Why I refuse to date single moms

[CornbreadFed]

The only exception is if this girl is the carbon copy looks wise of my ideal female(it’s a rare look btw) because I am not going to pass up the chance to bang that.

Otherwise, I refuse to raise another man’s kid and bail out a woman from her life mistakes. I said I because I believe we need men to be able to do these things to help society, but I am not going to be that person lol. In addition, where there is smoke there is fire. Single moms are broken women and have many other problems that you cannot see upfront. You might not see them now, but those skeletons in the closet are bound to creep up on you eventually.

Remember, this is my personal opinion and I have zero intentions of influencing any other poster’s opinions.

Now here are the arguments I usually get from guys that date single moms.

She is hot- And???? Are single moms the only hot women or am I missing something?

I never see her kids or kid- Yeah right now you do not see her kids, but that does not mean it will stay like that. If you decide have any deeper relationship with this woman, you will have to come to terms with her being a single mom. Oh, you are just going to pump and dump her, but I will see you post about her 5 months from now…hmmmmm.

I have kids of my own already- Your kids have the ability to get friends of their own. Plus, a single mom will always prioritize her kids first, not yours. A non single mom will have no choice but prioritize your kids and not have any of the baggage of a single mom weighing her down.

I am in my 30s, 40s, early 50s so the only women available are single moms- I am sorry, but this is just code for I have low smv or laziness/stubbornness. In the modern age, women are delaying child birth and you have the ability to be a passport bro or something silly lol. There are plenty of fertile childless women roaming around this earth, so quit the Cap.

I like their personality/qualities about them- Cool, well own up to the fact that you like single moms instead of throwing out these excuses. If you like something, be proud and own up to it!

 

[devilkingx2]

I'd only date a single mom if she was fun. The kind of single mom who gets a babysitter so she can party on the weekends.

If she's a responsible mom whose focus is on working hard and taking care of her kids, I'm not interested.

If she's looking for my money then definitely not.

 

[Robert28]

The problem is the dating pool is legit 80% single moms.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

If anybody had any actual game, and consistently got decent ladies, dating single moms wouldn't be a question that would pop up in your mind.

Nor would flexing online about why you refuse to lower yourself to such levels.

 

[The Duke]

The only exception is if this girl is the carbon copy looks wise of my ideal female(it’s a rare look btw) because I am not going to pass up the chance to bang that.

Otherwise, I refuse to raise another man’s kid and bail out a woman from her life mistakes. I said I because I believe we need men to be able to do these things to help society, but I am not going to be that person lol. In addition, where there is smoke there is fire. Single moms are broken women and have many other problems that you cannot see upfront. You might not see them now, but those skeletons in the closet are bound to creep up on you eventually.

Remember, this is my personal opinion and I have zero intentions of influencing any other poster’s opinions.

Now here are the arguments I usually get from guys that date single moms.

She is hot- And???? Are single moms the only hot women or am I missing something?

I never see her kids or kid- Yeah right now you do not see her kids, but that does not mean it will stay like that. If you decide have any deeper relationship with this woman, you will have to come to terms with her being a single mom. Oh, you are just going to pump and dump her, but I will see you post about her 5 months from now…hmmmmm.

I have kids of my own already- Your kids have the ability to get friends of their own. Plus, a single mom will always prioritize her kids first, not yours. A non single mom will have no choice but prioritize your kids and not have any of the baggage of a single mom weighing her down.

I am in my 30s, 40s, early 50s so the only women available are single moms- I am sorry, but this is just code for I have low smv or laziness/stubbornness. In the modern age, women are delaying child birth and you have the ability to be a passport bro or something silly lol. There are plenty of fertile childless women roaming around this earth, so quit the Cap.

I like their personality/qualities about them- Cool, well own up to the fact that you like single moms instead of throwing out these excuses. If you like something, be proud and own up to it!

How many single moms have you dated? Aren't you the product of a single mom? Whats your relationship with your mom like? You've got some really strong negative feelings towards them.

 

[CornbreadFed]

The problem is the dating pool is legit 80% single moms.

Yeah if you are in shvtholes lol. This is why living in a key parts of major cities is key.

 

[Robert28]

Yeah if you are in shvtholes lol. This is why living in a key parts of major cities is key.

Plenty of them in big cities too lol

 

[CornbreadFed]

Plenty of them in big cities too lol

The ghettos of big cities

How many single moms have you dated? Aren't you the product of a single mom? Whats your relationship with your mom like? You've got some really strong negative feelings towards them.

Nah I was raised by my dad and then step mom. I am in talking terms with my mom, but I do not respect her at all. I have never dated a single mom ever.

