How do you guys pull off a SNL/One night stand from bars/nightclubs these days?

[Jesse Pinkman]

I feel like in the past, I relied a lot on alcohol and pure dumb luck to get a girl back to my place. Ever since being in Miami, I kind of switched to relying on dates from numbers/Instas I collect at bars to get laid and it worked in some cases. The only times I had ONS involved dumb luck (mainly women being tourists and having a place pretty close to the bar we were at) and a really good wingman.

It is almost like I lost the art of the SNL ever since I moved out of NYC a few years ago. In NYC, it was just so natural and I could do it with ease. Women got the memo and this was before COVID as well. I hate to make excuses but am more curious to learn about methods that guys here have used to pull it off recently.

There is a spot that is a 10 minute drive from my place but here are my logistics:

1. One bedroom that is about 750 sq ft or so, no roommates. In somewhat of a more boring part of town but not far away from the spot.

2. Rooftop pool and a floor with many pool tables but those all close at midnight, well before a lot of the bars including the one near me closes.

So here are my questions.

1. How do you guys position going back to your place? I hear a lot of dudes pulling off the "afterparty" trick but there really isn't one. I was thinking of telling them about my rooftop view and all but that closes at midnight, like I would lose my lease bringing someone up there after that time.

2. Do you guys even bother with ONS and pulling them back to your place earlier on in the night? I think I am too in my head here and think that earlier on in the night, the girls are just looking to party harder and don't get into a point where they are pullable until like 1 AM. Again, this might be my NYC days carrying over where I had way more luck after midnight.

It is not that I cannot or haven't but I rather work on having a process down.

 

[SW15]

here are my logistics:

1. One bedroom that is about 750 sq ft or so, no roommates. In somewhat of a more boring part of town but not far away from the spot.

2. Rooftop pool and a floor with many pool tables but those all close at midnight, well before a lot of the bars including the one near me closes.

So here are my questions.

1. How do you guys position going back to your place? I hear a lot of dudes pulling off the "afterparty" trick but there really isn't one. I was thinking of telling them about my rooftop view and all but that closes at midnight, like I would lose my lease bringing someone up there after that time.

2. Do you guys even bother with ONS and pulling them back to your place earlier on in the night? I think I am too in my head here and think that earlier on in the night, the girls are just looking to party harder and don't get into a point where they are pullable until like 1 AM. Again, this might be my NYC days carrying over where I had way more luck after midnight.

It is not that I cannot or haven't but I rather work on having a process down.

These are workable logistics. You want to be either walking distance from a bar or no more than a 10 minute shared ride app ride from the bar. The best one night stand seducers have that going on.

One way to get a woman back to your place to have something unique at your place that you want to show her. Invite her back to do that.

If there's physical chemistry in the bar or club, you can just ask her back to your place and she knows what's up.

Pull them back to your place earlier in the night. Women are pullable both earlier in the night and around 1 AM. It depends on how persuasive you are. Later night can be a little easier if they've had more alcohol but that can lead to more post sex regret about it.

 

[SmoothSmooth]

I feel like in the past, I relied a lot on alcohol and pure dumb luck to get a girl back to my place. Ever since being in Miami, I kind of switched to relying on dates from numbers/Instas I collect at bars to get laid and it worked in some cases. The only times I had ONS involved dumb luck (mainly women being tourists and having a place pretty close to the bar we were at) and a really good wingman.

It is almost like I lost the art of the SNL ever since I moved out of NYC a few years ago. In NYC, it was just so natural and I could do it with ease. Women got the memo and this was before COVID as well. I hate to make excuses but am more curious to learn about methods that guys here have used to pull it off recently.

There is a spot that is a 10 minute drive from my place but here are my logistics:

1. One bedroom that is about 750 sq ft or so, no roommates. In somewhat of a more boring part of town but not far away from the spot.

2. Rooftop pool and a floor with many pool tables but those all close at midnight, well before a lot of the bars including the one near me closes.

So here are my questions.

1. How do you guys position going back to your place? I hear a lot of dudes pulling off the "afterparty" trick but there really isn't one. I was thinking of telling them about my rooftop view and all but that closes at midnight, like I would lose my lease bringing someone up there after that time.

2. Do you guys even bother with ONS and pulling them back to your place earlier on in the night? I think I am too in my head here and think that earlier on in the night, the girls are just looking to party harder and don't get into a point where they are pullable until like 1 AM. Again, this might be my NYC days carrying over where I had way more luck after midnight.

