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Was seeing a chick for 6 months last year it was a pretty intense relationship she told me she loved me on a couple of occasions but I knew there was something off about her

eventually discovered she was making bank from being a sugar baby and ended it there and then , she took it very badly but we went our separate ways I removed her from all social media and deleted her number

Fast forward 6 months and she has reached out to me on at least 4 occasions on two different numbers usually about once every 6 weeks

1) wishing me happy birthday

2) asking me to sort something for her ( which I wouldn't do )

3) Asking me for directions

4) asking me where is best to park

I usually just respond with something ****y like when she asked me for directions and I said is your google maps broken or something ?

The interactions never really cumulate to much and I'm fairly sure she is with someone else

Is she just trying to keep a line of contact open ? , bread crumbing ?

To clarify I am not really interested in pursuing. another relationship with this girl just interested in what peoples opinions are on the psychology

My view is it seems I am clearly on her mind a lot and she is struggling to move on
 

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Was seeing a chick for 6 months last year it was a pretty intense relationship she told me she loved me on a couple of occasions but I knew there was something off about her

eventually discovered she was making bank from being a sugar baby and ended it there and then , she took it very badly but we went our separate ways I removed her from all social media and deleted her number

Fast forward 6 months and she has reached out to me on at least 4 occasions on two different numbers usually about once every 6 weeks

1) wishing me happy birthday

2) asking me to sort something for her ( which I wouldn't do )

3) Asking me for directions

4) asking me where is best to park

I usually just respond with something ****y like when she asked me for directions and I said is your google maps broken or something ?

The interactions never really cumulate to much and I'm fairly sure she is with someone else

Is she just trying to keep a line of contact open ? , bread crumbing ?

To clarify I am not really interested in pursuing. another relationship with this girl just interested in what peoples opinions are on the psychology

My view is it seems I am clearly on her mind a lot and she is struggling to move on

Your likely the back up guy.

When she has an argument with her current guy, or things begin to feel unstable with him, she reaches out to you, just to make sure that by responding to her, you are still a potential future branch.

However soon as things are good with her guy again, she will leave you completely alone.
 

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eventually discovered she was making bank from being a sugar baby and ended it there
This might be one of the stupidest questions I'll ever ask but, why'd you break up with her?

You were literally 1000% in the right to break up, but was she like having sex with the guy? I guess she was being dishonest, fair enough, but I'm just wondering how you felt about her, emotionally.

I think it's somewhat like cheating, but was she smashing, or just loose flirting and making money, or seeing him often? Again, pretty dumb question sorry. How hot was she?
 

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Your likely the back up guy.
I feel you but she cant really make him her backup if he's the one that broke it off, strongly too.

But you could be right, she might've tried dating and saw how great she had it with him so she's tryna try again
 

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I feel you but she cant really make him her backup if he's the one that broke it off, strongly too.

But you could be right, she might've tried dating and saw how great she had it with him so she's tryna try again

He can still be the back up guy even if he broke it off.

After the break up she might have experienced dudes of higher value and maybe even better sex.. Chicks rarely ever downgrade once they have experienced chad (not the saying that op isn't alpha)

Once they taken random diks elsewhere, they rarely look at the ex in the same light again.. If they do circle back, it's usually because they been used and abused and they feel the need to be with someone safe/familiar again.
 

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You kind of alpha-widow ed her. You might be at the top of her Dsedinovas High Score List.
 

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Your likely the back up guy.

When she has an argument with her current guy, or things begin to feel unstable with him, she reaches out to you, just to make sure that by responding to her, you are still a potential future branch.

However soon as things are good with her guy again, she will leave you completely alone.
Plan B
 

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This might be one of the stupidest questions I'll ever ask but, why'd you break up with her?

You were literally 1000% in the right to break up, but was she like having sex with the guy? I guess she was being dishonest, fair enough, but I'm just wondering how you felt about her, emotionally.

I think it's somewhat like cheating, but was she smashing, or just loose flirting and making money, or seeing him often? Again, pretty dumb question sorry. How hot was she?
Because too many men in this world would have given her a get out of jail free card

This kind of immoral f@@ckery doesn’t align with my world she needed a lesson and she got one

I’m not sure about the sex but at the time there was enough evidence to suggest she was pretty much escorting for him and the dual life she was trying to live was unraveling anyway

She knew from the start I wouldn’t tolerate any crap like that and still continued she is the type of girl that can usually wrap men around her finger

She was a dime to look at think Naomi in wolf of wall st

leggy sexy confident blonde

I put her at HB 8 because her personality was weak

but some men would give her 10 just on her looks no problem
 
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You kind of alpha-widow ed her. You might be at the top of her Dsedinovas High Score List.
Very possibly I’m not sure that she had ever been with a man that had told her no before

I used to make her pay for my meals sometimes she even told me once “it’s strange with you because I’m used to being (financially) looked after”

I told her to shut the fvck up

I have a feeling I probably damaged her philosophy with the way I cut her off cold

She went completely mental for like 2-3 weeks after
 

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Very possibly I’m not sure that she had ever been with a man that had told her no before

I used to make her pay for my meals sometimes she even told me once “it’s strange with you because I’m used to being (financially) looked after”

I told her to shut the fvck up

I have a feeling I probably damaged her philosophy with the way I cut her off cold

She went completely mental for like 2-3 weeks after
Good job
 

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Very possibly I’m not sure that she had ever been with a man that had told her no before

I used to make her pay for my meals sometimes she even told me once “it’s strange with you because I’m used to being (financially) looked after”

I told her to shut the fvck up

I have a feeling I probably damaged her philosophy with the way I cut her off cold

She went completely mental for like 2-3 weeks after
You didn't meet, let's say a Stripper, and got into an relationship with that already on the table, fair enough. At least she was upfront, you'd have more respect for her, unlike now.