 

[SW15]

I am a childless man. In a longer term dating relationship, I'm not going to mix well with a single mother. My lifestyle and my priorities are too different from hers. We also have much different life experiences too.

I refuse to raise another man’s kid and bail out a woman from her life mistakes. I said I because I believe we need men to be able to do these things to help society, but I am not going to be that person lol.

I think this way as well. There are a few single moms who are legitimate widows, but most are not. There's an argument that can be made to help the legitimate widows, but I am not going to be that guy. Most women 45 and under are not widows.

In addition, where there is smoke there is fire. Single moms are broken women and have many other problems that you cannot see upfront. You might not see them now, but those skeletons in the closet are bound to creep up on you eventually.

True

I never see her kids or kid- Yeah right now you do not see her kids, but that does not mean it will stay like that. If you decide have any deeper relationship with this woman, you will have to come to terms with her being a single mom. Oh, you are just going to pump and dump her, but I will see you post about her 5 months from now…hmmmmm.

Some men are able to have short term casual sex with single moms. It'd be difficult to keep this arrangement going for more than 6 months. Repeating this cycle every 6 months for multiple years sounds exhausting and a waste of time.

I have kids of my own already- Your kids have the ability to get friends of their own. Plus, a single mom will always prioritize her kids first, not yours. A non single mom will have no choice but prioritize your kids and not have any of the baggage of a single mom weighing her down.

There is a certain compatibility between single dads and single moms. I generally don't fault single dads for dating single moms. In the longer term, this does create difficult blended family situations.

I am in my 30s, 40s, early 50s so the only women available are single moms- I am sorry, but this is just code for I have low smv or laziness/stubbornness. In the modern age, women are delaying child birth and you have the ability to be a passport bro or something silly lol. There are plenty of fertile childless women roaming around this earth, so quit the Cap.

This is common. Men who are 33-50 are often dealing with single moms with children under 15 in their dating pools. After age 50, if a man is dating women close to his own age (this is the reality for most men), he'll start dealing with women whose children are 18+ adults.

I think it is a good idea for childless men in their 30s and 40s to hold out for childless women.

 

[SW15]

The problem is the dating pool is legit 80% single moms.

Yeah if you are in shvtholes lol. This is why living in a key parts of major cities is key.

@Robert28 has valid feelings. As mentioned earlier, at a certain age, it's unavoidable that more men will be encountering single moms. They'll show up in his swipe apps if he uses them. If a man doesn't use swipe apps and lives in a part of a major city that is mainly unmarried women, he can avoid this to extent. The question becomes if the older childless man can date younger childless women.

Plenty of them in big cities too lol

The ghettos of big cities

Middle class or higher single moms will tend to live in the suburbs as they got the suburban house in the divorce.

Single moms don't tend to live in the desirable neighborhoods that contain mostly unmarried people in big cities. These are often 'yuppie' neighborhoods. Yuppie neighborhoods don't tend to have good school districts and the housing stock is more of apartments and condominiums.

In bigger cities, the single moms in the main city are more in the ghetto areas of the big city. You can probably also find some single moms in single family houses in older neighborhoods in big cities or older homes in inner ring suburbs as well. These women aren't technically ghetto but they might be lower middle class and possibly near the middle of middle class at best.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

Really as a young man in his late 20s I agree you absolutely should only date young women who are childless and never married. Why would you need to date single moms if you are a desirable guy? This seems pretty obvious to me.

All the rest is a bunch of silly posturing. The comments about single moms only seeking a father figure or some other guy’s resources? Well duh. Those women are users. Avoid them. But there are plenty of childless users out there too. Have some sense.

I don’t need a man for his money and I don’t need a father figure for my kids either. They have a dad who loves them, and nobody I date is expected to fill that role or financially rescue me.

Needless to say, I don’t experience any trouble in the dating market with older teen girls and an adult college age son (whose education I paid for until he was awarded a scholarship)…..

Just hold out for women with their lives together. Simple.

 

[Gamisch]

This post is more composed than your previous post about this topic, salute.

I just dont agree with these statements:
1. Her previous mistakes
2. Raising another man's child

1. I have a daughter, so perhaps at some point pregnancy and abortion becomes a topic. I would tell her to think twice about abortion, as it will leave a mental scar that many women never recover from. Yes ,perhaps she'll meet a cornbread type of guy one day(wink) but perhaps he is infertile...who knows.


2. Again, she never even knew Cornbread existed untill she met him. Its a male thing to think children are a mistake. Its a mistake in YOUR eyes, because its a burden that takes away feckie seckie time..