It is not that I cannot or haven't but I rather work on having a process down.

getting a woman from a nightclub to come home with you is more about the girl than you. It has nothing to do with your game and more to do with how desperate, unstable and socially unintelligent the girl is.
Guys generally do not get laid a lot via this method, and when they do, it’s almost always with 6s and below
Dont go by some fantasy idea you have in your head that you can just turn up to a club and get sex with hot girls; literally every man in the club has the same fantasy as you. That’s how the club stays in business. But use your actual experience and eyes to look around. How many hot girls do you see leaving a club with a stranger she just met? All you see is, girls acting unapproachable, or using guys for attention, or occasionally dancing/making out (usually with the intention of making their boyfriends jealous) then leaving with their girlfriends. And 80% of men just posted at the bar awkwardly or dancing behind girls for hours hoping the girls notice them.

the Stupidity of men going the clubs and using online dating is they are going to places where there is an ABUNDNACE OF OTHER MEN, specifically low quality beta males, and hoping to get girls. This is the opposite of how to get girls. You get girls by getting away from other men, finding a unique way, and not been seen around low quality beta males. Just by virtue of being at a bar or on an online dating app, you are automatically low quality to most girls

 

[IKO69]

Like smooths post.

I haven't pulled it off very much, just a handful of times. Each time it happened I did nothing, they were some of my easiest lays. It is very much about the woman as smooth rather than your game. Mainly you want the logistics right.

The last time I pulled it off- I will give you some detail. I was with a group of my long time friends @ a happening bar at the time for people our age and we were busting each other's chops. I said something about one of my friends and this woman that wa next to us with her friend started laughing. She interjected and said that was really funny. They integrated into our group and as the night proceeded you could just tell, she hung onto my every word, looked at me intensely, you could feel it and my friends told me it was super obvious too. We were all one group but me and her were a bit seperated if that makes sense.

The way I sealed the deal was I told her I had a hookah at home. She said she's done that before with some of her girlfriends. I told her I was going to unwind at end of the night (use it) and she said we should smoke together. So we left, her friend stayed behind with my friends. We didn't even get that far man - I put together a sort of charcuterie board, made some drinks and then we basically got down to business. Afterwards she was like please don't judge me etc.

 

[CornbreadFed]

going to bars and clubs to find pvssy is like trying to get rich off playing the lottery.

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

getting a woman from a nightclub to come home with you is more about the girl than you. It has nothing to do with your game and more to do with how desperate, unstable and socially unintelligent the girl is.
Guys generally do not get laid a lot via this method, and when they do, it’s almost always with 6s and below
Dont go by some fantasy idea you have in your head that you can just turn up to a club and get sex with hot girls; literally every man in the club has the same fantasy as you. That’s how the club stays in business. But use your actual experience and eyes to look around. How many hot girls do you see leaving a club with a stranger she just met? All you see is, girls acting unapproachable, or using guys for attention, or occasionally dancing/making out (usually with the intention of making their boyfriends jealous) then leaving with their girlfriends. And 80% of men just posted at the bar awkwardly or dancing behind girls for hours hoping the girls notice them.

the Stupidity of men going the clubs and using online dating is they are going to places where there is an ABUNDNACE OF OTHER MEN, specifically low quality beta males, and hoping to get girls. This is the opposite of how to get girls. You get girls by getting away from other men, finding a unique way, and not been seen around low quality beta males. Just by virtue of being at a bar or on an online dating app, you are automatically low quality to most girls

Sooo do daygame?

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

Like smooths post.

I haven't pulled it off very much, just a handful of times. Each time it happened I did nothing, they were some of my easiest lays. It is very much about the woman as smooth rather than your game. Mainly you want the logistics right.

The last time I pulled it off- I will give you some detail. I was with a group of my long time friends @ a happening bar at the time for people our age and we were busting each other's chops. I said something about one of my friends and this woman that wa next to us with her friend started laughing. She interjected and said that was really funny. They integrated into our group and as the night proceeded you could just tell, she hung onto my every word, looked at me intensely, you could feel it and my friends told me it was super obvious too. We were all one group but me and her were a bit seperated if that makes sense.

The way I sealed the deal was I told her I had a hookah at home. She said she's done that before with some of her girlfriends. I told her I was going to unwind at end of the night (use it) and she said we should smoke together. So we left, her friend stayed behind with my friends. We didn't even get that far man - I put together a sort of charcuterie board, made some drinks and then we basically got down to business. Afterwards she was like please don't judge me etc.

Bro must be a Miami thing and I greatly value your word since you are a local lol. TBH man, my luck has come from just going to the bars and clubs, collecting IGs and numbers, and then getting dates off of that and nothing else. I have found daygame a lot more effective than nightgame in the city. Even with nightgame, I have not had any luck at a LIV or Story (back when it was open). It was all smaller bars in Wynnwood if anything.

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

These are workable logistics. You want to be either walking distance from a bar or no more than a 10 minute shared ride app ride from the bar. The best one night stand seducers have that going on.

