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Why wouldn't you want to be the most dominant man and climb up the hierarchy, if that's what you have to do?

Any normal male wouldn't want his daughter to get with someone broke as it's more likely that the person won't be able to have the resources or the will to protect or provide for her or her family, aka, your legacy. This is moreso in the interest of you than the actual female.
I reporting what is truthful. Your statement is that people who don’t reject their primal side are unintelligent. Logic says therefore women are unintelligent. They refuse to “settle” for lesser or even average men, instead they share the top guys. More women are in relationships than men, thus indicating that infidelity is a mathematical reality.
 

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I reporting what is truthful. Your statement is that people who don’t reject their primal side are unintelligent. Logic says therefore women are unintelligent. They refuse to “settle” for lesser or even average men, instead they share the top guys. More women are in relationships than men, thus indicating that infidelity is a mathematical reality.
What you stated is the female equivalent of a man "spreading his seed" nowadays. So yes, both of these equal low IQ humans.
 

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What you stated is the female equivalent of a man "spreading his seed" nowadays. So yes, both of these equal low IQ humans.
Yes, the female equivalent.

Data says all women act this way. Are they unintelligent?

If monogamy were reality, the number of men and women in committed relationships would be equivalent. Instead, there is a huge discrepancy. Infidelity is rampant.
 

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Yes, the female equivalent.

Data says all women act this way. Are they unintelligent?

If monogamy were reality, the number of men and women in committed relationships would be equivalent. Instead, there is a huge discrepancy. Infidelity is rampant.
60% of women in relationships while 30% of men in relationships does not determine that all women act this way. But yes, if you're in a relationship with an unfaithful person, then obviously you don't mind them being unfaithful. This agreement was never mentioned by op, however.
 

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60% of women in relationships while 30% of men in relationships does not determine that all women act this way. But yes, if you're in a relationship with an unfaithful person, then obviously you don't mind them being unfaithful. This agreement was never mentioned by op, however.
It literally does. The math says there is infidelity all over the place. Whether it’s “sanctioned” or not, women are sharing men. Women can have lesser men all to themselves… yet the data says this is the opposite of is actually going on.
 

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It literally does. The math says there is infidelity all over the place. Whether it’s “sanctioned” or not, women are sharing men. Women can have lesser men all to themselves… yet the data says this is the opposite of is actually going on.
The problem with interpreting these numbers at surface level is that anyone can literally make another study that would go against your belief. Belief because it seems as if there is a perception that has been had before this study which affects the way that you see the results. The next problem is not understanding the limitations of each study, and generalizing them with the entire population.
 

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What is 'right' and 'wrong' is up to the individual.

We can argue over the semantics of it, but ultimately it comes down to whatever moral compass that person has created. For some cheating may be immoral, for others not... Why argue over it? Everyone is entitled to feel a certain way... and to attempt to change someone's view on the matter is a waste of time an energy. Citing empiricism to rationalize a viewpoint doesn't mean that viewpoint is 'correct', it is simply your view point.

Facts are objective and opinions are subjective ideas held by individuals and so are always biased.

A fact is a true statement and that is not the same thing as a statement of truth. Facts lead to a specific point in time with a specific circumstance. Facts, numbers, studies or whatever form of empiricism you utilize changes with time, with more research, with changing viewpoints, with conflicting results and so on. Focusing solely on empirical data leads you to a narrow viewpoint and develops self limiting belief systems and reaffirms confirmation biases. Things are not so black and white.

I’d never cheated on a relationship before, but once I did, I was in pain and guilt. Continuing to cheat more didn’t resolve anything. It was selfish on my part. What this helped me realise is that I cheated due to my expectations not being met. Even when some of those expectations weren’t justified. My woman’s unavailability when I wanted to communicate, meet etc pissed me off because I didn’t trust her. The issue is, even when she hasn’t given me any real reason, and has just showered love on me. Ironically, I broke her trust due to my own trust issues.I’ve realised that it can hurt the person who betrays just like the person who got betrayed. This helps me understand that not everyone is inherently untrustworthy, and even someone breaks your trust, they would regret and feel guilt and pain, they will suffer. Maybe with the loss of someone who loved them, or in silence with the guilt/pain.
Mr.Darksprezzatura knows himself very well (clearly) and we can only project what we think is 'correct' from our frame of reference. A moral compass is the person's ability to judge what is right and wrong and act accordingly from their point of view. What defines that right or wrong comes down to the person. I think op views his actions as amoral.

