cold approaching just isn't a logistical, realistic way to meet women now. In addition to the guys every woman has at her fingertips on OLD and SM, there are the guys in her social circle, guy at work/school, guys that orbiter around her, etc. And she gets to sit back and determine who she considers the very best. As a stranger, you're supposed to somehow break that barrier with just a first impression. That is why so many cold approaches lead to flaking and fake #s. You're just some rando on the street to them, and that's not how they look to meet men anymore.
Even with all the incels and simps being excluded, the ratio is still way too lopsided. Women don't looksmatch, bc of all the validation and praise they get, they're all looking to date/feck above their level, so that leaves pretty much all men expect the very apex with no options sans fatties, turbo sloots and single moms.
Cold approaching is one of the least efficient methods of getting sex and relationships. It's not much different than cold calling on the telephone to close sales, which has been discredited as a business generating since at least the 1990s. It's a royal pain to cold approach. However, the alternative of app swiping is actually worse than cold approaching. The major advantage of app swiping over cold approaching is that in theory the women are in the market for penis. It's unknown when you cold approach in the grocery store or park if the woman is seeking new penis.
I even use best practices of setting the date in-person before I get the number and my flake rate from daygame is still higher than I would like for it to be.
My only options are cold approaching and app swiping, so I've been forced into cold approaching simply because I don't have a better choice out there. It's difficult to swoop into a co-ed sports league and get dates from that. Participating in co-ed sports leagues is a form of weak social circle game. Yes, it is easier to talk to a woman after a game in a co-ed sports league than it would be to talk to a random woman at the grocery store, mall, or a bar. Many men have participated in kickball leagues (that was huge around 2007-2015), volleyball leagues, softball leagues, soccer leagues, or any other sports league with the hope of getting their penises wet from participating. Most men failed with that.
A lot of young women, gen z and millennials, have terrible social skills and are relatively clueless during interactions with men. I feel a lot of them wouldn't know how to process a cold/random approach out in public.
I personally don't cold approach, it's just never resulted in anything but awkward experiences, but I've observed many and the trend is the women are very awkward. I've seen approaches where men are approaching women that are somewhere around their looks match, so not an obese slob approaching a hot chick, and they'd just stand there awkwardly giving one word answers.
The friends I've made since moving to Dallas all are Millennials. I've seen terrible social skills from Millennial females, even the girlfriends/wives of my male friends. One of my friends wives claimed a few years ago that she'd never been approached in a grocery store. I don't think that's true she was a 7 in her absolute prime. I bet she got approached but didn't know how to process it. I've seen how awkward other yuppie White women who are wives of my friends/acquaintances are. I have no idea how they handled cold approaches, even the approaches from my friends. Among my friends, there were some cold approach starts and some social circle starts.
In a lot of my approaches and dates, I have perceived that women are quite passive in conversations. Few women demonstrate enough interest to ask a sufficient amount of questions. A lot of my interactions over the years have felt like I was doing way too much of the conversational heavy lifting. I have felt a lot like "the clown" Roosh described in this 2014 pre-Christianity conversion article.
I have a bank of rotating stock questions I ask women that let me know how I should proceed with my game. One of the questions I used to ask was "Do you need a man?" Out of the dozens of times I asked it, not a single girl answered yes. Even in Eastern Europe, a woman needs a man as much as a cat ne
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I've had women who were at best 5's reject date offers with me and I'm well above their SMV. Delusional and entitled biatches.
A couple years ago I had a woman point out an obese woman and tell me that was my league and what I should be going for, I'm 6'4" and 235-240ish, I've been the same size for a while now and one of the fittest guys at my gym. I don't think all women are like this but it's become incredibly common.
I left the dating market about 3 years ago, the last date I had was back in June of 2019, and it was mostly due to just one bad experience after another with nothing to show for it. As of now, I'm in a place where I honestly have no real desire to go back, mostly due to what is being discussed on here.
You represent a horrible inefficiency in the mating market. A guy who is 6'4", 230-240 lbs, with big muscles is a top guy. A top guy deserves the poontang of an elite level looking woman. The fact that the top tier women and even the slightly above average women have basically ignored you is extremely odd.
i think the self awareness failed there mate... No person "should" agree to serve as your utility simply because you feel they are beneath you.