One way to get a woman back to your place to have something unique at your place that you want to show her. Invite her back to do that.

If there's physical chemistry in the bar or club, you can just ask her back to your place and she knows what's up.

Pull them back to your place earlier in the night. Women are pullable both earlier in the night and around 1 AM. It depends on how persuasive you are. Later night can be a little easier if they've had more alcohol but that can lead to more post sex regret about it.

Yeah that makes sense as well but as I said, I have only gotten lucky a handful of times. My best luck has been with tourist women more than anything else. However, I find that the best bet has been to just collect IGs and hope for the best because I have had stuff come out of that.

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

going to bars and clubs to find pvssy is like trying to get rich off playing the lottery.

I would not say that. However, I will say I have had a lot more luck by getting girls IG from bars and then eventually setting up a date with them. Pulling back the same night has been tough. I feel like conventional wisdom says dates from bars and nightclubs are unheard of but I have found the opposite to be true.

 

[IKO69]

Bro must be a Miami thing and I greatly value your word since you are a local lol. TBH man, my luck has come from just going to the bars and clubs, collecting IGs and numbers, and then getting dates off of that and nothing else. I have found daygame a lot more effective than nightgame in the city. Even with nightgame, I have not had any luck at a LIV or Story (back when it was open). It was all smaller bars in Wynnwood if anything.

Night game is notoriously difficult here, especially at liv.

I spend a lot of time in Wynwood. Day game is the way to go. Most recently I approached a woman at the Panther in Wynwood (I wrote about it in a thread recently). I got her number and texted her a couple of times here and there. I'm going to plan a date with her sometime later this week.

I would say your willingness to day game is a big advantage. Most guys think the only @ night is suitable. I find day time much easier and the women are more "grounded" if that makes sense.

Recently I was at Villa Azur, don't know if you ever went there. A client visited and she wanted to go somewhere to eat so we went there. I had the eye of the tiger the entire time - so much fine ass. It was very difficult to discuss work matters lolol.

 

[nicksaiz65]

getting a woman from a nightclub to come home with you is more about the girl than you. It has nothing to do with your game and more to do with how desperate, unstable and socially unintelligent the girl is.
Guys generally do not get laid a lot via this method, and when they do, it’s almost always with 6s and below
Dont go by some fantasy idea you have in your head that you can just turn up to a club and get sex with hot girls; literally every man in the club has the same fantasy as you. That’s how the club stays in business. But use your actual experience and eyes to look around. How many hot girls do you see leaving a club with a stranger she just met? All you see is, girls acting unapproachable, or using guys for attention, or occasionally dancing/making out (usually with the intention of making their boyfriends jealous) then leaving with their girlfriends. And 80% of men just posted at the bar awkwardly or dancing behind girls for hours hoping the girls notice them.

the Stupidity of men going the clubs and using online dating is they are going to places where there is an ABUNDNACE OF OTHER MEN, specifically low quality beta males, and hoping to get girls. This is the opposite of how to get girls. You get girls by getting away from other men, finding a unique way, and not been seen around low quality beta males. Just by virtue of being at a bar or on an online dating app, you are automatically low quality to most girls

Can’t say I agree. Had a guy in the group I’m in pull twice from Dirty Rabbit this weekend.

However, personally I like pulling off the street way more than from the clubs lol.

 

[skipfontaine22]

Wow you guys are not pulling outta bars? Do you guys feel the good ol fashioned bar-pull has declined in recent years?

 

[SW15]

Yeah that makes sense as well but as I said, I have only gotten lucky a handful of times. My best luck has been with tourist women more than anything else. However, I find that the best bet has been to just collect IGs and hope for the best because I have had stuff come out of that.

You use a bit of a different method than I use. This is expected as our general goals are different.

Tourist women can be a good option for the one night stand and a casual sex arrangement at most if it's a longer visit.

Do you guys feel the good ol fashioned bar-pull has declined in recent years?

I think so. I moved more from night game to day game in the early 2010s as it is a better fit with my personality and goals. From what I am observing, swipe apps and Instagram are cutting more into night game than day game. Day game has always been more of a niche thing as a smaller group of men have the ability to approach women randomly without the help of alcohol.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I would not say that. However, I will say I have had a lot more luck by getting girls IG from bars and then eventually setting up a date with them. Pulling back the same night has been tough. I feel like conventional wisdom says dates from bars and nightclubs are unheard of but I have found the opposite to be true.

That's a better approach than aiming for one night stands.

Wow you guys are not pulling outta bars? Do you guys feel the good ol fashioned bar-pull has declined in recent years?

In college, I was having success until I turned 21/the university started cracking down more on house parties. I have pulled at bars, but it was all little wins in an ocean of Ls. I remember I got this hot mixed girl's number, but my friends **** blocked me.

