Plate Pushing for Commitment - Can you have your cake and eat it too?

[member160292]

We’ve been dating for 2 months and everything is going well. Submissive, morning BJ’s, very flexible with her schedule - overall good relationship material for now. Of course, there’s red flags that are still to be seen.

Have any of you danced with the idea of leading on with commitment while there are other women in the picture?

Eventually, I can see this blowing up and she walks out, but in the mean time it would be nice to see what it’s like to be with her in a pseudo-relationship kind of way.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Now is your opportunity to gather your list of demands. Set the bar high and wait until she caves.

If you want her to stay a certain weight, dress a certain way, be sexually open only on your end, etc now is the time to state it. Can’t negotiate any of this later…

To specifically answer the question- this is how you properly “lead her on.” If you really don’t want a relationship with her just set the bar impossibly high. She will walk eventually but may come back for future booty calls.

 

[RazorRambo24]

When spinning plates, there's always going to be 1 or 2 girls who think that you're theirs and that you two have a special thing with each other.. The point is, you always lead that on.. but you never put labels on it.. That way if **** hits the fan you don't feel guilty and you're not solely responsible for accountability.. because you specifically told her, there were no labels,, no strings... if she asks to be your girlfriend or demands commitment in some way.. you can make her your gf.. but then moral integrity will become ani ssue if you're still sleepign with other women.. because then you'd be cheating.. which is cool when you're growing up and dnt give a fucc.. but later on in life you start realizing its not good to cheat.. when you can play the field without strings attached

My method is always this: You only make her your girlfriend if you genuinely see her as someone you would want to be in a relationship with.. and never else... and be prepared to lose this chick completely if or when she finds out you're a dirty dog like you are

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

To me, there are only two purposes in spinning plates:

1) You want to talk to multiple women, and you let them know upfront to avoid bad situations. You don't have to be an @$$hole about it, just simply state I am not interested in a relationship right now blah blah and if you can't handle her leaving you for another man because she wants a relationship then NUT up and quit being a bvsh.

2). You are looking for a relationship and you are using it as a vetting tool to pick the right person to go in a LTR with.

I would call you out, but you said there are some possible red flags. What are these red flags? You've known this girl for two months, so you should have at least 2 figured out by now. If you don't want to date this girl in a LTR then you don't owe her shvt. However, if you do want to date her, but still cheat then you are just a clear POS lol.

 

[member160292]

She just texted if we can have a call in a couple hours 'to gain some clarity'
Ya boi Chowdah's gonna butcher this one.

 

[Macadellic]

You haven’t been long enough with this gal to fully know her. She wants something serious after 2 months, that’s a red flag itself.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

You haven’t been long enough with this gal to fully know her. She wants something serious after 2 months, that’s a red flag itself.

Why? A girl that wants a relationship is going to push for a relationship early on not beat around the bush.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

We’ve been dating for 2 months and everything is going well. Submissive, morning BJ’s, very flexible with her schedule - overall good relationship material for now. Of course, there’s red flags that are still to be seen.

Have any of you danced with the idea of leading on with commitment while there are other women in the picture?

Eventually, I can see this blowing up and she walks out, but in the mean time it would be nice to see what it’s like to be with her in a pseudo-relationship kind of way.

3-4 months is usually the limit for plates under those conditions. Things will seem great then one day they suddenly won't be. That's when she found someone else she likes that will commit to her.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I spin mercilessly - I’ve never told anyone we’re exclusive, I’ve also never been asked even after being told they are exclusive to me.

There are many reasons I do this:

1. My drive outstrips every single woman like ever. I like having sex daily, for hours, often twice (different plates).
2. I’ve had my ass handed to me when my heart was pure. Never again.
3. Variety is compelling, having more than one woman thinking you’re the best thing since sliced bread is like a drug.
4. Now I usually have one gal who I consider the main, she gets to have my favors anytime anyplace, dinners, travel, dates. The rest are more like “come over”. I test them better than anyone ever has nonetheless.

I do this with impunity and sometimes I get down on myself but then I remember the hurt I’ve experienced from women
I never thought would be capable - but there you have it. Lessons learned.

my $.02

 

[MatureDJ]

I think it's more of a question of getting the milk but not paying for it.

 

[Juanto]

I spin mercilessly - I’ve never told anyone we’re exclusive, I’ve also never been asked even after being told they are exclusive to me.

There are many reasons I do this:

1. My drive outstrips every single woman like ever. I like having sex daily, for hours, often twice (different plates).
2. I’ve had my ass handed to me when my heart was pure. Never again.
3. Variety is compelling, having more than one woman thinking you’re the best thing since sliced bread is like a drug.
4. Now I usually have one gal who I consider the main, she gets to have my favors anytime anyplace, dinners, travel, dates. The rest are more like “come over”. I test them better than anyone ever has nonetheless.

