Do you think Hinge is full of picky women desperate for an LTR?

[Zimbabwe]

I've had a look at the subreddit r/Hinge and besides the usual profile reviews and commentary on the app/dates, I observe plenty of women moaning about the following:

1. Why are the men that like me ugly? I want to date attractive men.
2. Why do all men want casual sex? I WaNt A ReLaTiOnSHiP.
3. How do I weed out men that don't want a relationship?
4. All men manipulate women about wanting a relationship to get sex!
5. Why won't the guy I dated commit to me? I WaNT CoMMiTMeNt.
6. Why are there so many ugly guys?

The answers are clear and simple. Maybe if you have something to offer than just looks and sex, these men would be lining up to LTR you. But no; they already noticed the bottleneck and therefore decided it's not within their best interests to LTR you. You're not entitled to a relationship, just because you're a woman that wants children. You have to work to get that LTR you so desperately crave.

Hinge is full of these types of women. Average or below-average women desperate for an LTR because "Hinge is a relationship app" and whining about why all men want sex/why won't their date commit.

And here's the thing. Casual sex/FWBs are against the Hinge TOS, and these women would definitely report you if you either ghosted them after sex, or are using the app for casual sex. Of course, Hinge mods would always side with the woman and her interests, and you'd get banned off the app for good. So be careful, buddy boyos!

This woman here is complaining about men not committing/wanting anything serious. She clearly wants Chads to commit to her. Oh, and notice the dogpill; many people are calling her out on it:

https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/comments/szxj4j

This app honestly is becoming full of picky women wanting the best of the best and won't settle for less. Hinge is marketed as an LTR app, which is exactly why these women (who tend to want LTRs over STRs/FWBs/ONSs) flood Hinge; the types that are pushy for commitment with yuppie, highly-educated suit-wearing Chads that have so many options.

 

[DarwinTaurus]

I re-joined OLD a few weeks ago, after a relationship break up... the usual suspects, Tinder, Bumble and Hinge. I matched with a Woman on Hinge yesterday... and she said the archetypal line of "I'm not on here much, what's your number". This was a bit of a Red Flag for me. I said I wasn't comfortable giving out my number unless I had met in person first. Anyone else feel like that? I just find that there seem to be so many fake accounts, that it is best to play it cautious.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Get a burner phone.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Depends on their age i'm noticing there are a lot of women in my demographic (say for example 28 - 35) that have been left on the shelf for a variety of reasons picky definitely being one of them

It is important to understand though nobody really "wants" to be on a dating app .....conversation is usually very basic and most interactions lead to absolutely nothing

It is a VERY low effort way to find a partner and as a result you get low quality returns from both sexes

Most women will sign up on an emotional whim and then lost interest after a few hours

Most men sign up in the hope of bagging fast and low effort sex ( which rarely if ever transpires )

Its a very strange dynamic that sounds great but really doesn't work well in practice

 

[Solomon]

It's not just that their picky it's also that some of these women are thots and most guys who are female nature aware can pick up on this.
For example you meet a hot chick she gives itup the 2nd night but she drops red flags about being "ran through"
This happens a lot on these swipe apps especially in the age of "Feminism" where women think that being a thot empowers them.There are women who try to hide it but you can tell

The biggest issue I've noticed is how many women I've met who admitted to recently catching and STI, like wtf are you on dating app for? take a break before that clears up. Someof these women are racking up super high body counts because they are always getting different D don't these app

 

[SW15]

You cannot be picky and desperate at the same.

Hinge might market itself as more relationship oriented than its corporate sibling Tinder. That might lead to more relationship oriented behaviors and less first date sex. It doesn't mean much though.

On Hinge, women have way too many options. Their swipe queues of potential matches are nearly unlimited and their inboxes are quite full. Women on Hinge have the privilege of being selective. Because of their perceived abundance of options, they'll flake on most interactions. Their expectations will be sky high and they'll ghost/flake for the flimsiest of reasons. While their presence on Hinge might indicate a desire for an LTR, their behavior will not come off as desperate at all.

