Broke up with my girlfriend

[Murk]

You dont know the full story. You just spout with a poison tongue

Bit ironic considering the way you entered this thread, no? We have all given you the same advice on your pathetic situation, I believe you are truly lost.

 

[Divorced w 3]

This looks like schadenfreude. Anyway, i dont mind Murk venting and being honest in the process. We dont know him and the only way to get sincere feedback is ny being sincere.

Lets not fool our selves; we all have or had at least 1 woman who was toxic for whatever reason , and for whatever reason we tried to make it work. Tried to be forgiven, tried to have mercy on her soul.

If anything , i salute Murk for inspiring other men to have some damn standards. Again lets not fool our selves that her MMF threesome is worse than riding the CC, going through countless ONS's, cheating on her partner(s), fecking multiple men from the same crew or being single for 5 +years. Basically something you shouldn't be able to live and have peace with.

She is being held responsible for her past life and actions, like a ex con . Yes it was long ago but you can't unthrow a stone,or unsay a word.

This is exactly right. You have to take people for who they are in front of you. I have a past also. I’m glad I’m judged on who I am today.

 

[Rainman4707]

Bit ironic considering the way you entered this thread, no? We have all given you the same advice on your pathetic situation, I believe you are truly lost.

Dont normally talk to idiots, but had to make an exception when i read your post because its so hypocritical.

 

[Murk]

Dont normally talk to idiots, but had to make an exception when i read your post because its so hypocritical.

Me showing some backbone and dumping an ex gf because of her past, is not the same as you committing to a married, alcoholic, single mother that is not allowed to see her kids by law. Take the L and keep it moving. I have.

 

[Macadellic]

Don’t understand the back and forth bickering.

OP,
Pumped and dumped a withering slut
and he is now better for it gaining experience.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Don’t understand the back and forth bickering.

OP,
Pumped and dumped a withering slut
and he is now better for it gaining experience.

Yeah, I don’t see why people are giving the OP a hard time. What happened to the abundance mentality?

 

[RBK]

Ahhh yes the Devils threesome.

 

[Rainman4707]

Don’t understand the back and forth bickering.

OP,
Pumped and dumped a withering slut
and he is now better for it gaining experience.

Just like i am...but he griefs me for it.

 

[Stanley]

Just like i am...but he griefs me for it.

Just let it go man, you don't have to defend yourself or let someone else get under your skin. You're good

 

[anonymous12345]

It’s amazing how men are formed into accepting ****ty women. If I view my biological dad in these kind of situations I would see him acceptably smile happily and excuse it all with modern women. But as said, such girls are double egged swords.

I’m in the same situation: a hb is flirting me, massive past, post wall, and now wants to park at me and me accept. My plan is plate, but as stated, it is mentally demanding. She did her choices.

 

[MtmVaott]

OP do you have a problem with her past or with your past?
Serious question.

 

[Murk]

OP do you have a problem with her past or with your past?
Serious question.

I have a problem with her past, I have 0 issues with my own past.

 

[MtmVaott]

I have a problem with her past, I have 0 issues with my own past.

That's weird, since you detest her sexual past, especially the threesomes, but on the same hand made implications you were as promiscuous and had threesomes yourself.
It seems you now have a different opinion on sexuality, what begs the question if you are ashamed of your sexual past.
And you seem to have double standards (men vs. women).
You are either sexually closed and have to make peace with your past sexual experiences and find a woman that is as closed or has changed her mind herself or you are sexually open and look for a sexually open woman.
No middle ground.

 

[FinallyAlpha]

I've posted threads about her in the past so wanted to update you that I did brake up with my ex gf a little while ago.

Hi Murk. Yours are some of the few posts from regulars that I read on here. The philosophy of being candid so that you can learn from feedback is a solid one. I'm going to try and adopt that too.

Sounds like a step in the right direction. Good luck out there. Keep us posted. Keep growing and challenging yourself!

 

[Millard Fillmore]

This is why I recommend talking about sexual pasts within the first fukk or two (if you're going to talk about it at all).

At that stage she is a plate and a notch. So if she's been with 30 guys or whatever you can decide whether to be one and done or keep her around as a plate, or date seriously if you're cool with it, or not bone at all. Just be non judgmental and open and talk about it. Fantasies too. Once feelz get mixed in people get weird.

 

[Murk]

That's weird, since you detest her sexual past, especially the threesomes, but on the same hand made implications you were as promiscuous and had threesomes yourself.
It seems you now have a different opinion on sexuality, what begs the question if you are ashamed of your sexual past.
And you seem to have double standards (men vs. women).
You are either sexually closed and have to make peace with your past sexual experiences and find a woman that is as closed or has changed her mind herself or you are sexually open and look for a sexually open woman.
No middle ground.

