Confrontation 1 minute from my house

[RazorRambo24]

I've deleted my posts to not incriminate myself, feel free to close.

This is so embarassing.. all of it. You're worried about incriminating yourself on an online forum that virtual no one knows about, but you didn't think about the fact that you are messing with 2 random guys who you know nothing of waht they are capable of and vandalizing their property.. I mean these dudes are driving around in an unmarked white van for one.. You gotta use more sense.

You showed everyone here you have this weird lil man/victim syndrome that made u lash back out at these people like they pinned you up against a wallby your collar and made u give them your money .. just because they were backing up their vehicle while you happened to cross by?

Maybe I'm looking at it from a diff perspective than yours.. I live/grew up in Chicago and have dealt with some of the craziest movie-like scenarios and I don't even bring those stories up in convos almost ever.. then we got you here, your feelings hurt so badly by2 guys who were harmlessly backing up their vehicle lol

I feel for you though man.. you'd be a good person to mentor because part of me feels like you need some guidance. like you might have felt like a victim or less than otherpeople many times in your life ? or do you just have serious anger issues?

When a man acts like this, it says something is not right about his personal power. lik ehe feels he has diminished personal power / is weaker than others or perceived that way.. Whereas a man who people can look atand be like "man id never mess with that guy" would not even have to say a word.. even if those dudes yelled at him instaed of him yell at them first.. he would just be like "ahha okay"and keep walking like "funny guys"..

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

As I walk behind it (about a 3-meter gap) it reversed suddenly causing me to do a little quick maneuver to get past. I immediately come round and shout to the guy "wtf are you doing"

I don't know man, it'd be easier to assume the worst before anything happens and just use some defensive walking.

Kind of like motorcycle riding. Base your actions on the assumption that you are invisible to everybody.

Proactively swallowing a little bit of pride up front is better than a few days of ego rage.

 

[manfrombelow]

I always somehow recognize myself in your posts. Let me tell you this; when I had therapy I was told that holding grudges is a feminine trait.

Just out of curiosity bro. Do you still believe in this? (holding a grudge is a feminine trait)

And now are you holding any kind of grudges at all?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This type of stuff is never worth it. Let it go

 

[Divorced w 3]

This is so embarassing.. all of it. You're worried about incriminating yourself on an online forum that virtual no one knows about, but you didn't think about the fact that you are messing with 2 random guys who you know nothing of waht they are capable of and vandalizing their property.. I mean these dudes are driving around in an unmarked white van for one.. You gotta use more sense.

You showed everyone here you have this weird lil man/victim syndrome that made u lash back out at these people like they pinned you up against a wallby your collar and made u give them your money .. just because they were backing up their vehicle while you happened to cross by?

Maybe I'm looking at it from a diff perspective than yours.. I live/grew up in Chicago and have dealt with some of the craziest movie-like scenarios and I don't even bring those stories up in convos almost ever.. then we got you here, your feelings hurt so badly by2 guys who were harmlessly backing up their vehicle lol

I feel for you though man.. you'd be a good person to mentor because part of me feels like you need some guidance. like you might have felt like a victim or less than otherpeople many times in your life ? or do you just have serious anger issues?

When a man acts like this, it says something is not right about his personal power. lik ehe feels he has diminished personal power / is weaker than others or perceived that way.. Whereas a man who people can look atand be like "man id never mess with that guy" would not even have to say a word.. even if those dudes yelled at him instaed of him yell at them first.. he would just be like "ahha okay"and keep walking like "funny guys"..

Normally I would just hit like but this deserves more. Well said. Very well said.

i could have added on my plate post about a fight I walked away from. Didn’t.

tonight I found out that my psychopath ex wife fvcked my entire work day up for a barre class. Won’t divulge but after letting that simmer for maybe an hour, including slamming the back door to the house until I got a look at her right in the eyes thinking it was a guy in there and not a barre class woman. i kept it cool enough until I said clean up when you’re done, if she was recoding that I guess I can just say I was concerned she wouldn’t have the house ready to babysit tomorrow but why even let it get there? Why have the shadow cast on me by the court, the lawyer, just my coparent relationship?

