especially since I'm a sincere follower of Vedic Spirituality and it's these new-age phony "yogis" that really give western converts to Hinduism a bad name. New-age mindset, SJWism, and the teachings of charlatans such as Osho have absolutely no place in Hinduism. Either way meeting women thru my religion, however small the chance of that is, is probably the best I can hope for with respect to meeting women irl. If I can't really do cold approach, and social circle game is also out, what else is left?

I don't blame you TBH. I don't date white women because I never felt a realistic connection coming from them. It is always to further some agenda or pvss off someone or a group of people off. What is your job/occupation?

 

[BergischerLöwe]

I don't blame you TBH. I don't date white women because I never felt a realistic connection coming from them. It is always to further some agenda or pvss off someone or a group of people off. What is your job/occupation?

All the women I've been with have been white, but comparatively non-SJW. Unfortunately I don't really have a career tbh. I wanted to study music production in college but I couldn't since the program had a minimum GPA to get in and my grades weren't good enough. Not because I was a bad student but because since I have ADHD I always had trouble turning things in on time and it always sunk my grades. The same was true when I was in high school and it really ended up limiting my choices as to where I could go to college. I'm articulate and intelligent but my condition always held me back in terms of what I could achieve academically, and thus I was never really able to acquire the necessary credentials needed to have a proper career. I've done freelance translation work online before translating documents from German to English but I only ever made like 20 bucks from that. The closest thing to career experience I have in my life is all the touring and recording experience I have as a musician. I've been playing in bands since I was 16, played on seven studio albums and a couple side projects, and I've been on tour twice. However music will never be a lucrative thing for me, there's no money in music unless you're a famous artist everybody knows. When people ask me what I do for a living I either say I'm a musician or that I translate documents from German to English, but deep down it's just a white lie I say so people don't think less of me for not having a career. I don't think I'll ever really have a career in the traditional sense, I think I've passed that point now

 

[corrector]

First, I have dated two Indian women (one from Kashmir and the other from Mumbai), you aren't going to be able to convince them to date outside their ethnicity unless you are rich or show great potential.

My ex-wife was Indian.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

The closest thing to career experience I have in my life is all the touring and recording experience I have as a musician. I've been playing in bands since I was 16, played on seven studio albums and a couple side projects, and I've been on tour twice. However music will never be a lucrative thing for me, there's no money in music unless you're a famous artist everybody knows.

The money in music is in producing, not in playing the instruments.

 

[CornbreadFed]

All the women I've been with have been white, but comparatively non-SJW. Unfortunately I don't really have a career tbh. I wanted to study music production in college but I couldn't since the program had a minimum GPA to get in and my grades weren't good enough. Not because I was a bad student but because since I have ADHD I always had trouble turning things in on time and it always sunk my grades. The same was true when I was in high school and it really ended up limiting my choices as to where I could go to college. I'm articulate and intelligent but my condition always held me back in terms of what I could achieve academically, and thus I was never really able to acquire the necessary credentials needed to have a proper career. I've done freelance translation work online before translating documents from German to English but I only ever made like 20 bucks from that. The closest thing to career experience I have in my life is all the touring and recording experience I have as a musician. I've been playing in bands since I was 16, played on seven studio albums and a couple side projects, and I've been on tour twice. However music will never be a lucrative thing for me, there's no money in music unless you're a famous artist everybody knows. When people ask me what I do for a living I either say I'm a musician or that I translate documents from German to English, but deep down it's just a white lie I say so people don't think less of me for not having a career. I don't think I'll ever really have a career in the traditional sense, I think I've passed that point now

It is good that you know your weaknesses and strengths, but the key to getting laid is find a method that is fluid and cohesive with yourself, not go against the grain.

 

[SW15]

Which young women actually live in the suburbs? Young women still living with their parents? Young men have a bigger problem with living with their parents as adults.

NEET women, college commuters, and some college grad women tend to still live at their parents. TBH, most of the girls I have dated lived with their parents still. You will only see them at local gyms or grocery stores though. Otherwise, they will be in the city to satisfy their entertainment needs, work, or at the university.

Women are rarely NEETs, especially White women. Most NEETs are males and considered losers.

White, young women are very status concerned and want to get an apartment with roommates in the central city instead of living with parents. Also, they get preferential hiring treatment so they can get their well located apartments.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Women are rarely NEETs, especially White women. Most NEETs are males and considered losers.

The NEETs I dated were Latinas and I do live in a city with a lot of them, so that could explain everything TBH

White, young women are very status concerned and want to get an apartment with roommates in the central city instead of living with parents. Also, they get preferential hiring treatment so they can get their well located apartments.

Yeah, the only white women I dated that lived with their parents were ones currently in college.

 

[SW15]

The NEETs I dated were Latinas and I do live in a city with a lot of them, so that could explain everything TBH

It's more common to see non-White women be NEETs. A Latina NEET seems more realistic to me. I tend to interact more with White women than non-White women.