You seem like a cuck, a child, or someone with limited experience. All three are fine to be but let's explore this a little for you.

I have a body count of 57 or 58 including about 6 escorts, smashed 26 women in 12 months after a bad breakup in 2017. However, I've never had a threesome. Even if I did that changes nothing. The idea of a girl being used not once, but twice, is ok if she's a fwb - but I can't accept that for the mother of my children/wife. I don't want to parrot the redpill/manosphere talking point but they are true - men have to earn value and sex, women just have to say yes - this greatly cheapens the experience. My ex gf knew about my escapades and didn't care, she knew I was seeing multiple girls when we met and even caught me out a couple times, she didn't care.

Men and women are not the same. If you think mine and my ex gf's sexual pasts are the same you're deluded. Women need to preserve and protect their value, beauty, youth, chastity, and feminity. You're not getting that from an old haggard ran through women.

Hi Murk. Yours are some of the few posts from regulars that I read on here. The philosophy of being candid so that you can learn from feedback is a solid one. I'm going to try and adopt that too.

Sounds like a step in the right direction. Good luck out there. Keep us posted. Keep growing and challenging yourself!

Thanks, I kinda joined the forum at a messy point in my life so was very open and I think it's best for me to stick with this posting style on here, good, bad and the ugly.

 

[CBear]

You seem like a cuck, a child, or someone with limited experience. All three are fine to be but let's explore this a little for you.

I have a body count of 57 or 58 including about 6 escorts, smashed 26 women in 12 months after a bad breakup in 2017. However, I've never had a threesome. Even if I did that changes nothing. The idea of a girl being used not once, but twice, is ok if she's a fwb - but I can't accept that for the mother of my children/wife. I don't want to parrot the redpill/manosphere talking point but they are true - men have to earn value and sex, women just have to say yes - this greatly cheapens the experience. My ex gf knew about my escapades and didn't care, she knew I was seeing multiple girls when we met and even caught me out a couple times, she didn't care.

Men and women are not the same. If you think mine and my ex gf's sexual pasts are the same you're deluded. Women need to preserve and protect their value, beauty, youth, chastity, and feminity. You're not getting that from an old haggard ran through women.


Thanks, I kinda joined the forum at a messy point in my life so was very open and I think it's best for me to stick with this posting style on here, good, bad and the ugly.

I think the point he was making is that a woman can and will judge you on your past and has every right to. As a man, having self respect and standards is key and a h0e with a past should never be accepted (for me that was anyone with a body count over 5 in their mid 20s but I think for most, it should be anyone with a body count over double digits). However, if you find someone who is actually good potential for being a mother or doesn't have a history, automatic rejection or built up disgust or anger by her towards you is something you can't be angry at either. And don't hide things from her either if you don't want her to do the same. Just keep those things in mind. Again, glad everything is going well and keep up the good work.

 

[MtmVaott]

You seem like a cuck, a child, or someone with limited experience. All three are fine to be but let's explore this a little for you.

I have a body count of 57 or 58 including about 6 escorts, smashed 26 women in 12 months after a bad breakup in 2017. However, I've never had a threesome. Even if I did that changes nothing. The idea of a girl being used not once, but twice, is ok if she's a fwb - but I can't accept that for the mother of my children/wife. I don't want to parrot the redpill/manosphere talking point but they are true - men have to earn value and sex, women just have to say yes - this greatly cheapens the experience. My ex gf knew about my escapades and didn't care, she knew I was seeing multiple girls when we met and even caught me out a couple times, she didn't care.

Men and women are not the same. If you think mine and my ex gf's sexual pasts are the same you're deluded. Women need to preserve and protect their value, beauty, youth, chastity, and feminity. You're not getting that from an old haggard ran through women.

We have different opininions, let's keep it that way.
If you are so determined about your view on things, which is in line with the general opinion in the 'manosphere', breaking it off was understandable and absolutely the right thing.

@CBear My main point is that having double standards just lacks integrity. If you are a guy who is sexually uninhibited, you simply do not want a non. Not short-term, and certainly not for the rest of your life. On the other hand, if you have strong religious beliefs/strict sexual morale, you don't want a sexually uninhibited women, more a virgin or a woman with few partners and no interest in ONS.
No matter if you are sexually uninhibited or hibited, making a woman that currently has or recently had big self esteem issues and is unstable is a bad choice for marriage.
This is really just common sense.

 

[Dr.Suave]

I think the point he was making is that a woman can and will judge you on your past and has every right to.

High interest women dont care about your sexual past.

 

[CBear]

High interest women dont care about your sexual past.

High interest men don't care about a woman's sexual past. That's how we get most of the trainwreck stories on the forum.