Why are you so obsessed with being "hot"? Your post is dripping with insecurity. You are a woman in her 50's, a mother (and perhaps even a grandmother or a soon-to-be grandmother). Your value to the world should not be based on your looks. It should be based on how good of a job you've done raising your kids, on whether you've been a good and supportive wife to your husband, and on how well you've taken care of your family.
This is the problem with women these days. They feel like they have nothing of value to offer except for their looks (and in fairness, they are often correct about that), so once their looks start to fade, women go bonkers. They are incapable of gracefully transitioning into the post-fertility stage, which I find quite sad. If you look at old photographs (i.e from the 80's and earlier decades) and compare how women int he 40+ age group looked back then, the difference is stunning. They may not have been wearing booty shorts and crop top shirts and pretending to be teenagers but they had a certain dignity about them is lacking in most modern females.
No insecurity whatsoever.
Ok. All men should hold out for an 18 year old virgin who is beautiful and wise beyond her years. Problem is that there simply are not enough of that to go around and those girls are not going to choose 30 something PUA types.
And men who can grab women like that lock them down, further reducing those available in the wild.
Of course maybe it’s simpler to fantasize about such girls on OnlyFans or other media outlets that cater to attention seeking women who will never give their male orbiters the time of day. That’s healthy, sure.
Look. I get criticized irregardless of what I say but it is worth reminding the audience that no, all women past 27 are actually not washed up.
Men here are looking to be successful with women and are here because they lack the success they want and/or they’ve had a bad experience or several in their relationships. I mean I’d love George Clooney too but he’s already married and I wasn’t going to run into him anyway. I’m not sitting around thinking I’m a loser because I can’t have George Clooney.
But you’ve got guys here sitting around whining about women in the echo chamber.
Plenty of men are successful with women, including a subset of men here. It’s just that the typical man who is successful with women is not here. Why would he be? He’s generally happy and enjoying life & his relationships, whatever construct that entails whether it be married or doing the full on playboy life or something in between.
I mention my looks, I’m insecure. I mention my (younger) man people’s heads explode around here. Why?
Because the belief system is challenged by the fact that I and women like me exist. By the fact that my fiancé chose me over other women including women 20 years younger, and that he is the kind of man plenty of men here aspire to be.
I mean the name of this thread is “Women today…..”
I mean everyone here should be blissfully happy since you guys know everything already. Why all the theory? Why all the complaints? The generalizations?
I’m having success in my life and relationship but my life doesn’t fit the belief system around here. I think that’s interesting. That’s all.
Maybe some here could do with less dogma & more life experience. Belief systems can be limiting. Open your mind to other possibilities and carve out your best self. That will increase your appeal, whatever your target market.
I quit trying to please everyone decades ago. No matter what I say some will criticize. Big deal & no worries.
I have always comported myself with class. As I learned from the women in my family.
