A couple of observations over my very few years being involved with the manosphere:
- It is the internet: People do not understand what it entails nor how to leverage it.
- Men are obsessed with HVM and "Alpha": Many men do not understand what any of those terms mean, mainly because what I consider HVM and what you consider HVM will always differ because we all perceive the world and reality differently.
- Men confuse being a Cassanova with being a good man: Being a man is not a matter of picking up as many women as possible and sleeping with them. I know chads that have slept with hundreds of women to disguise their homosexuality and insecurities.
- People are hyper-focused on the state of modern dating: We worry too much about finding an ideal partner with minimal foundations laid out within ourselves first and foremost.
- People in general feel entitled: We feel entitled to over-impose our beliefs, to call each other out, to receive but not give, and to win but not lose. Entitlement, like fear and stress, is a real virus. And it is eating up society from within.
- To round it up and back to where I started, it is the INTERNET: We have to stop taking everything too literally, to heart, black/white, and most of all believing everything and everyone. You have to understand, all of these "public/online figures" rarely have substance. Get to know them personally and deeply before start putting your hands on the fire for them.
If I am being frank, and I know there was a post made about it recently which I commented on, being involved in this forum can be exhausting, depressing, frustrating, and make you wonder.
I hope we can go back to the days when men gather around to talk about philosophy, theology, life, society, civilization, etc. But if that looks like it does now, with a bunch of males pounding their chests talking about their lays or how to get laid then I do not want to be part of that. It is not what I envision for masculinity.
