Thanks for going into that much detail in the reply. Yeah I may be 27 and asking such a simple thing, but as I've said my life hasn't loaned itself to me many opportunities to practice approaching irl. I didn't get anywhere with women when I was in high school at the age where I was supposed to have begun to learn that and I've relied on apps to meet women for my entire adult life. I remember when I was 18 and I had just graduated high school and a friend of mine showed me what tinder was for the first time. After that there was no going back.
As for my looks I have the advantage that I've been lifting weights for the better part of five years and I eat a good diet and care about my physical health and appearance. I'm definitely physically stronger and in better physical condition than the average man, and the training I do in the gym is the olympic lifts so even compared to the average gym goer I'm more legit. However I still have some stubborn midsection fat that won't go away. Although for the most part I do look like I lift I haven't been able to get below 20% bodyfat, and this is a bad thing. I eat a good diet and train well but it just won't go away. I've considered getting liposuction or coolsculpting to remedy this, but I'm hesitant due to potential adverse effects and I'm not entirely sure how effective that would be in all actuality. Furthermore I feel vain in potentially having to resort to cosmetic surgery. In terms of my physical appearance and my style of dress I look like I could have been in a band in the 60s/70s. I have long blonde curly hair and a handlebar mustache and when I dress a bit nicer I am fond of wearing bright floral shirts and bell bottom trousers. This is of course a more niche kinda look and not all girls are into that, but I like this look and it's been my style for a very long time.
I'll watch the video in the link and evaluate what it says. I have a kinda vague idea of the sort of woman I'm looking for already. If I picture a woman like that in my head it's a chill, non-basic, easygoing, emotionally stable woman, about 3-6 years younger than me, more intelligent than average, not much of a partier or a drinker, has at least vaguely similar interests/values/musical taste to my own, takes care of her physical health, is attractive but not instagram model tier, doesn't want children, is sexually compatible with me, and hasn't been passed around more times than a beach ball at a nickelback concert. I'm sure women like that exist somewhere but the impression I get is that girls fitting that description spend most of their time chillin at home and thus I never really encounter them. I'm much more of a homebody myself and a lot of my free time is spent at my house smoking weed, reading, or playing music. Even if somehow I encounter such a woman I've described, there's a good chance she'll already have a boyfriend anyway. Usually women that are chill, make good partners, and are faithful to their significant others are already spoken for and those relationships almost always last. If such a woman gets taken off the market she usually won't be back on it for a long time. In any case I want a long term, stable, fulfilling relationship with a woman I truly get along with and I'm really attracted to. That I would say is my goal.
It's interesting you bring up the idea of fitness classes, especially when I've heard others say that it's generally not advisable to try and approach women at the gym. I don't think I'd tried that since at the end of the day I just like to train the olympic lifts, and plus the gym I go to isn't a commercial gym. I would feel weird about approaching women in that setting anyway. For what it's worth there is a woman around my age who goes to the same gym I go to, but I don't think I'd date her. Even if I were interested I wouldn't try that since it's a small gym with a tight knit group of people that all know each other, so I don't want to try and fail and have it all blow up in my face. Then again I feel uncomfortable approaching women in any setting. I don't really feel like coed sports is a viable option for me either.
As for nightlife venues I'm not much of a drinker and I don't like staying out late as much. Even in college 90% of the time when I went to bars was just when my band had a gig there, I rarely went to bars other than a situation like that. I don't think I'd find what I'm looking for in a bar anyway, and women are more guarded in places like that since it's where they're the most likely to get approached. I hardly drink anymore anyway, even on my own time, since alcohol consumption is generally discouraged in my religion. I still drink very rarely, but almost never more than one drink. I don't even know any good bars in the town that I live in, and I don't want to have to drive a half hour to the center of town to go where all the nightlife is.
I've said this before but it doesn't appear that there's any good potential venue for me to meet girls irl. Every single option has huge glaring drawbacks that mean they very likely won't work for me. On top of that I have no experience approaching in public and I'm pretty introverted so trying to approach would just be nerve wracking and uncomfortable. Any woman would be able to sense that and it would turn them off, and the notion of cold approach itself seems to me to be completely against my own introverted, reserved nature. Furthermore I really do believe that most of the women that would be really compatible with me spend most of their free time at home like me.
