How to deal with “I want something serious”?

[CollegeMan22]

As my game gets better, my expectations are rising. I want the girls I go out with to be receptive to my escalation. Most of them are receptive when I extend my arm and say “don’t fall”, or when I hold hands and massage the back of her hand with my fingers, or when I pull her close with my arm around her back.

But some girls, when I try to kiss them, get very uptight. They’re like, “What are you trying to do?” (They know). Then I say “let’s enjoy this moment together”. They usually respond with “Do you want something fun or something serious?”. Keep in mind I am at college, although too be fair I am at a pretty nerdy college.

What do I say to this “I want something serious” ****? More importantly, what do I do (physically) after she says this? I want to ****, girl. I don’t want to be your chode for 15 hours for nothing.

Generally I’ll just tease her (“Oh yeah, let’s wait 100 dates to kiss”) and leave it at that. Then I try to keep physically escalating by rubbing her hands and seeing if she reciprocated by rubbing/squeezing mine. I also try to invite her back to my room to “see my paintings” and “look at my photo album” because it’s good to test the waters.

But I think it’s weird that a good amount of college girls want “something serious”. I really don’t want that, except for a very few amount of girls. Do I tell them the truth bluntly? (“That doesn’t work for me”). I ask because this has been happening relatively often.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

If girls are giving you "the talk" when you try to kiss them as opposed to after months of hot and passionate sex, imo you are pursuing the wrong type of girls.

 

[Stanley]

“let’s enjoy this moment together”

Yikes, no. That sounds like something out of romance novel and makes you sound more serious, but also desperate. Instead be fun and ****y and quit trying so hard man. You sound like you are trying wayyy too hard and these girls can smell it. Also why you be rubbing girls hands man? gonna make that skin chapped.
Be cool and be patient. It sounds like you are rushing the girls hardcore and making them jump to conclusions which you admit they are correct in. Take a step back and take on a relaxed disposition and let the girls know through your actions and body language that you could care less about em beyond just having fun. Be confident, be calm, be fun and most of chill out and be charming

 

[Dr.Suave]

Pull a GlassGuy and tell them something like "Im recently single and enjoying dating. Im not in a rush to get back into anything serious but Im open to that possibility as long as its the right person"

 

[SW15]

some girls, when I try to kiss them, get very uptight. They’re like, “What are you trying to do?” (They know). Then I say “let’s enjoy this moment together”. They usually respond with “Do you want something fun or something serious?”. Keep in mind I am at college, although too be fair I am at a pretty nerdy college.

I think it’s weird that a good amount of college girls want “something serious”. I really don’t want that, except for a very few amount of girls. Do I tell them the truth bluntly? (“That doesn’t work for me”). I ask because this has been happening relatively often.

If this is happening more frequently than you would like, you have one or both of the following problems.

• You are offering first dates to the wrong set of women.
• Your frame is not strong enough.

You need to establish a more sexual frame initially. Also, select women who have more promiscuous indicators if you are looking for short term sex.

tell them something like "Im recently single and enjoying dating. Im not in a rush to get back into anything serious but Im open to that possibility as long as its the right person"

This is the best option.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Unless she is a virgin waiting until marriage, she has no right to say this.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

“I want something that’s seriously fun!”

As my game gets better, my expectations are rising. I want the girls I go out with to be receptive to my escalation. Most of them are receptive when I extend my arm and say “don’t fall”, or when I hold hands and massage the back of her hand with my fingers, or when I pull her close with my arm around her back.

But some girls, when I try to kiss them, get very uptight. They’re like, “What are you trying to do?” (They know). Then I say “let’s enjoy this moment together”. They usually respond with “Do you want something fun or something serious?”. Keep in mind I am at college, although too be fair I am at a pretty nerdy college.

What do I say to this “I want something serious” ****? More importantly, what do I do (physically) after she says this? I want to ****, girl. I don’t want to be your chode for 15 hours for nothing.

Generally I’ll just tease her (“Oh yeah, let’s wait 100 dates to kiss”) and leave it at that. Then I try to keep physically escalating by rubbing her hands and seeing if she reciprocated by rubbing/squeezing mine. I also try to invite her back to my room to “see my paintings” and “look at my photo album” because it’s good to test the waters.

But I think it’s weird that a good amount of college girls want “something serious”. I really don’t want that, except for a very few amount of girls. Do I tell them the truth bluntly? (“That doesn’t work for me”). I ask because this has been happening relatively often.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If girls are giving you "the talk" when you try to kiss them as opposed to after months of hot and passionate sex, imo you are pursuing the wrong type of girls.

Yeah exactly...

 

[CollegeMan22]

If this is happening more frequently than you would like, you have one or both of the following problems.

• You are offering first dates to the wrong set of women.
• Your frame is not strong enough.

You need to establish a more sexual frame initially. Also, select women who have more promiscuous indicators if you are looking for short term sex.

What do you mean by “establish a more sexual frame initially”? I solely do day approach so I tease and flirt, but am not direct so I don’t scare the cat. Then I get their number and text to get them out.

My main sexual frame is my physical escalation. I also do c0cky teases a good amount (e.g. I ask them if they’re anxious, they say yes, I say “ah it’s probably the cute boys around”). Any more tips to establish a more sexual frame?

 

[BadBoy89]

What do I say to this “I want something serious” ****?

"My dear girl, I wouldn't dream of loving and leaving you."

 

[bat soup]

But some girls, when I try to kiss them, get very uptight. They’re like, “What are you trying to do?”

Tell them "I'm trying to get it in".