Women should be your Main priority in 2023?

[manfrombelow]

Not only 2023, women should NEVER be a man's main priority ever. I thought this is already common sense?

 

[Grounded eagle]

If,for whatever reason,women are the number one priority in your life,you either have nothing worthwhile going on or you simply don’t have your priorities straight.

If anything,women would be put off if they realized that getting with them was such a priority for you.They’re illogical that way.

 

[lost_blackbird]

2023 is going to be about rebuilding myself. I have already kicked THC & nicotine's butt.
Beer is next on my hit list, starting today. I have 6 months to get some weight off which
I gained very quickly from quitting smoking. At least I don't have an ongoing dependence
on nicotine replacement products. I expect quitting alcohol will make me lose weight organically
as my diet is pretty decent anyway, I have been eating more but just more good food, not sweets
biscuits and ice cream. Losing the 1000+ daily calories from beer will likely see results quite quickly.
Women do not factor at all in my plans, I'm not interested. 2023 will see in my 4th consecutive year
of celibacy and I certainly am in no hurry to change that. I have bigger fish to fry. I am due in for
some minor surgery in a few days so I will start the year with a month of regular walking, hopefully
in February if I'm healed enough, I'll be joining a gym. I have to find work by the summer, so I
intend to make full use of the free time I have until then to sort myself out a bit.

 

[Robert28]

I know your girl flaked on you man, but don't go down that path. Don't put more negativity out there, use that anger and build yourself up. I felt the same way recently and occasionally still do about women, but I have to remind myself that I am human and so are they. Hurt people Hurt people is real. That said don't take **** from women, but don't use them out of spite. By all means take advantage of the current system put don't project that bitterness onto women. Get your needs met without going on a warpath

I agree with BackintheGame78 says

It’s not just the flaking. I’ve been getting treated like **** by women lately for no reason at all. It’s not that she flaked, it’s that she waited til the very last min. She said “what time are you coming over? What kind of pizza do you want? I’ll go pick it up and text you.” Then she picks it up and texts me “hey im tired I’m just going to eat and go to bed”. I mean wtf? Then another girl Dino’s me after a month and she’s already invited me to thanksgiving on our second date so I cancel plans I had, then she dumps me a few weeks later. So yeah, never making plans with a woman ever again. Next time one invites me to something in the future I’ll just say “maybe, it depends if you keep your word or not but I’m not going to get my hopes up”.

 

[Gamisch]

You know it is funny because I actually WANT my excitement and obsession with getting girls to deteriorate eventually. I am sort of viewing this as a mission to solve a problem by allocating the amount of time and effort that is required to do so no matter how much.

So trying to get girls would be my Priority 1; priority 2 would still be the same i.e. 2A) 1 hour a day gym/mma; 2B) Working on mindset with podcasts, meeting people at social events, continuous work on looks/style.

I guess this would paint the picture of a lifestyle that while being entirely orientated around getting girls, I would still have some kind of "life". And of course eventually, once I've reached my goals, the new Priority 1 will be making money or whatever - but only once I've achieved this - hopefully by the end of my 20s

I feel you.

Maybe you should've made a different title . Something along the lines of;

"2023 I wanna have more women."

I get it that you try to motivate yourself to take more risks and pull more women. It's a swift of mindset, one that may allow a man to be a little sharper when chances arise.

But like everyone already said, women should NEVER be priority number 1. I did that, sacrificed everything for "love" and it left me empty handed and heartbroken. That's how I learned that although it seems counterintuitive, women shouldn't be that high up your list.

 

[Epicwinguy]

Lol several people in my social circle have told me not to pursue women when I am with them and I just don't understand wtf since they all talk to women and hookup.

 

[DonJuanjr]

Lol several people in my social circle have told me not to pursue women when I am with them and I just don't understand wtf since they all talk to women and hookup.

Competition...Duh.....

 

[Gamisch]

Lol several people in my social circle have told me not to pursue women when I am with them and I just don't understand wtf since they all talk to women and hookup.

That would truly make you a epic wing guy.

You gotta think for yourself and read between the lines when people say this. Maybe they mean what everybody says in this thread; don't let women be your priority. Doesnt mean you have to cut women out of your life, just put less importance on them.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

OP is right. The only guys that get laid with little effort are guys with high social status or jobs that put them around a lot of women. Especially if you are anti OLD, it’s a second job chasing women and spinning plates. The guys I know with the highest count, are constantly thinking about pvssy and making action plans to get. The guys I know with the lowest count sit at home every weekend and make excuses. I’m sorry but the normal guy cannot just sit in his house all day and expect pvssy to fall out of the sky. It even takes effort with social circles. This is why most guys settle/even Chad’s settle down after their phase because chasing women gets tiring.

 

[DonJuanjr]

This is why most guys settle/even Chad’s settle down after their phase because chasing women gets tiring.

I think that's half of it. The other half is that Chads are still susceptible to Disney fairy tales of "the one", and are blue-pilled.

 

[SW15]

The only guys that get laid with little effort are guys with high social status or jobs that put them around a lot of women.

What about the 6'0"+ muscular guys who are getting laid on swipe apps? The top tier guys on looks.

if you are anti OLD, it’s a second job chasing women and spinning plates.

The guys I know with the highest count, are constantly thinking about pvssy and making action plans to get. The guys I know with the lowest count sit at home every weekend and make excuses.

