How do I date and get laid quickly but not hurt anyone?

[corrector]

You should start working out like crazy and at least give YOURSELF the opportunity to see what life is like being fit and strong.

Like I said, allot of time has passed by since December 5, 2014. Other people have visited escorts more recently then that.

I do notice that if I'm interested in visiting an escort, even on a mental level, I'm also more interested in cold approaching. No matter how you work-out, if you don't cold approach, nothing much will happen.

Yes I'm from south America. You are delusional to think they're " fecking to support their family ". They're fecking for gucci bags and ironically vacations, luxury items ect..ofcourse there will be a smart one who saves money and does something great buti guess that is a small percentage.

Again, it felt that way in December, 2014. However, I can say this. My ex-wife was after me to pay $ 100 / week while we were married.
She spent that money on pedicures, manicures, and other luxury items that would touch a nerve with me. We didn't even have that much sex. Spending $ 500 / mo for my ex-wife could live a luxurious lifestyle like that, and charging up my credit cards to buy food for her family when she knows that I'm not working or earning money, after spending allot of money on an expensive wedding...just to end up in divorce.
Sorry, the hooker and money arguments don't seem to sound so bad no matter what you are saying.

The hooker was visited after I seperated from my ex-wife who already used me, and as far as I'm concerned, the escort was cheaper. No expensive wedding. No taking $ 500 / mo to "maintain" the marriage. No disrespect for money that had already been spent.

Most of those women are broken as i said. Lots of drug abuse ,depression and alcoholism what deteriorates them even faster.

That is allot to know about based on a 30 min encounter. Honestly, the only thing I knew about the ex-escort of 2014 was that she was from Brazil, she was there for 2 months, and she doesn't speak too much English. She asked me if I was had visited that location before and was quite cordial. Not the stereotypical image of some drunken, smelly low-class hor. So if she did something in the background then she has really hid it very well.

I'd be more worried if you said allot of them were into witchcraft, and this was some sort of clandestine sex cult operation where they are just hexing their clients. It is that fear that really got me in panic mode. I can handle the other vice-issues you mentioned more than that as it's not as calculating and menacing or evil. Broken is better than outright evil.

If I am in a relationship then kissing =sex.period

That makes sense.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Just be confident bro

 

[BackInTheGame78]

He said WITHOUT hurting anyone.

This is like asking how do I make a fire underneath the water. I can't be done. Why? Quick plus sex plus carefree plus nice looking plus plus. Women = drama. Either because you dont get what you want,,or because you dont give them what they want.

Seriously tho; OP will find out that somehow..you'll keep finding women that "just wanna feck " at first glance ,only to learn that 9 out of 10 actually wanted a relationship from you and ARE hurt( what he tries to avoid). If you have the time and energy to be at the bars 52 weeks on a year, you might come across some horny drunk gals left and right . OLD can also work for this specifically. But imo women on OLD want relationships as well.

And ofcourse there is the possiblity YOU will get hurt..

Escorts is an example of hurting yourself .

If you let them know up front that you aren't looking for anything serious that will limit the damage because they won't expect anything from you.

It will also likely limit you to 2-3 months max before they go find someone who will give them a relationship or at least the hope of one down the line.

 

[Gamisch]

If you let them know up front that you aren't looking for anything serious that will limit the damage because they won't expect anything from you.

It will also likely limit you to 2-3 months max before they go find someone who will give them a relationship or at least the hope of one down the line.

Yes. And many men will lie because two months = 8 weeks = 4 /6dates (a lot!) = 2/3 feck sessions and she gone.. lets be real, that why men lie about their intentions , so she'll stick around longer.

 

[user252009]

Talk good, have the ability to connect, dress nice, be in decent shape, and act confident. Always worked for me.

*Talk well

 

[The Duke]

*Talk well

Is that all you have to offer? Who cares dude. THis is a damn forum and many times people are using their phone to post. But since you pointed that out, I will point something out to you just incase you think it means to use perfect English because its people like you that miss the importance of the message. You are too hung up with the anal details.

To talk WELL means to be interesting, keep it fun and light, engaged in the conversation, be good at story telling, charming, get them to open up, etc.

 

[MatureDJ]

Women cannot resist confidence and sexual confidence. its like their kryptonite.

Sexual confidence is gained my being successful at macking chicks; being successful at macking chicks exudes sexual confidence. This is circulus in probando.

and what made you develop rust?

It's OVER for RustyCels.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Sexual confidence is gained my being successful at macking chicks; being successful at macking chicks exudes sexual confidence. This is circulus in probando.

Yep i mean it makes perfect sense and goes without saying. Just like anything, you don't get good without experience. But also, its fair to say if you know you have poremature ejaculation, you might not have sexual confidence. But if you know you have a large member and good endurance, you can be pretty confident about that. Then when you gain experience, a few lays here and there, it adds to it. Then when you're years into game, things just become far easier lol. Alot of which is because your self belief, confidence and experience raised your capabilities.

It's OVER for RustyCels.

and haha thanks for the laugh.. I did not expect that but thats pretty funny

 

[corrector]

You should start working out like crazy and at least give YOURSELF the opportunity to see what life is like being fit amd strong.

Went on a third bike ride this week. I'm feeling drained out from all of the exercise.

Yes I'm from south America. You are delusional to think they're " fecking to support their family ". They're fecking for gucci bags and ironically vacations, luxury items ect..ofcourse there will be a smart one who saves money and does something great buti guess that is a small percentage.

You mean well with this advice. I'm just a little confused. You said before you visited 10 prostitutes. If you feel that strongly against them, then why did you visit so many of them over the course of your life? See with me, when I had a bad reaction, I just stopped, which is why I'm stuck on that one date as it's remembered as the last. Also you gave me the impression that you visited them to break dry-spells and did not approach it as casual recreation, but something out of necessity, like you had to do it to be close to a woman. Advice dealing with breaking dry-spells is never pretty. It can range from dumpster diving to a land-whale full of tatooes to using an escort you are actually attracted to. None of the options are good, but the result is just to get you back in the zone so it feels natural to interact with and approach women. A type of kick-start if you will.

Most of those women are broken as i said. Lots of drug abuse ,depression and alcoholism what deteriorates them even faster.

I don't know which situation is worst. To some, being an incel and a very long dry-spell, while it's not on a same level or issue like what you've just mentioned, but it's still very bad. This type of stuff can play with your head. Maybe you might do something aggressive with a girl and get in trouble with the law. This looks like a relatively safe outlet. At least you can't be falsely (or actually) charged for rape or touching someone.

You must have gone 10 times for a reason. Maybe you are in a position on that you've moved on and don't see the need for them anymore. I think after visiting that many times, you are either going to have a habit or one of the escorts you visited must have really disgusted you, and made you think about what you are really doing and turn you off from the hobby completely. With me it may have been the 2nd one 9 years ago. With you it may have been the 10th one more recently.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Pains me to say this but…Watch Sex/Life on Netflix and be Brad not Cooper.

 

[Von]

Have game
Be fun to be with it
Respect Them and you = be Honest about intentions, make their émotions validate you arent a Guy looking for longterme, dont make a big deal of the ons and Casual sex aka make it natural (we having fun, no Judgement, dont advertise it to others in social), in public be friendly, in private intimate.

You might even Tell Them straight out you Want short term.

Doing this m'y expérience has been Girl Will Play Along and once they find a ltr fade out. You be remaining on Good Terms