Weird situation with hb is confusing - whats going on?

TheGambino

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I need some help on where I stand, and how you guys would proceed.

Met a girl a week ago in a bar, shes HOT. Cold approached, had a enthusiastic small talk for 5 minutes. She was enthusiastic and showed interest in me. I number closed. I saw her outside again, we locked eyes and I thought she was ready for kissing. Tried to kiss her and she gave me her cheek. We were standing in the open in front of 30/40 people and she said ''not here in public!!''.

I laughed it off very smooth and bailed. Next evening she texts me first ( she got my number cuz I called her when I number closed her ).
We have some small talk on text, short and brief. She asks me what im up to but I was out with friends so I couldnt ask her to do something.
Next day I ask her out on text for a date.

Then she waits 2.5 days and replies.
Yes sure, I can do tommorow or thursday!

I go for thursday. On the date night I send a text to confirm 2 hours earlier and she says shes going to be 30 mins late which I reply. ok sure.

We go on the date. I let her do 70-80% of talking. We go for drinks, it's fun imo. She is a high value female. Good woman, takes good care of herself, educated, good job, carreer woman. I take care of myself so thats all good. During the date she compliments me, plays with her hair a lot, twirles her jewellry, laughs a lot, has full concentration and focus on me so it feels like shes very in to me. She says that her last relationship is over for 1.5 years and he tried to contact her once more but she declined.

We had fun, got to know eachother for about 1.5 hours and I end the date.

In her car when she was going to drop me off at my car I ask her back to my place but she says no not today, I have to get up early but we can do that next time for sure. During the date she also hints a couple of things we could do together in the future.

Now important things:
She stops in front of my car. I lean over for the kiss but she gives me the cheek again. I say no no, come here with a playfull smile and kiss her on her lips. She kisses back, we make out a bit and I kiss her goodbye. She says.. ''wow now I feel something coming out of you lol'' coz I was a bit agressive in a fun way when kissing her.

Then I say ''are u so shy about kissing?'' she said ''no.. no.. take it slow...''.

Í tell her to text me when she gets home and she does.
Her: I am home.
Me: me too.
Her: great


I go silent for 2 days and text her.

me: Hey whatsup ?
me: your still going to that party you mentioned earlier?

5 hours later.

Her: hey no I fell asleep. Didn't want to leave anymore.
her: and you?

Me 10 hours later

me: hey I went out to a nice restaurant with friends yesterday. it was good.
me: so lets do something fun again together. When are you free to get together?

11 hours later and she still didnt reply. I saw her online status a couple of times but she didnt open my text. She saw the message but didnt reply yet.

Other very weird things I never had before.
On social media she has a name she said to me also. But her real name is slightly different, I saw on linkedin. She probably want to stay private.
Also I never seen a profile picture on whatsapp from the beginning. So either she has not have a profile picture or she never added me.
She has no social media. facebook slighly different name but only 1 picture nothing else, no instagram to be found. she is undercover.

Imo as a very experienced DJ.
1. She has had restraining orders with dudes who stalk her, or did stuff that she is afraid and she is really testing me to see that I am not needy and turn into such a psycho. Testing.
2. She has a bf or a guy she sees and she is looking to monkey branch with me.
3. She has low interest and I am good enough to date but no romance yet.

I wrote this because she is a mystery, different from other girls. Weird signals. tell me
 
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You were making another date while being in a date? Cause you texted 2 days after to see her again? Isn't that too much too quickly? Also why didn't you wait at least a week to set another date, at that time she would have wondered about you and maybe think about how fun it was.

No she was making another date ideas. Planning new things. I texted after 2 days. Waiting a week is too long imo
 
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If you are very experienced, then you should know what it means when a girl gives you confusing signals.
OP you've been at this too long to not know what "confusing behavior" means.

It's never confusing when you actually go back and look at it removing yourself from the equation. It's only "confusing" because you are not willing to accept the truth that she has marginal interest at best.
 

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“Tried to kiss her and she gave me her cheek. We were standing in the open in front of 30/40 people and she said ''not here in public!!”.

Someone in that crowd she had her eyes on…
Isolate before escalation.

“In her car when she was going to drop me off at my car I ask her back to my place but she says no not today”

The man leads, he doesn’t get chauffeured by his date
 

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“Tried to kiss her and she gave me her cheek. We were standing in the open in front of 30/40 people and she said ''not here in public!!”.

Someone in that crowd she had her eyes on…
Isolate before escalation.

“In her car when she was going to drop me off at my car I ask her back to my place but she says no not today”

The man leads, he doesn’t get chaffered by his date
Hi @Billtx49 I appreciate your reply.
I asked my ex back 1 year ago on our second date and she declined my offer.

Fvcked her for 7 months straight after.
 

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How old is this girl OP?
 

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@BillyPilgrim She is religious. Catholic and she told me. Could be asd.
She goes to church on Sundays I presume?

A lot of times it can be a combo of not-quite-high-enough-interest with you in particular and some kind of reservation that she has towards sex/intimacy in general.
 

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25? A girl 21 y/o literally stopped sex for a moment to text her sister back so she wouldn’t get concerned about her whereabouts. Sorry but, this is clear cut.
 

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Confusing signals = insufficient interest
It's more nuanced than that though. Different women have a different bar - in terms of comfort - that needs to be reached in order to bang, even when physical attraction is the same. Prissy girls can be found at this age.
 

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Gambino- you're again too invested. Just ghost her for a week and come back with a "hey" and see if she takes the bait and shows an interest level increase
 

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It's more nuanced than that though. Different women have a different bar - in terms of comfort - that needs to be reached in order to bang, even when physical attraction is the same. Prissy girls can be found at this age.
What do you think the age range of prissiness is?

I have no time for prissy shiit.
 

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OP, here’s my take. When it woman appears to be interested only to disappear for no apparent reason, it nearly always means the same thing. There is another dude in the picture (a bf that she temporarily broke up with, an ex or just someone she likes more than she likes you).
 

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There is another dude in the picture (a bf that she temporarily broke up with, an ex or just someone she likes more than she likes you).
That shiit is notorious for happening with women from swipe apps. @TheGambino did at least meet this woman in a bar, which is slightly better. In the era before dating websites got de-stigmatized, meeting women at bars had a bad reputation for women pulling bad behavioral stunts. That reputation has lessened a bit in recent years because of the shiit show that is online dating (both swipe apps and social media DMs).
 

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Im trying to figure out what part of MODE ONE you muhfukaz don't understand.

Mode One would have alleviated 95% of the entire OP.

All of that time wasting lol.

But whatever man, pay me no mind.

If yall want to continue wasting time, spending money, and dealing with wishy washy flaky behavior..have at it.
 
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