Even if you do manage to pull a girl from a bar and get some investment, you know that she's going to be back at that bar to find more slong later down the road.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

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[RazorRambo24]

Bottle service/table at a nice club with some cool friends, pic kand choose girls , every girl will be down to come for the free alcohol and VIp treatment.. as the night gets boozy, watch them compete against themselves to be the one who wants to come home with them..

make things even fun if u got a nice place in a luxury highrise with a full bar , bring all of them or most of them back with you to continue the party.. watch them try to compete to be the one who gets to "stay"/last to leave lol

as for as these loser ass replies, lmao.. must suck not being able to pull at bars and clubs. you wish you woulda consistently went and gained experience but most dudes have a few bad experiences and never go back . im in over a decade of experience and ths sht is like clockwork.. theres only a few places that feel like home to me and under the lights of the club is one of them

I wish some of you would admit you're just not the ideal candidate for gettin pu55y instead of sh.t on the club or blame women

 

[CornbreadFed]

Bottle service/table at a nice club with some cool friends, pic kand choose girls , every girl will be down to come for the free alcohol and VIp treatment.. as the night gets boozy, watch them compete against themselves to be the one who wants to come home with them..

make things even fun if u got a nice place in a luxury highrise with a full bar , bring all of them or most of them back with you to continue the party.. watch them try to compete to be the one who gets to "stay"/last to leave lol

as for as these loser ass replies, lmao.. must suck not being able to pull at bars and clubs. you wish you woulda consistently went and gained experience but most dudes have a few bad experiences and never go back . im in over a decade of experience and ths sht is like clockwork.. theres only a few places that feel like home to me and under the lights of the club is one of them

I wish some of you would admit you're just not the ideal candidate for gettin pu55y instead of sh.t on the club or blame women

so we have to waste a bunch of money to impress a couple of 304s? No Gracias!

 

[RazorRambo24]

so we have to waste a bunch of money to impress a couple of 304s? No Gracias!

Nah i wouldnt unless you got it like that..not everyone does and I certainly didnt for the majority of the years i been hittin the club. Sht when i started clubbing i didnt even have a job. I had side hustles though. Cant be broke and hit the clubs.

 

[IKO69]

Bottle service/table at a nice club with some cool friends, pic kand choose girls , every girl will be down to come for the free alcohol and VIp treatment.. as the night gets boozy, watch them compete against themselves to be the one who wants to come home with them..

make things even fun if u got a nice place in a luxury highrise with a full bar , bring all of them or most of them back with you to continue the party.. watch them try to compete to be the one who gets to "stay"/last to leave lol

as for as these loser ass replies, lmao.. must suck not being able to pull at bars and clubs. you wish you woulda consistently went and gained experience but most dudes have a few bad experiences and never go back . im in over a decade of experience and ths sht is like clockwork.. theres only a few places that feel like home to me and under the lights of the club is one of them

I wish some of you would admit you're just not the ideal candidate for gettin pu55y instead of sh.t on the club or blame women

Dragging women because they suck with them is lame behavior for sure but let's be real most guys hate the clubs. They are not adequately prepared to succeed in them. I'm not even talking about the money or having clout aspect, simply just the dancing part. A lot of guys spend their time standing around looking awkward and out of place. I too made that mistake, dancing wasn't my thing when I was younger. I had no idea how much i was hurting my chances. As I got older I took dancing lessons and grew to like it, now I am a fairly decent dancer. It really helped during the last leg of when I was actually a club goer. I would just dance up beside the woman I liked and I'd point at her feet and smile to get her attention. Then I would lean in and tell her hey nice moves, my name is Mike etc. Because I was very direct I was quite successful in comparison to before, was like night and day. I was doing whatever it took.

 

[characternote]

I pulled from the bar on Saturday. In fact about 95% of my lays are from cold approach in bars (plus a handful of social circle lays and a handful of swipe lays, but mostly all nightgame pulls)

Can't be bothered to write a long reply but @SmoothSmooth has probably nailed it.
It's a lot about the girl (so some luck involved. She needs to be attracted to you on the open, be friendly and naturally social with strangers and somewhat adventurous etc).
Environment/location plays a big role here too.
And most importantly of course is being good looking according to whoever you are hitting on. Again, not really in your control. It's a numbers game

When you approach the girl who thinks you are hot, as long as she's a kind of adventurous social girl, it's as easy as just flirting and of course mixing it with some normal talk to build comfort. And then inviting her back to your place. That's what I did on Saturday.

But there's no secret magic method to essentially pick who you want. It's a fairly low odds game unless you are very good looking and are in an ideal environment (so a good looking guy in Vegas could get laid multiple times per night for example lol)