I do this with impunity and sometimes I get down on myself but then I remember the hurt I’ve experienced from women
I never thought would be capable - but there you have it. Lessons learned.

my $.02

I am pretty much like you, and some of my plates do think we are exclusive even though from my side we are not. Yes morally probably 99% of guys here (maybe rightfully so) will think I´m a piece of shyte, but like Pierce stated I have similar reasons to be like this.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I am pretty much like you, and some of my plates do think we are exclusive even though from my side we are not. Yes morally probably 99% of guys here (maybe rightfully so) will think I´m a piece of shyte, but like Pierce stated I have similar reasons to be like this.

As long as you aren’t being a hypocrite and screaming women logic & hypergamy lol

 

[Juanto]

As long as you aren’t being a hypocrite and screaming women logic & hypergamy lol

You mean moaning about women’s nature? No not at all, women are just women, with the good and bad that comes with it

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

You mean moaning about women’s nature? No not at all, women are just women, with the good and bad that comes with it

Well guys that do this rarely take any accountability lol

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

The purpose of this forum has always been about abundance and getting laid, by hook or by crook.

Plenty of dudes here play the holier than thou card - not sure why. They claim all their "hb9 plates" know that they are plates and let him tap whatever he wants because he's so fab. The reality is that if the dude even has a woman to bang, she's likely a 5-6 and thinks she's in a monogamous relationship because he told her she was. Me? I don't care what the lion's share of humanity thinks of my exploits.

There are posters here that garner my respect - but they've earned it over time. I'm here because, as a youngster, I wish I'd had a resource like this to learn all I have through trial and error over decades; I'm here to prop up my fellow man - not tear him down. I'm here to give back. Part of that is honesty - if you have someone lying to you about how things work and you try to implement it - it will most likely fail - why would I claim X but in reality have it be Y? So the men I purport to be trying to help fail? That's not the point of being here.

Telling a bunch of faceless strangers on the Internet how fabulous I am also doesn't give me any satisfaction - although I know in the younger crowd, the Internet and SM is everything - I've seen it here repeatedly - and they get their dopamine hits off a screen.

Be well brothers.

ZFG

As long as you aren’t being a hypocrite and screaming women logic & hypergamy lol

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Plenty of dudes here play the holier than thou card - not sure why. They claim all their "hb9 plates" know that they are plates and let him tap whatever he wants because he's so fab. The reality is that if the dude even has a woman to bang, she's likely a 5-6 and thinks she's in a monogamous relationship because he told her she was. Me? I don't care what the lion's share of humanity thinks of my exploits.

It's not just here, but on the internet in general. Everyone on your internet forum is a super star with the perfect anecdotal evidence to defy the norm.

 

[Juanto]

I do this with impunity and sometimes I get down on myself but then I remember the hurt I’ve experienced from women
I never thought would be capable - but there you have it. Lessons learned.

Have you ever had any bad experiences with this, with like for example being seen by one of the other girls with another one or something similar?

 

[member160292]

Now is your opportunity to gather your list of demands. Set the bar high and wait until she caves.

If you want her to stay a certain weight, dress a certain way, be sexually open only on your end, etc now is the time to state it. Can’t negotiate any of this later…

To specifically answer the question- this is how you properly “lead her on.” If you really don’t want a relationship with her just set the bar impossibly high. She will walk eventually but may come back for future booty calls.

As expected she came over and laid it down that she's not seeing anyone and if that's not the case with me, she will be walking. I told her I'm ready, but there are non-negotiable things that she must comply with. I started off with the basics

-No male friends
-No traveling alone, only with female friends I know about
-All sexual requests needs to be met
-Open communication, nothing can be vague
-She's an actress and I'll review her contracts

I'd like to get thoughts on anything else that I'm missing

 

[bat soup]

We’ve been dating for 2 months and everything is going well. Submissive, morning BJ’s, very flexible with her schedule - overall good relationship material for now. Of course, there’s red flags that are still to be seen.

Have any of you danced with the idea of leading on with commitment while there are other women in the picture?

Eventually, I can see this blowing up and she walks out, but in the mean time it would be nice to see what it’s like to be with her in a pseudo-relationship kind of way.

I went to a cafe and ordered cake. It came and was placed on the table in front of me. "Here's your cake" the waitress said, whilst she bent over and I checked out her ass. And then I ate the cake.

Proof indeed that you can have your cake and eat it.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I went to a cafe and ordered cake. It came and was placed on the table in front of me. "Here's your cake" the waitress said, whilst she bent over and I checked out her ass. And then I ate the cake.

Proof indeed that you can have your cake and eat it.

When will you peeps realize that food and @ss simply don't mix?