Did my first cold approach since Covid started

[CornbreadFed]

You have a gf and you are saying still need some validation and are still desirable? You being desirable to her the only opinion that should matter. Unless she's talking to other guys or has other guy friends and you are feel insecure and reacting to this by wanting to talk to other girls. You have an hb3 gf? What's the deal here?

So I should dump my loyal gf that provides me consistent sex and comfort for some random girl with a heavy Eastern European accent whom I don’t even know is a citizen of the US?

 

[corrector]

So I should dump my loyal gf that provides me consistent sex and comfort for some random girl with a heavy Eastern European accent whom I don’t even know is a citizen of the US?

No, you should have a threesome and see if your gf is bi.

 

[CornbreadFed]

No, you should have a threesome and see if your gf is bi.

I don’t like threesomes and I don’t like dating multiple women. I am not a moral person either, I’m just lazy.

 

[SW15]

So I should dump my loyal gf that provides me consistent sex and comfort for some random girl with a heavy Eastern European accent whom I don’t even know is a citizen of the US?

I don't see that as a good solution.

 

[corrector]

I don’t like threesomes and I don’t like dating multiple women. I am not a moral person either, I’m just lazy.

I was joking with that as I did not get the first question. Nobody has the right to make you dump your gf or even make this advice. I dont advise people to break up.

I said you should tell her about this board with her and that you want to talk to other girls to feel more desirable. Harboring those feelings and not telling her is not healthy for your relationship. Its up to you if you want to be faithful.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I was joking with that as I did not get the first question. Nobody has the right to make you dump your gf or even make this advice. I dont advise people to break up.

I said you should tell her about this board with her and that you want to talk to other girls to feel more desirable. Harboring those feelings and not telling her is not healthy for your relationship. Its up to you if you want to be faithful.

I have to disagree. I think these feelings are natural for men and shouldn't be held down, especially for men that could easily find another woman. If I followed this philosophy, I shouldn't date in the first place because I would just do the same thing to the next woman. Sometimes we just need a bone thrown at us like women do with their orbiters and girlfriends. It's one thing to just flirt with women, but it's another to actually physically cheat with another woman.

 

[corrector]

I have to disagree. I think these feelings are natural for men and shouldn't be held down, especially for men that could easily find another woman.

If you could easily find another women then why are you saying you have to prove you are still desirable?

If I followed this philosophy, I shouldn't date in the first place because I would just do the same thing to the next woman.

What philosophy? Being honest in relationships?

Sometimes we just need a bone thrown at us like women do with their orbiters and girlfriends.

That doesn't speak much about your gf's "sex and comfort".

It's one thing to just flirt with women, but it's another to actually physically cheat with another woman.

I take what you are saying at face value, so you have to excuse me if what you are saying is not adding up.
I think, given the opportunity, and you had all the right signals, greenlight, and you could get away with it, then you would cheat.
Suppose you hit a rough patch in your relationship but have this nice flirty side-chick who really appreciates you? You are going to stick to "I'm want to be faithful" then? Come on.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I take what you are saying at face value, so you have to excuse me if what you are saying is not adding up.
I think, given the opportunity, and you had all the right signals, greenlight, and you could get away with it, then you would cheat.
Suppose you hit a rough patch in your relationship but have this nice flirty side-chick who really appreciates you? You are going to stick to "I'm want to be faithful" then? Come on.

You are right, I would take the opportunity, but it is not like I am actively putting myself in situations to do so. Cold Approaching a random girl just for the giggles isn't going to put me in another girl's bed that night lol.

 

[corrector]

You are right, I would take the opportunity, but it is not like I am actively putting myself in situations to do so. Cold Approaching a random girl just for the giggles isn't going to put me in another girl's bed that night lol.

Doesnt your gf have a social group that has hot girls you can talk to? My ex gf introduced me to her friends who were also hot and we chatted up with her there. You should not have to be going at the bottom like a single person otherwise you lose out on a massive benefit of being in a relarionship. Thats if its just giggles and social of course.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Doesnt your gf have a social group that has hot girls you can talk to? My ex gf introduced me to her friends who were also hot and we chatted up with her there. You should not have to be going at the bottom like a single person otherwise you lose out on a massive benefit of being in a relarionship. Thats if its just giggles and social of course.

yeah her friends worship me lol. I am not a moral person of high standing lol.

 

[corrector]

yeah her friends worship me lol. I am not a moral person of high standing lol.