I read my daughter a book and you know what it melted away and I actually feel the calmest I have felt all day.

I am as guilty as anyone in grudges and short fuses but, they’re only good in bursts. Machine guns are super lethal in burst too. But if you stay hot for too long the barrel melts. And that’s the metaphors for the grudge, melting your frame and life with it.

(easier said than done)

 

[BillyPilgrim]

You should be careful of people pushing you over the edge OP, with the Earth being flat and all.

 

[CollegeMan22]

Read the Stoics. They will help you. Remember that the past is something you can never change. Any mental effort spent in anger or sadness about it is needless suffering. Do you want to keep suffering? No? Then stop.

Furthermore, you are allowing this person to hurt you emotionally. If a child insults you, you do not take it seriously and laugh it off. You DO NOT ALLOW the child to hurt you. So too, you must not allow any person’s incitements to hurt you. That is your decision. Act as if they are a silly, stupid child.

The question is: do you want to suffer more, or less? If less, then focus on that which you can control and attempt to relinquish all else.

 

[Murk]

I don't know man, it'd be easier to assume the worst before anything happens and just use some defensive walking.

Kind of like motorcycle riding. Base your actions on the assumption that you are invisible to everybody.

Proactively swallowing a little bit of pride up front is better than a few days of ego rage.

I did use defensive walking, I as alert the whole time. I'm not hearing this was my fault.

Read the Stoics. They will help you. Remember that the past is something you can never change. Any mental effort spent in anger or sadness about it is needless suffering. Do you want to keep suffering? No? Then stop.

Furthermore, you are allowing this person to hurt you emotionally. If a child insults you, you do not take it seriously and laugh it off. You DO NOT ALLOW the child to hurt you. So too, you must not allow any person’s incitements to hurt you. That is your decision. Act as if they are a silly, stupid child.

The question is: do you want to suffer more, or less? If less, then focus on that which you can control and attempt to relinquish all else.

By exacting revenge I moved on, felt good, felt in control of the situation. For it it worked.

This is so embarassing.. all of it. You're worried about incriminating yourself on an online forum that virtual no one knows about, but you didn't think about the fact that you are messing with 2 random guys who you know nothing of waht they are capable of and vandalizing their property.. I mean these dudes are driving around in an unmarked white van for one.. You gotta use more sense.

You showed everyone here you have this weird lil man/victim syndrome that made u lash back out at these people like they pinned you up against a wallby your collar and made u give them your money .. just because they were backing up their vehicle while you happened to cross by?

Maybe I'm looking at it from a diff perspective than yours.. I live/grew up in Chicago and have dealt with some of the craziest movie-like scenarios and I don't even bring those stories up in convos almost ever.. then we got you here, your feelings hurt so badly by2 guys who were harmlessly backing up their vehicle lol

I feel for you though man.. you'd be a good person to mentor because part of me feels like you need some guidance. like you might have felt like a victim or less than otherpeople many times in your life ? or do you just have serious anger issues?

When a man acts like this, it says something is not right about his personal power. lik ehe feels he has diminished personal power / is weaker than others or perceived that way.. Whereas a man who people can look atand be like "man id never mess with that guy" would not even have to say a word.. even if those dudes yelled at him instaed of him yell at them first.. he would just be like "ahha okay"and keep walking like "funny guys"..

I use this forum to vent and divulge things about my personal life because like you said, it's online and nobody knows me here. So I post the worst parts and sides to me and my life. Anyone that has followed my posts over the last 6 years will know that is my posting style. I'm too honest sometimes, and I give 0 fvcks what you people think of me, so let's get that straight.

I'm not here to win points, I literrally came to vent 20 minutes after it happened. I went back last night and ripped the windshield wipers off, that's why I took the license plate down, because on the off chance the guy lives locally he is now my target. The guy should be worried he's pissed me off, not the other way around.

I'm the first to admit I'm not 100% mentally ok, I have always been a loose cannon, but if you think I'm a victim, like most of you people are, you are wrong. I hold grudges, I exact revenge, it's how I sleep at night not overthinking.