Agree with both statements.

the normal guy cannot just sit in his house all day and expect pvssy to fall out of the sky. It even takes effort with social circles. This is why most guys settle/even Chad’s settle down after their phase because chasing women gets tiring.

One of the highest notch count guys I know ended up settling for a woman with massive red flags. This was a guy who put up a triple digit notch count mostly through approaching strangers in bars. This is a 6'0"+ guy with former NCAA athlete status.

The normal guy to even slightly above average guy is going to need to dedicate a lot of time to getting laid if he doesn't have a social circle.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I think that's half of it. The other half is that Chads are still susceptible to Disney fairy tales of "the one", and are blue-pilled.

What about the 6'0"+ muscular guys who are getting laid on swipe apps? The top tier guys on looks.

You don’t need to believe in “the one” to get burned out of spinning plates. It still takes work lol. It’s basically no different than spinning plates, but without the prospecting. Hell it can be worse because you are dealing with more girls lol.

One of the highest notch count guys I know ended up settling for a woman with massive red flags. This was a guy who put up a triple digit notch count mostly through approaching strangers in bars. This is a 6'0"+ guy with former NCAA athlete status.

Either this guy is dumb or he just had a type that he’s vulnerable too. I was vulnerable to my ex because she had frizzy hair, an accent, and “the fit”.

 

[Machine10033]

My number 1 priority is taking a colon collapsing dump every morning..... after that everything falls into place.

But seriously... there are usually 10 other things I try and accomplish before I even give females a thought.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

@Jesse Pinkman does have a sick point. The guys claiming girls aren’t their number 1 priority are the same guys crying about Hypergamy and feminism constantly.

 

[Murk]

2023 will see economic collapse so finding a good women but also financial stability with back up plans and prep should be priority. Wait, get right with our Creator before all that.

 

[patb]

It's difficult to eke any out real success without making them a priority, unless you're high up in media or the arts or similar. That's why the sexual revolution was and is such a cancer -- the opportunity costs are sickening.

 

[corrector]

It’s not just the flaking. I’ve been getting treated like **** by women lately for no reason at all. It’s not that she flaked, it’s that she waited til the very last min. She said “what time are you coming over? What kind of pizza do you want? I’ll go pick it up and text you.” Then she picks it up and texts me “hey im tired I’m just going to eat and go to bed”. I mean wtf? Then another girl Dino’s me after a month and she’s already invited me to thanksgiving on our second date so I cancel plans I had, then she dumps me a few weeks later. So yeah, never making plans with a woman ever again. Next time one invites me to something in the future I’ll just say “maybe, it depends if you keep your word or not but I’m not going to get my hopes up”.

She hooked up with a chad at the last minute. You know how it is.

 

[jaymbrs]

Cmon man. You know this is a "He-man, woman haters club" forum.

 

[SW15]

One of the highest notch count guys I know ended up settling for a woman with massive red flags. This was a guy who put up a triple digit notch count mostly through approaching strangers in bars. This is a 6'0"+ guy with former NCAA athlete status.

Either this guy is dumb or he just had a type that he’s vulnerable too. I was vulnerable to my ex because she had frizzy hair, an accent, and “the fit”.

I think you're right that he had a type for which he was vulnerable. It was a bit odd to see him transform from a guy who mainly had one night stands and casual flings from bars to a guy with a serious girlfriend. I thought he could have done better for a 6'4" guy with ex-NCAA athlete status. The woman has serious red flags. I can identify with a desire to settle down but not settle down with someone seriously flawed.

 

[Zimbabwe]

OP actually makes a great point here and I agree but as a man, you should also be practical and not sacrifice everything in the hopes of getting women. For example, don't quit your job making six figures to become a bartender at a nightclub just because you think it will get you more girls. However, men who are serious about getting laid a lot should be designing their entire lifestyle suited to help them meet women and get laid. Examples of this include:

• Moving to a city with a lot of attractive women in it (Miami, NYC, Chicago, Austin, etc.)
• Working out and looking good instead of being out of shape
• Not working a job that requires 80 hour+ work weeks because then you lose out on meeting women
• Going out often enough to where you can meet women
• Learning how to cold approach and getting the practice in rather than just hoping a woman comes along in your life

At first, it will be a grind because you will be new to game but you have to be honest with yourself as a guy. You have to admit that you are in a phase of life where you want to meet and sleep with a lot of hot girls. Don't be one of those losers in the Red Pill, Manosphere, or MGTOW space that outwardly says women don't matter but spends literally 80% of his time on internet forums and subreddits debating gender dynamics and how unfair the sexual market is.

The guys who are berating OP in most cases are the same guys that will talk about how OP is putting pu$$y on the pedestal but probably spend most of their hours on the internet talking about how unfair hypergamy is how digging through social media posts of females acting poorly. IMO, that time can be better spent going outside and you know, actually talking to women.

At the same time, you have to be practical. Know that you need a job to live in a decent city and that you need money to afford decent logistics.

I feel like people are somewhat misinterpreting my post, I'm not saying women should be the only priority. I still have other priorities in life like self improvement,gym and getting rich.

You can do all the self improvement in the world but women are not going to come to you. I've seen your threads and it's really good that you make an active effort to approach and meet women. Guys need to develop their skills and experience with women.

Some of these posters seriously believe that if you become a high value man, women will just fall from the sky onto your lap.