Its funny, I tend to respect a man that is willing to be the MAN in a child's life, regardless of whose her/his real father. I am a man, father, brother and caregiver 24/7. I can be with a child I've never seen before and yet take up the father role if necessary

But yeah, i am also not the type of man to walk away when someone gets beaten up.

Generally I love to love.

 

[Hal9000]

If I was young I'd definitely steer clear of single moms, however once you start talking about women in their 40s or 50s single moms kids are already away at college or have left the home entirely so its an entirely different dynamic.

 

[Dr.Suave]

The only exception is if this girl is the carbon copy looks wise of my ideal female(it’s a rare look btw) because I am not going to pass up the chance to bang that.

Otherwise, I refuse to raise another man’s kid and bail out a woman from her life mistakes. I said I because I believe we need men to be able to do these things to help society, but I am not going to be that person lol. In addition, where there is smoke there is fire. Single moms are broken women and have many other problems that you cannot see upfront. You might not see them now, but those skeletons in the closet are bound to creep up on you eventually.

Remember, this is my personal opinion and I have zero intentions of influencing any other poster’s opinions.

Now here are the arguments I usually get from guys that date single moms.

She is hot- And???? Are single moms the only hot women or am I missing something?

I never see her kids or kid- Yeah right now you do not see her kids, but that does not mean it will stay like that. If you decide have any deeper relationship with this woman, you will have to come to terms with her being a single mom. Oh, you are just going to pump and dump her, but I will see you post about her 5 months from now…hmmmmm.

I have kids of my own already- Your kids have the ability to get friends of their own. Plus, a single mom will always prioritize her kids first, not yours. A non single mom will have no choice but prioritize your kids and not have any of the baggage of a single mom weighing her down.

I am in my 30s, 40s, early 50s so the only women available are single moms- I am sorry, but this is just code for I have low smv or laziness/stubbornness. In the modern age, women are delaying child birth and you have the ability to be a passport bro or something silly lol. There are plenty of fertile childless women roaming around this earth, so quit the Cap.

I like their personality/qualities about them- Cool, well own up to the fact that you like single moms instead of throwing out these excuses. If you like something, be proud and own up to it!

Welcome to the "No Single Moms but we dont judge others if they are into that kind of thing" club.

 

[pipeman84]

My take is that it depends on what you want out of dating.
If you want to meet a quality woman to start a family with, dating a single mom makes as much sense as dating a 55yrs old woman.
If you want a 'plate', then what difference does it make that she has one or more children?
I've seen seen several guys on this forum stating with superiority that they wouldn't date a single mom yet they are on swipe apps and date the hoes that are on there. This double standard doesn't make any logical sense to me.

 

[SW15]

If you want a 'plate', then what difference does it make that she has one or more children?

Childless women have fewer life commitments that can get in the way of having sex. In a plate situation, that would be an advantage.

For childless serial monogamist men or childless men seeking a marital partner, the single mom doesn't make a lot of sense.

I've seen seen several guys on this forum stating with superiority that they wouldn't date a single mom yet they are on swipe apps and date the hoes that are on there. This double standard doesn't make any logical sense to me.

Some of the 304s on swipe apps can hide their promiscuity. A single mom has evidence of her failed relationships whereas the only evidence of the failed relationships for the childless women is the emotional pain that appears in her behaviors.

 

[pipeman84]

Some of the 304s on swipe apps can hide their promiscuity. A single mom has evidence of her failed relationships whereas the only evidence of the failed relationships for the childless women is the emotional pain that appears in her behaviors.

But the guy that's so set against dating single moms goes on swipe apps (basically a pool of women with various issues) and applies the 'sex by 3rd date or next' rule, making it virtually certain he'll get with a promiscuous woman. It's illogical, incongruent behavior.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Analysis paralysis, mental masturbation, call it what you will but I guarantee each and every one of you fochers would fnck a hot single mom if you could.

Posture much?

 

[CornbreadFed]

Analysis paralysis, mental masturbation, call it what you will but I guarantee each and every one of you fochers would fnck a hot single mom if you could.

Posture much?

Unless she’s the carbon copy of my ideal type, no way lol.

 

[SW15]

But the guy that's so set against dating single moms goes on swipe apps (basically a pool of women with various issues) and applies the 'sex by 3rd date or next' rule, making it virtually certain he'll get with a promiscuous woman. It's illogical, incongruent behavior.

Both men and women go to swipe apps when they can't meet anyone in real life. Automatically, the pool is really bad. It's the tech equivalent of the real life "structured singles event". On swipe apps, women with various issues are able to get abundance that they'd never get if they weren't using swipe apps.

A lot of men get sex within the first 3 dates. I typically get sex within 3 dates.