Millennial women have bought the feminist mantra of "Never Settle!" more than previous generations. Women will often choose a solitary life over options with men that they perceive as inferior to what they believe that they deserve.

 

[bat soup]

-Why are the men that like me ugly? I want to date attractive men.
Because you're probably butt ugly yourself.

-Why do all men want casual sex? I WaNt A ReLaTiOnSHiP.
Men want to see that you're worth it. They don't want to jump straight into a relationship with someone they don't even know.

-How do I weed out men that don't want a relationship?
By immediately demanding a relationship and throwing a big tantrum when you don't get it.

-All men manipulate women about wanting a relationship to get sex!
Maybe nobody wants a relationship with you because of your shiittty attitude.

-Why won't the guy I dated commit to me? I WaNT CoMMiTMeNt.
Maybe he wants to choose his path in life for himself rather than have it dictated to him by a fat ugly biatch

-Why are there so many ugly guys?
Those are the probably the only guys you can get because you're not half as pretty as you think.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Hinge is full of failed bumble and tinder rejects attempting a 4th quarter Hail Mary at a relationship. Most of these girls are mentally damaged from riding the carousal and getting pumped and dumped for so long.

 

[bat soup]

Hinge is full of failed bumble and tinder rejects attempting a 4th quarter Hail Mary at a relationship. Most of these girls are mentally damaged from riding the carousal and getting pumped and dumped for so long.

In other words, the perfect place to meet the love of your life.

 

[SW15]

Hinge is full of failed bumble and tinder rejects attempting a 4th quarter Hail Mary at a relationship. Most of these girls are mentally damaged from riding the carousal and getting pumped and dumped for so long.

I didn't think the differences between Bumble and Hinge were great. Bumble has a reputation of being more feminist than Hinge. Both Bumble and Hinge are supposed to be more relationship oriented than Tinder.

Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are all shiit. I'm glad I'm not on any of them. It's probably healthier for me.

 

[bat soup]

I didn't think the differences between Bumble and Hinge were great. Bumble has a reputation of being more feminist than Hinge. Both Bumble and Hinge are supposed to be more relationship oriented than Tinder.

Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are all shiit. I'm glad I'm not on any of them. It's probably healthier for me.

They're all basically the same. Men choose based on "would I hit that?", which is a pretty low bar. A lot of men would basically hit anything. Women swipe based on "is this the man I want to spend the rest of my life with", based on one fake-ass photo. Result: a lot of arrogant average-looking woman starting to believe that wealthy male models want to spend the rest of their lives with them.

And that's where the Nigerian western union office comes in.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Hinge is a great app. Every chick I’ve ever matched with on Hinge was above average. Their algorithm is based on which girls you like that will like you back. If you aren’t getting good matches it’s because your own profile sucks.

I have noticed that they are all Queen 7s. Meaning these are the leftover hot girl, 25+ years old that didn’t get wifed by Chad and Tyrone. The top tier HB8+ don’t do OLD as a general rule.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I didn't think the differences between Bumble and Hinge were great. Bumble has a reputation of being more feminist than Hinge. Both Bumble and Hinge are supposed to be more relationship oriented than Tinder.

Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are all shiit. I'm glad I'm not on any of them. It's probably healthier for me.

They are noticeably different where I'm at. I've noticed a lot more women prefer Tinder though. I've had the least luck with Tinder tbh

Hinge is a great app. Every chick I’ve ever matched with on Hinge was above average. Their algorithm is based on which girls you like that will like you back. If you aren’t getting good matches it’s because your own profile sucks.

I have noticed that they are all Queen 7s. Meaning these are the leftover hot girl, 25+ years old that didn’t get wifed by Chad and Tyrone. The top tier HB8+ don’t do OLD as a general rule.

Hinge is where I meet the vast majority of my prospects. Again, it depends on the city you are at. In Houston, most of the girls on here are Queen 7s lol.

 

[SW15]

Hinge is a great app. Every chick I’ve ever matched with on Hinge was above average. Their algorithm is based on which girls you like that will like you back. If you aren’t getting good matches it’s because your own profile sucks.