@catsmeow2 I read the article and made a lengthy write up, but ended up canning it. I'm checking out of this, we've reached reddit levels of arguing here. I agree and disagree with many of the views expressed here in this thread, but have no inclination to 'fight' or oppose anyones views beyond this point.

I genuinely hope @darksprezzatura get's himself sorted and wish him well. We've all got our demons
 

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The problem with interpreting these numbers at surface level is that anyone can literally make my own study that would go against your belief. The next problem is not understanding the limitations of each study, and generalizing them with the entire population.
Feel free to provide counter evidence.

In the case of OP- I am not a making moral argument. OP is cheating because he can. There is an high probability that the “other woman” is single. The woman is single because she has not settled with any of the other 20 dudes messaging her. Instead, she fancies OP. This happens every day between millions of people on a macro level. Women do not settle. They share the top men.

What myself and a few others in this thread such as @Pandora point out is that the expectation to reject biology only applies to men. Women’s entire mating strategy is primal yet no one bats an eye. It is just as much the fault of women that monogamy does not work. Neither women nor men are rejecting biological mating impulses.
 

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Feel free to provide counter evidence.

In the case of OP- I am not a making moral argument. OP is cheating because he can. There is an high probability that the “other woman” is single. The woman is single because she has not settled with any of the other 20 dudes messaging her. Instead, she fancies OP. This happens every day between millions of people on a macro level. Women do not settle. They share the top men.

What myself and a few others in this thread such as @Pandora point out is that the expectation to reject biology only applies to men. Women’s entire mating strategy is primal yet no one bats an eye. It is just as much the fault of women that monogamy does not work. Neither women nor men are rejecting biological mating impulses.
I agree with you on plenty of things about this topic and I agree that generally, men are expected to reject their biology while many women don't, and it's extremely hypocritical. My personal belief is that accountability and self control is what makes myself powerful and it is very fulfilling to me, personally. I have seen many times what happens to people who follow and can't control their desires, men and women. And although it is nice at the moment, long term, it screws with then mentally and they usually they die miserable. That is just my experience, however. Most people don't get the privilege to see this until they, themselves, are living it.

That is why I hold my view that if you and the other person are fine with cheating on each other, go for it. But if one is deceiving another, man or woman, that is another story.
 

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Personally I don’t want to cheat.

I want to break up with her.

I’ve expressed that many times, and in a way that’s civil and kind and we both stay in touch and get back together. This keeps repeating.

I feel like I am not taking a stand and acting weak and spineless because I love her (or so I feel). This is the reason why it has been so hard to let her go.

Ive suggested us being in an open relationship, which she is accepting but not happily I can see her discomfort knowing I’ll be sleeping with other people while she doesn’t want to.

Right now, I’m just taking my time to decide what I really want, where my life is going etc than worry about these moral issues.

I’ve learnt a lot from this relationship and consider the woman a gem for having the patience to deal with my immature man-childish behaviour.

The guilt gets amplified due to this, considering she’s helped me grow emotionally, sticking by.

I wish there was a way that I could make it up to her for the dishonesty I’ve exhibited.

It just seems to me, theres no recovery from cheating. The relationship is doomed. I should break up with her without confessing. Let her go without the scars and have the balls to move on.

I keep staying, hoping to find a way that we could still make this work.
 
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It is a direct response.

“There is a certain lack of intelligence to those who have no control over their primal side.”

Women have no control over their primal side.
That is ridiculous. Hell. I’ve been away from my man this weekend for an event. Made utterly zero effort to meet men, I’m a taken woman. High value men everywhere & several actively hit on me. This afternoon I did some shopping before heading to the airport. One of the shopkeepers comped me a glass of wine at a neighboring wine bar. I walk in & present my comp. A super handsome super charming man who I would otherwise have had very high interest in sat down next to me & chats me up. Cool, smooth, edgy, sexy, gorgeous. Also well off. Exactly my type. What do I do? I’m polite and conversational but I immediately begin talking about my fiancé. Despite this guy doing his level best to charm me, despite him requesting my number and gushing about my looks, my eyes etc etc etc. I was wearing my ring. I made it utterly clear I’m taken & that’s that. Nobody would know if I were to give this guy my contact, etc. I didn’t. That is the importance of character people.

There are women with character. I am one. I am not the only one.

Sheesh.
 

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I actually felt that I was being taken for granted by her. I made the mistake to accommodate her at the expense of my focus on my own life and goals. Lesson learnt.

I feel letting her go without any emotional scars of my blunders is the way to go.
 

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She came over, smashed my brains out, tried to resolve whatever is bothering me, asking me how she can make me happy etc.
 

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