Girls Vs Boys Dating Strategy Vs Instagram

[soulforge]

Will try to keep this as simple as possible.

Mens dating strategy is to pursue, seek out/approach females..

The females dating strategy is to position herself in various situations, online, dating apps, the shopping mall etc etc so she can be approached.

So if you're LTR girlfriend etc is still on Instagram then essentially she is still on the MARKET to be approached.

Her dating strategy is still open.

On the other hand, if the dude has deleted his dating apps for his LTR and has stopped approaching other chicks, then essentially you are completely out of options other then your LTR and you have sacrificed your dating strategy.

This automatically puts you in the weaker position in your LTR

She will always have the abundance mindset as she is still being approached by hundreds of dudes. Yes she will reject them, but it is STILL a choice she makes, from a position of power.

My question is, why are you men taking yourself off the market when you're woman is still on the market?

Personally I will not take myself off dating apps, up until the chick I am dating takes herself off Instagram etc.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This shows some major insecurity on your part to worry about that.

 

[holidayad_]

Will try to keep this as simple as possible.

Mens dating strategy is to pursue, seek out/approach females..

The females dating strategy is to position herself in various situations, online, dating apps, the shopping mall etc etc so she can be approached.

So if you're LTR girlfriend etc is still on Instagram then essentially she is still on the MARKET to be approached.

Her dating strategy is still open.

On the other hand, if the dude has deleted his dating apps for his LTR and has stopped approaching other chicks, then essentially you are completely out of options other then your LTR and you have sacrificed your dating strategy.

This automatically puts you in the weaker position in your LTR

She will always have the abundance mindset as she is still being approached by hundreds of dudes. Yes she will reject them, but it is STILL a choice she makes, from a position of power.

My question is, why are you men taking yourself off the market when you're woman is still on the market?

Personally I will not take myself off dating apps, up until the chick I am dating takes herself off Instagram etc.

At some point, I read (or heard) somewhere that the true romantic, in the idealized sense, of the relationship is the man. Maybe that explains it.

But honestly, if I get into an LTR today or tomorrow or 5 years from now, I don't expect my girlfriend to delete her social networks. Because she simply won't do that.

And, we, as men, should not do that either.

But it's a good thread, mate.

 

[soulforge]

This shows some major insecurity on your part to worry about that.

How is it insecure?

Insecure is not having the nuts to put yourself in a equal power position with your chick, because you're too scared she will leave you. Insecurity is being scared of her reaction.

Being super secure is, telling your chick.

Hey so you still want to keep yourself on the sexual market? No problem, I will keep my options open too. Now we are on an equal playing field.

Letting her know how things are and should be, is SUPER secure. Accepting a bad deal on your end, is super insecure!

 

[soulforge]

At some point, I read (or heard) somewhere that the true romantic, in the idealized sense, of the relationship is the man. Maybe that explains it.

But honestly, if I get into an LTR today or tomorrow or 5 years from now, I don't expect my girlfriend to delete her social networks. Because she simply won't do that.

And, we, as men, should not do that either.

But it's a good thread, mate.

There is a reason why she won't give it up... She will always be on the market and always have options and more importantly ABUNDANCE MINDSET

The average man, once he has taken himself off dating apps, social media, stopped approaching chicks for HER, overtime will be in a much weaker position and without a doubt lose frame.

If they want to stay on the market... Be SUPER CONFIDENT and tell her you will stay on the market, up until she is willing to level the playing field by taking herself of social media!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

How is it insecure?

Insecure is not having the nuts to put yourself in a equal power position with your chick, because you're too scared she will leave you. Insecurity is being scared of her reaction.

Being super secure is, telling your chick.

Hey so you still want to keep yourself on the sexual market? No problem, I will keep my options open too. Now we are on an equal playing field.

Letting her know how things are and should be, is SUPER secure. Accepting a bad deal on your end, is super insecure!

I just don't care enough to make this an issue. I'm the best choice she can make and by far the best sex she will ever have. If she wants to lose that over some dude DMing her let her have it.

You are effectively attempting to reduce competition because you are afraid of what will happen if you have competition. But you can't. She will simply go out of her way to get extra attention in person while you aren't around. Unless you plan on not letting her out of your sight 24 hours a day.

 

[CornbreadFed]

If your girl is going to cheat on you, she’s going to cheat on you regardless of your insecure fragile masculinity measures.

 

[soulforge]

If your girl is going to cheat on you, she’s going to cheat on you regardless of your insecure fragile masculinity measures.

Not true.. Cheating isn't always premeditated, in the sense that she will intentionally cheat.

Females are fickle, emotional, impulsive creatures.. They will act on emotion/impulse if the right man approached her in her DMs, our job as men is to PROTECT her FROM HERSELF.