I know for a fact if you got all of us in a room you guys wouldn't have so much vim. I'm 6'2 200lb 16-17% bf (im getting leaner). This guy was a ****ing worm and I was pissed off I allowed myself to be punked by two guys in my area. It's my area, not his.

@Gamisch My therapist said similar. I've actually got VERY good at walking away, being the bigger man, working on my life and focusing on my self. However, I would rather die, I would rather be murdered, than live like a fvcking pvssy or tolerate disrespect publicly. Some of us are just like that, it's not good, no, but it is what the fvck it is. We are not all the same, if you guys think I should be worried about the comeback, that guy needs to be worried I don't kick off his door at 1am.

Most of you keep your head down and avoid confrontation, that's the safest route, may you live long fruitful lives crawling on your bellies, but deep down you know in your heart you're a weasel, a pvssy.

I find it funny how everyone on this forum is against my actions but people I told in real life were in agreement I did the right thing. Different strokes.

 

[bat soup]

I've deleted my posts to not incriminate myself, feel free to close.

Good idea. Maybe in future don't post details about your criminal activity on the internet. Or better yet, don't get into dangerous vendettas every time someone isn't polite to you. There are still two of them (plus their mates and the police), they can easily guess who was responsible for the damage and they'll be on the look out for you in the neighborhood. If you did this to my car, I'd come back and wait for you to jog past again and then I'd follow you home.

 

[RangerMIke]

The world is filled with @ssholes like this. What I would have done is just walked away and ignored this. Why confront him? What possible good can come from that? If it's just your ego... than that's just stupid.

Ignore it... forget about it... move on with your life.

I had a friend about 20 years ago that was crossing a street holding a cup of coffee, there were a couple of dudes in a car that lurched the car forward to 'scare' him... it worked, he jumped and split the coffee on his hand. While they were laughing, he walked over the to passenger window and tossed what was left of the coffee in the car. One of the @ssholes pulled out a gun and shot him, making him quadriplegic... my friend would eventually die from Covid 2 years ago. They never caught the shooter.

Control your emotions...

 

[manfrombelow]

Bro but at least he was quadriplegic with pride, I'm pretty sure that showed them to not do ever again.

You're being sarcastic?

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Control your emotions...

This...... its what seperates men from women and soyboys

I know for a fact if you got all of us in a room you guys wouldn't have so much vim. I'm 6'2 200lb 16-17% bf (im getting leaner).

Most of you keep your head down and avoid confrontation, that's the safest route, may you live long fruitful lives crawling on your bellies, but deep down you know in your heart you're a weasel, a pvssy.

So basically at that height you are a skinny guy with to much bodyfat. You can holster your balls now, thank you.

Avoiding confrontation over NOTHING is the smart thing to do, everyone else is just an idiot that will one day end up dead or in prison for this reason.

If you think your life is worth ****, keep acting like that.

 

[2Rocky]

 

[2Rocky]

 

[2Rocky]

 

[Gamisch]

Elaborate please.

 

[2Rocky]

Elaborate please.

Why make yourself miserable because of someone else's mistake? Do you think it is your job to teach them to be more careful? If so how effective to you think that would be? News flash, Unless they apologized immediately they ain't. So don't set yourself up to fail. Becoming angry for hours after is just punishing yourself for their mistake.

When you work with animals, a lot of people get angry with them when they don't do what the human wants in the training process. The good trainers DON'T. They don't take it personally the way the animal reacts, and actually work harder to present themselves in a manner to the animal that makes the animal do what you want. You have to take out all the Ego, because it is not about you, its all about them.

Believe me I still get mad. A lot more than I would like. But that thought has made me a lot more effective in getting my desired outcomes from people.

 

[Gamisch]

Why make yourself miserable because of someone else's mistake? Do you think it is your job to teach them to be more careful? If so how effective to you think that would be? News flash, Unless they apologized immediately they ain't. So don't set yourself up to fail. Becoming angry for hours after is just punishing yourself for their mistake.

