soulforge
Master Don Juan
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Calling BS on that. No person (i.e. your gf's friend) can "influence" another person (i.e. your gf) without her permission.
I mean come on, she is grown ass woman @soulforge she knows what's appropriate behavior for a woman in an exclusive relationship and what's not.
And as such, if she goes along with her BFF suggesting doing something untoward (like hanging and drinking at a bar for example) when you both had made the agreement that doing so was off limits, that was just wrong and reflects very poor character on her part imo.
And yeah, if you can't trust her to respect mutually-agreed upon boundaries, what the hell is there?
This is the problem with imposing strict rules such as "you can't do this, you're not allowed to do that," she's not your child! Nor are YOU hers.
Said before but a good girlfriend that you should be considering for long term should already know how to behave properly, a man should not have to impose rules to get her to behave the way HE wants.
Observe her behavior before long terming, if she does NOT meet your particular standards, whatever they may be, dump her for heaven's sake.
Good luck!!
Totally agree with you. And the fact that she didn't contact me and let me know she has come home, already tells me that she isn't behaving in an ideal manner.
I personally don't think she went to a bar or anything.. However it's possible.
I will be meeting her this weekend, and I think there will more clarity on what went on that night.
If it does turn out that she went to a bar drinking etc, then I won't hesitate to end things with her.
It's not a crime to go drinking at a bar, however it's not what I want in my life.
Also I don't want a woman who doesn't respect my boundaries