So you have your answers: you're a strong, confident man, worth the time to respect. She kept things hidden from you in a disrespectful way, so you broke it off because you don't need that type of person in your life and you definitely showed her. She should've realized sooner and she could've had someone that really cared about her, a beautiful and real relationship.

It must've hurt having to find out that way too, damn I feel you bro. Honesty is clearly something you value.
 

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To clarify I am not really interested in pursuing. another relationship with this girl just interested in what peoples opinions are on the psychology

My view is it seems I am clearly on her mind a lot and she is struggling to move on
Don't hate me bro: I think Naomi has a crush on you.

Dude, she remembered your birthday, and asked you questions she KNEW you had the answers too cuz she knows she can rely on you. Then she was in too deep to tell you cuz she was scared she ****ed up.

If everyone including yourself thinks you made the best play, then why isn't it
"feck dat b-word"
Instead of "not really interested"?

Semantics, I know ‍♀
But she hit you up 4 times in 6 months, that's once every 1.5 months, pretty much monthly since the breakup.

And Honestly (lmao), I wouldn't judge you for just chatting her up, seeing where's she at (IF she's honest, no dumb games)
She hurt you, cuz who wouldn't get hurt. But you made it clear to her none of that poop.
She clearly likes you, annnd you made a post about her

You Sir, are absolutely not a simp. You're clearly a Man, with feelings (like every other human).
 

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To clarify I am not really interested in pursuing. another relationship with this girl just interested in what peoples opinions are on the psychology

My view is it seems I am clearly on her mind a lot and she is struggling to move on
She’s probably not used to guys unceremoniously dumping her. That and the fact that you did it after finding out her dirty secret must have really scrambled her hamster.

You are obviously on her mind and she’s trying to provoke a response. Does it mean that’s she trying to get back with you? Not necessarily.
 

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Why would someone break up with a wh0re? You are right, this is a pretty stupid question.
I hope you have a ton of girls yourself and are hot lmao. That's also your definition of a wh0re, cuz he never called her that.

Lmao who hurt you? Don't be so sensitive bro, we're all friends, just talk about it
 

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I hope you have a ton of girls yourself and are hot lmao. That's also your definition of a wh0re, cuz he never called her that.

Lmao who hurt you? Don't be so sensitive bro, we're all friends, just talk about it
Whar? I’m not hurt, lol. I just find it weird that things that were common sense not too long ago are now cause for bewilderment. Man finds out that his girlfriend is quite literally a prostitute and dumps her. And you ask him why he did that? For real?? We live in very strange times.
 

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Whar? I’m not hurt, lol. I just find it weird that things that were common sense not too long ago are now cause for bewilderment. Man finds out that his girlfriend is quite literally a prostitute and dumps her. And you ask him why he did that? For real?? We live in very strange times.
you reach reaching bro lmao, he never said she was a prostitute. You've probably never been with a stripper either, smh. Naomi's aren't for all of us dude, don't sweat the small stuff so much. You're having a great time with your jezebels smh

It's alright to have feelings, and he answered anyways. Like I said, please be pulling homie
 

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you reach reaching bro lmao, he never said she was a prostitute. You've probably never been with a stripper either, smh. Naomi's aren't for all of us dude, don't sweat the small stuff so much. You're having a great time with your jezebels smh

It's alright to have feelings, and he answered anyways. Like I said, please be pulling homie
He said she was an escort. That’s another word for prostitute. Perhaps English is not your first language “homie”?
 

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He said she was an escort. That’s another word for prostitute. Perhaps English is not your first language “homie”?
I’m not sure about the sex but at the time there was enough evidence to suggest she was pretty much escorting for him and the dual life she was trying to live was unraveling anyway
You been on here for more than 12 years and you still can't read

and Yikes "homie", tell me you're old without telling me you're old. How did you get me to cringe so hard, I guess being cool is for the Youthful.

(and just saying, I extremely doubt you're anywhere near my level of intellect, clearly cuz you can't read)
 

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Was seeing a chick for 6 months last year it was a pretty intense relationship she told me she loved me on a couple of occasions but I knew there was something off about her

eventually discovered she was making bank from being a sugar baby and ended it there and then , she took it very badly but we went our separate ways I removed her from all social media and deleted her number

Fast forward 6 months and she has reached out to me on at least 4 occasions on two different numbers usually about once every 6 weeks

1) wishing me happy birthday

2) asking me to sort something for her ( which I wouldn't do )

3) Asking me for directions

4) asking me where is best to park

I usually just respond with something ****y like when she asked me for directions and I said is your google maps broken or something ?

The interactions never really cumulate to much and I'm fairly sure she is with someone else

Is she just trying to keep a line of contact open ? , bread crumbing ?

To clarify I am not really interested in pursuing. another relationship with this girl just interested in what peoples opinions are on the psychology

My view is it seems I am clearly on her mind a lot and she is struggling to move on
People have many needs....this girl may have liked money, an easy life, materialistic lifestyle, etc. She got all of that from her sugar daddy(s). She got the hot sex, emotional connection, intimacy, fun, ability to express herself, and safety from you.

She would love to reconnect with you. And she probably would give up the sugar baby deal if she could get what those men provide from you.

Did she have a real job?
 
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