By that logic of yours.. Hey if she is going to cheat regardless.. Then why not let our wives hit the bars/clubs every weekend. Why not let them have hot girl summer parties and travel alone. Why not let her dress like a 304 in the streets

I mean if she is going to cheat, she will cheat anyway right? Why bother with boundaries going by your logic.

You could apply the same logic to yourself as a man. Why don't we keep our options open too with dating apps? I mean if we are going to cheat, then it's going to happen anyway right.

Equal playing field for both.

 

[CornbreadFed]

By that logic of yours.. Hey if she is going to cheat regardless.. Then why not let our wives hit the bars/clubs every weekend. Why not let them have hot girl summer parties and travel alone. Why not let her dress like a 304 in the streets

Loyal wives do not go to bars/clubs every weekend or dress like 304 in the streets. If you are sweating between this then you married a street rat not a wife.

Females are fickle, emotional, impulsive creatures.. They will act on emotion/impulse if the right man approached her in her DMs, our job as men is to PROTECT her FROM HERSELF.

Sloots are fickle, emotional, and impulsive creatures. Cheating on a man is more than some dude hitting up her DMs. She has to hope this guy isn’t going to leave her, he’s not bluffing himself, and that’s ignoring the financial and social consequences at stake. A sloot will ignore all of this for sure.

You could apply the same logic to yourself as a man. Why don't we keep our options open too with dating apps? I mean if we are going to cheat, then it's going to happen anyway right.

Then you might as well not get in a relationship ever again with that mentality. Nobody enters treaties, contracts, or business deals with the expectations of them failing. You won’t go far with anything with that mentality.

 

[NealIRC]

What if she uses Instagram to keep in touch with female friends or family?

And what about Facebook?

 

[soulforge]

What if she uses Instagram to keep in touch with female friends or family?

And what about Facebook?

Come on man!

With the advent of modern technology, smart phones, WhatsApp, email, a fukin phone call.. Who the hell needs Instagram with 30 of your sexy pictures on it, in order to stay in touch with a friend?

Whenever you challenge a chick on Instagram, it's the most common BS excuse they come back with. OH I use to to stay in touch with a friend or family. That is CAP

I personally think Facebook is a little more acceptable, however Instagram is essentially a huge dating site

 

[SW15]

I personally think Facebook is a little more acceptable, however Instagram is essentially a huge dating site

Facebook has changed a lot since the early 2010s. During peak Facebook in the late 2000s, it was like Instagram of the late 2010s.

People send DMs on Facebook to try and get sex too, though it's much less than Instagram.

Additionally, Facebook is rapidly aging. Millennials barely use it anymore, though most have an account. The most active Facebook users are Gen X'ers and Boomers.

Facebook was created by an older Millennial for older Millennials.

 

[The Duke]

If she wants to find another dude she will. Doesn't matter if it's Instagram or the grocery store or work or the gas station. If she's hot she will get male attention every where she goes. If you can't accept that then date ugly girls.

If she is on Instagram and you are too, what's it matter?

A man needs to get to the point where he isn't phased by this stuff. Insecure behavior is for girls.
Remember they are attracted by the opposite. A confident man has the most power and dating options and women are totally aware of this.

 

[bat soup]

Will try to keep this as simple as possible.

Mens dating strategy is to pursue, seek out/approach females..

The females dating strategy is to position herself in various situations, online, dating apps, the shopping mall etc etc so she can be approached.

So if you're LTR girlfriend etc is still on Instagram then essentially she is still on the MARKET to be approached.

Her dating strategy is still open.

On the other hand, if the dude has deleted his dating apps for his LTR and has stopped approaching other chicks, then essentially you are completely out of options other then your LTR and you have sacrificed your dating strategy.

This automatically puts you in the weaker position in your LTR

She will always have the abundance mindset as she is still being approached by hundreds of dudes. Yes she will reject them, but it is STILL a choice she makes, from a position of power.

My question is, why are you men taking yourself off the market when you're woman is still on the market?

Personally I will not take myself off dating apps, up until the chick I am dating takes herself off Instagram etc.

Yes, generally women's strategy is passive. They place/don't place themselves in certain places. They allow/don't allow you to get close. They open/close their legs. If you wait for women to take the initiative you'll be waiting a long time.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

It depends on her Instagram as well. If her instagram contains pictures of her without you, she is publicly advertising herself on the platform. If her insta only contain pictures of things and places, or has pictures of you two, it is fine.

But honestly, if I get into an LTR today or tomorrow or 5 years from now, I don't expect my girlfriend to delete her social networks. Because she simply won't do that.

This shows some major insecurity on your part to worry about that.

If she is on Instagram and you are too, what's it matter?