White, young women are very status concerned and want to get an apartment with roommates in the central city instead of living with parents. Also, they get preferential hiring treatment so they can get their well located apartments.

Yeah, the only white women I dated that lived with their parents were ones currently in college.

White women who are still in college will live with their parents if they go to college in the same area as where their parents live.

More affluent White women will go at least 1-2 hours from their parents if they go to an in-state public university. Then, some more affluent White women might go to an out-of-state public university or a private college/university.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

The money in music is in producing, not in playing the instruments.

Right now I'm learning how to record on analouge equipment and I have some decently nice microphones and preamps but it'll be a while I think before I'd be able to record people and charge money

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Right now I'm learning how to record on analouge equipment and I have some decently nice microphones and preamps but it'll be a while I think before I'd be able to record people and charge money

Check out recording engineer Rudy van Gelder. His way of recording really set the tone for Blue Note's jazz recordings. His studio was his parents living room.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Check out recording engineer Rudy van Gelder. His way of recording really set the tone for Blue Note's jazz recordings. His studio was his parents living room.

Hmm I'll look him up. Right now my studio is my apartment and my mom's basement so I can relate to that bit at least lol

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Hmm I'll look him up. Right now my studio is my apartment and my mom's basement so I can relate to that bit at least lol

that's why I mentioned him

 

[BergischerLöwe]

that's why I mentioned him

atm I'm not really sure how I'd break into the music production game, but once I'm good enough at recording on my 4 track machine and I get a reel to reel deck for mastering I could potentially seek out local bands to record and charge them a flat rate to record an EP or something. All my recording equipment is portable so if I record a band I could just go to their practice space and do it there. That said I would have to put my name out there somehow if I wanted to record bands, I'd have to put up flyers at all the music stores around town or go to local shows and see if I can find anybody to record that way. I've never recorded anyone else tho, right now I'm just getting better at recording by making little EPs by myself

 

[BergischerLöwe]

It is good that you know your weaknesses and strengths, but the key to getting laid is find a method that is fluid and cohesive with yourself, not go against the grain.

I know that, but there's no method that seems ideal for me. With every prospective option as to shat I should do, there's more drawbacks than advantages. Cold approach, social circle, apps; all of those have serious limitations for me and there doesn't really seem to be any actually good solution besides just maintaining the status quo

 

[corrector]

I know that, but there's no method that seems ideal for me. With every prospective option as to shat I should do, there's more drawbacks than advantages. Cold approach, social circle, apps; all of those have serious limitations for me and there doesn't really seem to be any actually good solution besides just maintaining the status quo

That is because sex is overrated on here. You get that you are either in the zone or have that x factor or its a waste of time.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

That is because sex is overrated on here. You get that you are either in the zone or have that x factor or its a waste of time.

Came across this reddit post the other day, the OP sums up a lot of the same things I feel

https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/10mohld

 

[corrector]

Came across this reddit post the other day, the OP sums up a lot of the same things I feel

https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/10mohld

That is too toxic. Women who like you are not thinking that way. Its bad enough as it is getting rejected without tuning into some b1tch's entitled thoughts who are not into you.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

That is too toxic. Women who like you are not thinking that way. Its bad enough as it is getting rejected without tuning into some b1tch's entitled thoughts who are not into you.

Still tho I feel afraid to even try irl since there’d be a feeling in the back of mind mind that I’m just bothering a woman by doing that

 

[corrector]

Still tho I feel afraid to even try irl since there’d be a feeling in the back of mind mind that I’m just bothering a woman by doing that

Yeah, but you are doing her job for you. She is supposed to reject you, not you make her life easy and do it yourself.

You know what is really hard about cold approach? Suppose she takes you on and you are not ready for her and are now on the spot. If someone ignored you then you get a small hit but you get over it and carry on the rest of your day.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Yeah, but you are doing her job for you. She is supposed to reject you, not you make her life easy and do it yourself.

You know what is really hard about cold approach? Suppose she takes you on and you are not ready for her and are now on the spot. If someone ignored you then you get a small hit but you get over it and carry on the rest of your day.

I’m really disproportionately sensitive to rejection/negative comments, I’ve had that since I was a kid and apparently it’s an ADHD symptom. Any negative criticism I get for any reason really hits me hard and make me feel all down on myself. As it stands now I’ll never really be able to get good at cold approach, but I can’t warm approach either. Like I said earlier, in the past whenever I came across an attractive woman irl, like in a college course back when I was still a student, or any kinda small group oriented space, I would always suppress my feelings of attraction towards her since I knew I would just mess up if I tried and it would be really awkward and embarrassing for me. I always imagined how bad it would be if i tried to chat up a girl from class, failed, and then had to keep seeing her in class every time. The same applies to any hypothetical space in which I could potentially meet a woman to warm approach