I have noticed that they are all Queen 7s. Meaning these are the leftover hot girl, 25+ years old that didn’t get wifed by Chad and Tyrone. The top tier HB8+ don’t do OLD as a general rule.

That was Hinge in 2017-1st half of 2019. Hinge has fallen off in terms of quality in recent times.

They are noticeably different where I'm at. I've noticed a lot more women prefer Tinder though. I've had the least luck with Tinder tbh

For me personally, Tinder was the first of the 3 apps where I noticed a drop off in my outcomes. Perhaps I generated a little more interest on Hinge and Bumble because I have been more relationship oriented and less casual sex oriented. All were total shiit experiences though.

 

[Barrister]

As bad as the the online dating experience is for men, it is actually worse for women. A lot of their complaining is annoying, but I can say that after seeing some dating profiles of female acquaintances, it is understandable to me how they get tired of dealing with some of these guys on OLD. It is unbelievably pathetic. Not only is there zero game; but they come across as just sad human beings.

Not giving women a total pass since their issues are well documented (especially here on SS ha) - but there are two sides to every coin.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The issue they have is they are able to attract men higher than they normally could who are only looking for pump and dumps thinking that is what they should be able to attract in a relationship.

Two totally different things. Guys will often go a little lower than normal for easy sex but would never consider them for an LTR. The women either can't or don't want to make this distinction so they feel that's what they should be able to attract for anything.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

As bad as the the online dating experience is for men, it is actually worse for women. A lot of their complaining is annoying, but I can say that after seeing some dating profiles of female acquaintances, it is understandable to me how they get tired of dealing with some of these guys on OLD. It is unbelievably pathetic. Not only is there zero game; but they come across as just sad human beings.

Not giving women a total pass since their issues are well documented (especially here on SS ha) - but there are two sides to every coin.

I will agree with this, but there's a reason she's an OLD lurker in the first place. Most of these women are just your hopeless future older cat women in their twenties and early thirties atm. Now, I can completely understand if you just moved to the city and lack a social circle whom I have found to be the most reasonable girls on the apps. These are the bottom of the barrel mentally derragned women trying to disguise themselves as some helpless Jane looking for a man lol. These women will eat you alive if you let your guard down...Trust me

 

[Solomon]

That was Hinge in 2017-1st half of 2019. Hinge has fallen off in terms of quality in recent times.



For me personally, Tinder was the first of the 3 apps where I noticed a drop off in my outcomes. Perhaps I generated a little more interest on Hinge and Bumble because I have been more relationship oriented and less casual sex oriented. All were total shiit experiences though.

Agreed before covid (2019) I was killing it on Hinge after covid not so much and now the women are meh
The app had a great run

 

[Barrister]

I will agree with this, but there's a reason she's an OLD lurker in the first place. Most of these women are just your hopeless future older cat women in their twenties and early thirties atm. Now, I can completely understand if you just moved to the city and lack a social circle whom I have found to be the most reasonable girls on the apps.

A lot of the women on dating apps fit your description. There are also a LOT of single moms. Generally, if you see a very good looking woman on OLD you can assume she is either so toxic that she can't hold anything down or she is a single mom. This is especially true on Bumble - at least from my personal experience when I last used it about 1 year ago.

 

[SW15]

As bad as the the online dating experience is for men, it is actually worse for women. A lot of their complaining is annoying, but I can say that after seeing some dating profiles of female acquaintances, it is understandable to me how they get tired of dealing with some of these guys on OLD. It is unbelievably pathetic. Not only is there zero game; but they come across as just sad human beings.

Not giving women a total pass since their issues are well documented (especially here on SS ha) - but there are two sides to every coin.

I will agree that online dating can be a bad experience for women and that there are two sides to the coin. I don't think the "one date, no sex, no second date" outcome is as bad for women since they get validation and free drinks/meals out of it. You could argue that the free drinks or free meal isn't worth spending the time with some sad male human being.

They can also get sex from top tier men out of it. Sex is a human need. However, they don't get the extended, committed relationships they often desire from using the swipe apps. Even social media DMs don't have that great of a track record in producing extended, committed relationships.