When you work with animals, a lot of people get angry with them when they don't do what the human wants in the training process. The good trainers DON'T. They don't take it personally the way the animal reacts, and actually work harder to present themselves in a manner to the animal that makes the animal do what you want. You have to take out all the Ego, because it is not about you, its all about them.

Believe me I still get mad. A lot more than I would like. But that thought has made me a lot more effective in getting my desired outcomes from people.

Great reply my brother

 

[Gamisch]

Just out of curiosity bro. Do you still believe in this? (holding a grudge is a feminine trait)

And now are you holding any kind of grudges at all?

Its not necessarily my believe, it was just interesting to hear her initial response. I personally do hold grudges. To my father for example who was never there. But not to the random guy who was drunk and had a big mouth. I used to be like that though, walking around with a virtual hit list.

Ofcourse it's never completely black or white. But for example; women tend to be vengeful, and hold grudges for longer periods. The classic example is a woman who brings up stuff that happened months ago.

On the other side of the spectrum we have the boys who have a "little fist fight" , but right after this all happened they are friends again. Two extremes . But a vengeful woman will be viewed as a " amusing Karen", while a vengeful man is viewed as a dangerous psychopath.

Holding grudges is only possible when you are still entwined with the negative emotions and will most of the time lead to a undesirable outcome. Especially in this society for us men it's a quick way to lose everything you've build up for years . Learning to let go quickly is beneficial if you have shyte to lose in life.

Edit: I should also add that having such a feminine trait will backfire in relationships with women. The balance is gone. Sometimes you must man up and lead the woman away from whatever emotion she has. Obviously there's a point where it becomes a thin line between being a man and being a pushover.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I did use defensive walking, I as alert the whole time. I'm not hearing this was my fault.


By exacting revenge I moved on, felt good, felt in control of the situation. For it it worked.


I use this forum to vent and divulge things about my personal life because like you said, it's online and nobody knows me here. So I post the worst parts and sides to me and my life. Anyone that has followed my posts over the last 6 years will know that is my posting style. I'm too honest sometimes, and I give 0 fvcks what you people think of me, so let's get that straight.

I'm not here to win points, I literrally came to vent 20 minutes after it happened. I went back last night and ripped the windshield wipers off, that's why I took the license plate down, because on the off chance the guy lives locally he is now my target. The guy should be worried he's pissed me off, not the other way around.

I'm the first to admit I'm not 100% mentally ok, I have always been a loose cannon, but if you think I'm a victim, like most of you people are, you are wrong. I hold grudges, I exact revenge, it's how I sleep at night not overthinking.

I know for a fact if you got all of us in a room you guys wouldn't have so much vim. I'm 6'2 200lb 16-17% bf (im getting leaner). This guy was a ****ing worm and I was pissed off I allowed myself to be punked by two guys in my area. It's my area, not his.

@Gamisch My therapist said similar. I've actually got VERY good at walking away, being the bigger man, working on my life and focusing on my self. However, I would rather die, I would rather be murdered, than live like a fvcking pvssy or tolerate disrespect publicly. Some of us are just like that, it's not good, no, but it is what the fvck it is. We are not all the same, if you guys think I should be worried about the comeback, that guy needs to be worried I don't kick off his door at 1am.

Most of you keep your head down and avoid confrontation, that's the safest route, may you live long fruitful lives crawling on your bellies, but deep down you know in your heart you're a weasel, a pvssy.

I find it funny how everyone on this forum is against my actions but people I told in real life were in agreement I did the right thing. Different strokes.

Nah bro. You simply show how easy it is for you to become flustered and bent out of shape. Trust me, if that's all it takes, women must be able to manipulate you like molding clay in their hands

I have zero interest in potentially ending up dead because someone started backing up and I felt like I need to go beat my chest at them and get in some type of screaming match.

People get killed for far less than that on a daily basis these days.

If it's not anything significant, it's not worth getting into a fight over. People who constantly need to "get respect" from others or "show them" they are right are simply people who feel insignificant in their own minds so it causes them to act out like children to try and get attention.

You don't "get respect" for acting like that, you simply make yourself look like a hotheaded fool who isn't in control of his emotions.