Whatever you say bruh.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Ran in to her again today. She invited me up to her apartment and my big brain said I had to get back to work . Thank the lord lol.

 

[corrector]

Now will be thinking of going into her apartment and will be haunted every day that you have the opportunity to cheat on your gf. You are going to bump into her again as you live in the same building. One day you'll think, I think I can just get away with this, my gf won't know and I'm not a moral person anyway. Sure, you can resist one time and write about it but how about week(s) with the same pressure? This is just day two.

 

[SW15]

There’s this girl I’ve had my eyes on at my apartment and today I walked by her and she smiled at me so I was like why not! I said, “hey I think you are cute, what’s your Instagram?” She said okay and started talking but she had a thick Spanish accent, either South American or Spaniard cause she looked white lol. I was immediately turned off by it so I said thanks and walked away. I have zero intentions on hitting her up, but I DID IT! Are y’all not entertained!!! @We_ArE_VeNOM / @Bingo-Player

Ran in to her again today. She invited me up to her apartment and my big brain said I had to get back to work . Thank the lord lol.

This is difficult to believe. A woman that you've barely interacted with invites you into her apartment, likely for sex. It's not impossible but it seems improbable.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Now will be thinking of going into her apartment and will be haunted every day that you have the opportunity to cheat on your gf. You are going to bump into her again as you live in the same building. One day you'll think, I think I can just get away with this, my gf won't know and I'm not a moral person anyway. Sure, you can resist one time and write about it but how about week(s) with the same pressure? This is just day two.

Nah, I cheated on my previous gf pretty badly and that's something I do not want to ever go through again.

This is difficult to believe. A woman that you've barely interacted with invites you into her apartment, likely for sex. It's not impossible but it seems improbable.

Well we talked about our jobs and she used the can you help me with my computer setup line since she is in school.

 

[corrector]

This is difficult to believe. A woman that you've barely interacted with invites you into her apartment, likely for sex. It's not impossible but it seems improbable.

Not if he is Tyrone. He did say all if his gf's friends want to sleep with him and he has a problem of cheating on his gfs because of all the female attention that he gets and can't handle.

 

[corrector]

Nah, I cheated on my previous gf pretty badly and that's something I do not want to ever go through again.

You said you were not a moral person. When push comes to shove, you can't go against your own nature. Cheating is not just the physical act, it starts in your thoughts and inside your head way before any physical act happens. I'd say you've probably already cheated with your current gf in your thoughts and heart and have honestly entertained a scenario earlier, that I presented, where you would cheat. If you can imagine a circumstance were you would cheat with a side-chick then you have already cheated.

Well we talked about our jobs and she used the can you help me with my computer setup line since she is in school.

You didn't tell her that you have a gf but instead used the excuse that you had work. If you were serious about not cheating, you'd be upfront and tell her that you have a gf so she doesn't bring it up again. However, you know if you do that then that door is closed with her, she won't be as happy seeing you again, and you won't have that chance like before.

 

[SW15]

This is difficult to believe. A woman that you've barely interacted with invites you into her apartment, likely for sex. It's not impossible but it seems improbable.

Well we talked about our jobs and she used the can you help me with my computer setup line since she is in school.

That's somewhat plausible. In that case, your first interaction with her was somewhat more detailed than what you described in the first post.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Not if he is Tyrone. He did say all if his gf's friends want to sleep with him and he has a problem of cheating on his gfs because of all the female attention that he gets and can't handle.

I would not classify myself as a Tyrone at all.

You said you were not a moral person. When push comes to shove, you can't go against your own nature. Cheating is not just the physical act, it starts in your thoughts and inside your head way before any physical act happens. I'd say you've probably already cheated with your current gf in your thoughts and heart and have honestly entertained a scenario earlier, that I presented, where you would cheat. If you can imagine a circumstance were you would cheat with a side-chick then you have already cheated.

Then everyone is a cheater lol. The most important thing is that I am not

You didn't tell her that you have a gf but instead used the excuse that you had work. If you were serious about not cheating, you'd be upfront and tell her that you have a gf so she doesn't bring it up again. However, you know if you do that then that door is closed with her, she won't be as happy seeing you again, and you won't have that chance like before.

I like the attention lol.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Ran in to her again today. She invited me up to her apartment and my big brain said I had to get back to work . Thank the lord lol.

D@mn, bro. She put herself in a silver platter and you didnt take the bait. Im glad you were loyal to your gf but at the same time Im kinda mad you didnt take this random girl to pound town.