BPH
Master Don Juan
This has the potential to be kind of long because I like details and I think the details matter. I had a lot of fun on my Thursday night out but now I'm thinking I might've messed up so I want to see if any of you can help me figure out where, how badly, and how to fix it.
So I'm out at a college bar with some friends with an hour left before closing and a girl on the way to meet me there. While waiting this gorgeous blonde and her friend started walking past me, so I stop her, introduce myself, and she immediately sits down to talk with me. I got the feeling this was going to be easy; she didn't care where her friend went and immediately forgot about her, started talking to me and asking me small talk questions about myself, and was just looking at my wide-eyed smiling the whole time. She finds out that I'm 28 years old and thinks it's really hot that I'm older. Not too long after meeting her I go in for the kiss and she's all about it...and suggests that we leave, which I'm super down for. She puts her number into my phone and calls it multiple times so she has mine too. She asks where I live and if I live at home, so I admit that I do unfortunately and she invites me to come back to her place.
She walks past her friend and tells her she's leaving and while waiting for the Uber we talk over to the side bar and have a shot while we wait and kiss a little more. The bartender is a gay friend of hers and she whispers a little too loud to him saying "oh my god he's so hot right?" and the friend is just laughing, smiling saying "yeah, he's cute". While waiting another one of her friends comes up and I recognize her because I had hit on her a few weeks prior - she was interested but after 2 weeks when I hit her up to hang out she just left me on Read so I forgot about her.
Anyway, Uber pulls up, I leave, completely forget about the other girl that was going to come meet me and we start heading to her spot. In the Uber she's talking about how she's going to rock my world and that it'll be one the best nights ever for me and stuff.
She lives with a bunch of other girls in her sorority in a 3-story house near campus, on the top floor. So we go up, toss something on the TV in her room, and get down to business. She takes her birth control, we smash twice and after the 2nd time her friend I'd hit on that I mentioned earlier comes storming into the room to complain about some stupid stuff how her ex is mad at her for talking to other guys at the bar while he's talking to other girls...you know the kinda stupid stuff...this friend is also in her sorority, is her best friend, and lives next-door to her up on the same floor. I'm sure she recognizes me but she doesn't make it weird, awkward, or attempt to block what's happening in any way, so maybe she doesn't care...furthermore maybe the ex situation is why she ghosted me.
We end up hooking up one more time that night. Every time she's talking about how hot I am and about how she wants to see me more after this. I find out she and her roommate friend both go to the same gym as myself, albeit at different times, and mentions how she wants me to train her and I can just come over afterward and plow her brains out.
Then we just kinda have a half-drunk conversation about life after college and stuff that concerns her about graduation etc. I don't know much about astrology but apparently we have the same sign, so I don't know if that's a good thing since I know how girls care about that sh**. She keeps talking about how hot I am and that stuff like this doesn't happen; guys always want to date her and she thinks she has commitment issues and doesn't believe some random hot guy would be out at the bar, isn't weird, super hot, and comes off like a normal person. I find out that she hasn't had sex in 2 months until what she did here tonight with me. This goes on for a little bit until we both pass out.
It's worth mentioning that she was cuddling with me the entire time.
Anyway morning comes around and she has a class and work later. She tunes into her class over Zoom for a little bit until we start hooking up again where she shuts it off and turns her attention to me. We take a nap for a little bit until she has to get ready for work soonish. We smash one more time, I make her c** and then we get ready to part ways. She offers to drive me back to where I parked my car, I tell her I'm fine with walking, then she brings me downstairs, makes sure I have her number, gives me a kiss, and I leave.
Despite how drunk we were the night before, I thought the morning was pretty good...it wasn't awkward, it wasn't weird, we cuddled, and she was still down to hook up. So I think that's why I'm surprised at how things have gone SINCE then.
A few hours later I text her saying "have fun at work
" and later that night I find her on Instagram, follow her, and like one of her stories.
It is now Sunday night and nothing has happened since then, and I'm not completely sure why. Friday night I went somewhere else, but Saturday night I went to the same bar. She wasn't there, but neither was anybody else I thought was cute, so I ended up chatting with some of the staff and with the gay bartender friends. Asked him a little of what she's like, talk about the manager who we're both friends with, buy the guy some shots, tip him well, made a good impression I'm thinking.
Aside from that, she hasn't followed me back and hasn't texted me. Considering everything above...about how hot I was and how she wants to see me more and plowing her after the gym etc I was a bit surprised. Now there's a good chance I'm overthinking all this, but I'm trying to come to conclusions on what I may be doing wrong, so here are my current "theories":
1. The roommate might've told her that I had hit on her a few weeks prior
2. The girl remembers that I live at home and finds that unattractive
3. The girl remembers that I'm older and despite saying she finds that attractive, might think it's weird I'm at a college bar meeting girls
4. The text and follow was a sign of too much interest (I thought I was just showing her SOME interest to invite her to hit me back up)
5. She's regretting her decision, but I feel this is least likely because the morning was fine and she introduced me to her housemate on the way out
I know this was a long read but if anybody has some insight to offer so I can tighten up what I may be doing wrong here, I'd appreciate it. I don't know how to say this politely because I understand on forums you don't know who's on the other side of the keyboard and I'm well aware that many of the guys on here are "in-development" in a sense. If possible, I think the best advice would come from other guys who also sleep around a lot with attractive women and can draw from personal experience, rather than hypothesizing based on something they've read in The Game.
Either way, thanks for following along with me tonight.