A man needs to get to the point where he isn't phased by this stuff. Insecure behavior is for girls.

Since when SoSuave has become so blue pill?!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It depends on her Instagram as well. If her instagram contains pictures of her without you, she is publicly advertising herself on the platform. If her insta only contain pictures of things and places, or has pictures of you two, it is fine.




Since when SoSuave has become so blue pill?!

Blue pill is worrying about trying to reduce competition because you are insecure with your own worth.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

Blue pill is worrying about trying to reduce competition because you are insecure with your own worth.

Being blue pill is to be unware of the intersexual dynamics. Why should a man forego his sexual strategy (polygamy; being on the hunt for more women) when a woman doesn't let go of hers (hypergamy; advertising oneself in the pursuit of higher value males).

In all pre-modern societies, females had to stop advertising themselves when taken. It's only in the last few decades that women have developed (thanks to the social media and betatization of men) the luxury of being able to advertise themselves while in relationships.

I just don't care enough to make this an issue. I'm the best choice she can make and by far the best sex she will ever have. If she wants to lose that over some dude DMing her let her have it.

Also, there is no way one can always be the highest value male around so much so that high-value-ness solely guarantees female fidelity. Being high value is quite subjective.

Example: after being with a women for a few years, not matter how big your d*ck is or how hard you f*ck her, she'll eventually get used to it and will fantasise about other, unseen, unconquered d*cks. If she can't stop advertising herself on Insta, I don't see any reason why she wouldn't be receptive to new attention, and by extension d*cks, after awhile.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Being blue pill is to be unware of the intersexual dynamics. Why should a man forego his sexual strategy (polygamy; being on the hunt for more women) when a woman doesn't let go of hers (hypergamy; advertising oneself in the pursuit of higher value males).

In all pre-modern societies, females had to stop advertising themselves when taken. It's only in the last few decades that women have developed (thanks to the social media and betatization of men) the luxury of being able to advertise themselves while in relationships.


Also, there is no way one can always be the highest value male around so much so that high-value-ness solely guarantees female fidelity. Being high value is quite subjective.

Example: after being with a women for a few years, not matter how big your d*ck is or how hard you f*ck her, she'll eventually get used to it and will fantasise about other, unseen, unconquered d*cks. If she can't stop advertising herself on Insta, I don't see any reason why she wouldn't be receptive to new attention, and by extension d*cks, after awhile.

Guess what, she will just work harder at advertising herself in person.

Trying to stop women from seeking attention is a nonsensical strategy because they will simply shift to other methods to make up for it. Or simply do it behind your back and without your knowledge.

There is a reason why Preacher's daughters are typically run through by the entire town...it's because her Daddy won't let her do anything, so she secretly does everything.

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

Will try to keep this as simple as possible.

Mens dating strategy is to pursue, seek out/approach females..

The females dating strategy is to position herself in various situations, online, dating apps, the shopping mall etc etc so she can be approached.

So if you're LTR girlfriend etc is still on Instagram then essentially she is still on the MARKET to be approached.

Her dating strategy is still open.

On the other hand, if the dude has deleted his dating apps for his LTR and has stopped approaching other chicks, then essentially you are completely out of options other then your LTR and you have sacrificed your dating strategy.

This automatically puts you in the weaker position in your LTR

She will always have the abundance mindset as she is still being approached by hundreds of dudes. Yes she will reject them, but it is STILL a choice she makes, from a position of power.

My question is, why are you men taking yourself off the market when you're woman is still on the market?

Personally I will not take myself off dating apps, up until the chick I am dating takes herself off Instagram etc.

This is the advantage of having a large social group. Because you can keep upping your value and keep yourself as the centre. With an increasing number of women becoming interested in you.

Large workplaces or university/college are very well suited to this. But you need to be eternally positive with crazy frame control. And not be seen as a spaz

 

[soulforge]

Guess what, she will just work harder at advertising herself in person.

Trying to stop women from seeking attention is a nonsensical strategy because they will simply shift to other methods to make up for it. Or simply do it behind your back and without your knowledge.

There is a reason why Preacher's daughters are typically run through by the entire town...it's because her Daddy won't let her do anything, so she secretly does everything.

We have generations of woman in many many societies, who are discouraged from being on Instagram/social media etc.. And the woman are not running around sport fvking everything and anything they see.

If we are to follow your logic of not setting boundaries, because your chick will find a way to cheat anyway...

Then why not marry a chick, have a child with her, then allow her to hit the bars/clubs drinking on the weekends.

Why not also let her dress like a 304

Why not let her travel with her hoe freinds and have hot summer girl parties.

Hmm I mean she will find a way to cheat anyway right if she really wants to?

All chicks have the potential to cheat l, however us men need to create an environment of damage limitation.

We need to protect them, from themselves!