Women should be your Main priority in 2023?

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This may help a little (certainly won't hurt) but probably not that much. Don't beat around the bush. If you want to get women, make that your goal. Work out, dress cool, beat AA, and hit on tons of chicks aggressively. Don't "become a well rounded person" because you think women will result as a side effect from it.

The problem with social circle. The way I see it, the odds, no matter how perfect of a guy you are, that one particular girl is available and interested is always very low, and social circles only present opportunities at a very low rate. Unless you're in college and are part of the party scene. Especially in the adult world, you just don't meet people frequently enough for it to work well.
 

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Women should be 'NEVER' your Main priority in 2023 or any year; women should only be a compliment to life but never the focus of it dudebro.

You´re too thirsty dude.
Chill and focus on yourself instead pedestalizing chicks like they were worth the attention of you making them your "main focus" which is crazy.
 

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Can't lie, I did the try hard way before becoming a well rounded person. Some guys need it, they need to try hard and get fvcking sick of women before realizing that women are not ever a main priority, YOU are!!!
You know it is funny because I actually WANT my excitement and obsession with getting girls to deteriorate eventually. I am sort of viewing this as a mission to solve a problem by allocating the amount of time and effort that is required to do so no matter how much.

So trying to get girls would be my Priority 1; priority 2 would still be the same i.e. 2A) 1 hour a day gym/mma; 2B) Working on mindset with podcasts, meeting people at social events, continuous work on looks/style.

I guess this would paint the picture of a lifestyle that while being entirely orientated around getting girls, I would still have some kind of "life". And of course eventually, once I've reached my goals, the new Priority 1 will be making money or whatever - but only once I've achieved this - hopefully by the end of my 20s
 

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Agree females should be #1

 

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Agree females should be #1

Shouldn't even be in the top 3 or 4
 

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I’d say just be honest with yourself. If that’s the most important thing to you, then so be it. Don’t try and fight who you are. There is power in owning it
 

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Women should never be your main long-term priority. That being said, it will be easier to get laid in 2023 than 2024 and it will just get worse with each passing year.
 

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My goal is to reject, dump, flake on last min, stand up, as many women as possible in 2023. It’s time to bring the hurt to them.
 

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OP actually makes a great point here and I agree but as a man, you should also be practical and not sacrifice everything in the hopes of getting women. For example, don't quit your job making six figures to become a bartender at a nightclub just because you think it will get you more girls. However, men who are serious about getting laid a lot should be designing their entire lifestyle suited to help them meet women and get laid. Examples of this include:
  • Moving to a city with a lot of attractive women in it (Miami, NYC, Chicago, Austin, etc.)
  • Working out and looking good instead of being out of shape
  • Not working a job that requires 80 hour+ work weeks because then you lose out on meeting women
  • Going out often enough to where you can meet women
  • Learning how to cold approach and getting the practice in rather than just hoping a woman comes along in your life
At first, it will be a grind because you will be new to game but you have to be honest with yourself as a guy. You have to admit that you are in a phase of life where you want to meet and sleep with a lot of hot girls. Don't be one of those losers in the Red Pill, Manosphere, or MGTOW space that outwardly says women don't matter but spends literally 80% of his time on internet forums and subreddits debating gender dynamics and how unfair the sexual market is.

The guys who are berating OP in most cases are the same guys that will talk about how OP is putting pu$$y on the pedestal but probably spend most of their hours on the internet talking about how unfair hypergamy is how digging through social media posts of females acting poorly. IMO, that time can be better spent going outside and you know, actually talking to women.

At the same time, you have to be practical. Know that you need a job to live in a decent city and that you need money to afford decent logistics.
 

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Women created this toxic dating culture. I’m just playing along with what they’ve created.
Nah. This won't turn out well for you. Intentionally bringing this type of negative energy into your life is one of the worst things you can do both in terms of your mental health and in terms of your views towards women.

This whole "you hurt me so I am going to hurt you back and teach you a lesson" is not what you should aspire to be as a man.

At the end of the day, people treat you the way you've taught them to treat you and the way you allow them to treat you. Don't blame them for your misgivings. Teach them to treat you in the way you want them to treat you.
 

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Can't lie, I did the try hard way before becoming a well rounded person. Some guys need it, they need to try hard and get fvcking sick of women before realizing that women are not ever a main priority, YOU are!!!
You make a great point. Men need to get to a point in life where they have had so much sex and success with women to where they want something differently. IMO, if I had to break it down as how it ideally goes for a guy, I think before 30 men should have slept with enough women and had enough sex to where they have upped their notch count a decent amount. After that, it then becomes something they have done so much and had so much fun with that they move on to other things. Now I said ideally.

This means when you are in your 30s, you can zero in on trying to become as rich as possible or trying to become financially independent. You need to get it out of your system to where sex no longer distracts you because you have had so much of it.

Unfortunately, I screwed up my twenties and while I had a lot of career success, I did not prioritize dating and learning game enough. Back then, things were easier especially before the pandemic, Cancel Culture, etc. However, it has sparked an urgency in me to take more action, get things done, and not mentally masturbate when I realize that I am 30 and my youth is slowly but surely ticking away.

There comes an age, I think it is 35, where man can no longer just go around running game to bars or doing spammy day game. At that point, man needs to be more mature and have other focuses or ways of meeting women. It becomes somewhat tougher to chase a notch count and up it. Society tends to look down on you for just wanting to get laid because it is immature while a 21-year old kid doing it is does not get the same backlash.
 

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You make a great point. Men need to get to a point in life where they have had so much sex and success with women to where they want something differently. IMO, if I had to break it down as how it ideally goes for a guy, I think before 30 men should have slept with enough women and had enough sex to where they have upped their notch count a decent amount. After that, it then becomes something they have done so much and had so much fun with that they move on to other things. Now I said ideally.

This means when you are in your 30s, you can zero in on trying to become as rich as possible or trying to become financially independent. You need to get it out of your system to where sex no longer distracts you because you have had so much of it.

Unfortunately, I screwed up my twenties and while I had a lot of career success, I did not prioritize dating and learning game enough. Back then, things were easier especially before the pandemic, Cancel Culture, etc. However, it has sparked an urgency in me to take more action, get things done, and not mentally masturbate when I realize that I am 30 and my youth is slowly but surely ticking away.

There comes an age, I think it is 35, where man can no longer just go around running game to bars or doing spammy day game. At that point, man needs to be more mature and have other focuses or ways of meeting women. It becomes somewhat tougher to chase a notch count and up it. Society tends to look down on you for just wanting to get laid because it is immature while a 21-year old kid doing it is does not get the same backlash.
Didn't take me that many women or that much time to reach that point, I guess I just have a very low tolerance for BS and waste of time. I started at about 22, I thought that was late back then. Doesn't matter how old you are, now is always a great time to stop looking back and start looking forward.

I only blame myself if I fail, that's at least something I can improve with relative ease. I don't want it easy, I can't get good on easy mode.
 

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Women created this toxic dating culture. I’m just playing along with what they’ve created.
I know your girl flaked on you man, but don't go down that path. Don't put more negativity out there, use that anger and build yourself up. I felt the same way recently and occasionally still do about women, but I have to remind myself that I am human and so are they. Hurt people Hurt people is real. That said don't take **** from women, but don't use them out of spite. By all means take advantage of the current system put don't project that bitterness onto women. Get your needs met without going on a warpath

I agree with BackintheGame78 says
 
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