EDIT: Also, unless somebody recommends otherwise, my current "plan" is just to not do anymore outreach or looking at her Instagram etc until she reaches out to me.
So I'm out at a college bar with some friends with an hour left before closing and a girl on the way to meet me there. While waiting this gorgeous blonde and her friend started walking past me, so I stop her, introduce myself, and she immediately sits down to talk with me. I got the feeling this was going to be easy; she didn't care where her friend went and immediately forgot about her, started talking to me and asking me small talk questions about myself, and was just looking at my wide-eyed smiling the whole time. She finds out that I'm 28 years old and thinks it's really hot that I'm older. Not too long after meeting her I go in for the kiss and she's all about it...and suggests that we leave, which I'm super down for. She puts her number into my phone and calls it multiple times so she has mine too. She asks where I live and if I live at home, so I admit that I do unfortunately and she invites me to come back to her place.
She walks past her friend and tells her she's leaving and while waiting for the Uber we talk over to the side bar and have a shot while we wait and kiss a little more. The bartender is a gay friend of hers and she whispers a little too loud to him saying "oh my god he's so hot right?" and the friend is just laughing, smiling saying "yeah, he's cute". While waiting another one of her friends comes up and I recognize her because I had hit on her a few weeks prior - she was interested but after 2 weeks when I hit her up to hang out she just left me on Read so I forgot about her.
Anyway, Uber pulls up, I leave, completely forget about the other girl that was going to come meet me and we start heading to her spot. In the Uber she's talking about how she's going to rock my world and that it'll be one the best nights ever for me and stuff.
She lives with a bunch of other girls in her sorority in a 3-story house near campus, on the top floor. So we go up, toss something on the TV in her room, and get down to business. She takes her birth control, we smash twice and after the 2nd time her friend I'd hit on that I mentioned earlier comes storming into the room to complain about some stupid stuff how her ex is mad at her for talking to other guys at the bar while he's talking to other girls...you know the kinda stupid stuff...this friend is also in her sorority, is her best friend, and lives next-door to her up on the same floor. I'm sure she recognizes me but she doesn't make it weird, awkward, or attempt to block what's happening in any way, so maybe she doesn't care...furthermore maybe the ex situation is why she ghosted me.
We end up hooking up one more time that night. Every time she's talking about how hot I am and about how she wants to see me more after this. I find out she and her roommate friend both go to the same gym as myself, albeit at different times, and mentions how she wants me to train her and I can just come over afterward and plow her brains out.
Then we just kinda have a half-drunk conversation about life after college and stuff that concerns her about graduation etc. I don't know much about astrology but apparently we have the same sign, so I don't know if that's a good thing since I know how girls care about that sh**. She keeps talking about how hot I am and that stuff like this doesn't happen; guys always want to date her and she thinks she has commitment issues and doesn't believe some random hot guy would be out at the bar, isn't weird, super hot, and comes off like a normal person. I find out that she hasn't had sex in 2 months until what she did here tonight with me. This goes on for a little bit until we both pass out.
It's worth mentioning that she was cuddling with me the entire time.
Anyway morning comes around and she has a class and work later. She tunes into her class over Zoom for a little bit until we start hooking up again where she shuts it off and turns her attention to me. We take a nap for a little bit until she has to get ready for work soonish. We smash one more time, I make her c** and then we get ready to part ways. She offers to drive me back to where I parked my car, I tell her I'm fine with walking, then she brings me downstairs, makes sure I have her number, gives me a kiss, and I leave.
Despite how drunk we were the night before, I thought the morning was pretty good...it wasn't awkward, it wasn't weird, we cuddled, and she was still down to hook up. So I think that's why I'm surprised at how things have gone SINCE then.
A few hours later I text her saying "have fun at work
" and later that night I find her on Instagram, follow her, and like one of her stories.It is now Sunday night and nothing has happened since then, and I'm not completely sure why. Friday night I went somewhere else, but Saturday night I went to the same bar. She wasn't there, but neither was anybody else I thought was cute, so I ended up chatting with some of the staff and with the gay bartender friends. Asked him a little of what she's like, talk about the manager who we're both friends with, buy the guy some shots, tip him well, made a good impression I'm thinking.
Aside from that, she hasn't followed me back and hasn't texted me. Considering everything above...about how hot I was and how she wants to see me more and plowing her after the gym etc I was a bit surprised. Now there's a good chance I'm overthinking all this, but I'm trying to come to conclusions on what I may be doing wrong, so here are my current "theories":
1. The roommate might've told her that I had hit on her a few weeks prior
2. The girl remembers that I live at home and finds that unattractive
3. The girl remembers that I'm older and despite saying she finds that attractive, might think it's weird I'm at a college bar meeting girls
4. The text and follow was a sign of too much interest (I thought I was just showing her SOME interest to invite her to hit me back up)
5. She's regretting her decision, but I feel this is least likely because the morning was fine and she introduced me to her housemate on the way out
I know this was a long read but if anybody has some insight to offer so I can tighten up what I may be doing wrong here, I'd appreciate it. I don't know how to say this politely because I understand on forums you don't know who's on the other side of the keyboard and I'm well aware that many of the guys on here are "in-development" in a sense. If possible, I think the best advice would come from other guys who also sleep around a lot with attractive women and can draw from personal experience, rather than hypothesizing based on something they've read in The Game.
Either way, thanks for following along with me tonight.
EDIT: Also, unless somebody recommends otherwise, my current "plan" is just to not do anymore outreach or looking at her Instagram etc until she reaches out to me.
