she doesnt do Public affection

[derby1]

I have a current woman I'm dating, and she doesnt do public displays of affection. everything else about her is high interest.

she chases,
pays, turns up
puts out.

A lot of things about her are good. But I dont know whether I like this affection thing, by no means do I need to smother a woman, or her me. But I like us, to look/act like a couple dating, when were out. I basically look like Im with a cactus (even miles away from our town).

I noticed she shared a few humorous videos about affection so its clearly something that she doesnt understand from her childhood?

after a few drinks shes holding my arm and everything, sex was quite good and she satisfied me., but any other time its like like accessing federal reserve padlock.

I dropped her off yesterday, and we had the most awkward peck on the lips, goodbye.

shes messaged instantly to thank me for friday night. so everything else is good.

Whats your thoughts guys?

 

[Bingo-Player]

Could be a history of abuse hidden somewhere , it defenitely isn't normal

Usually when a girl likes a man she is properly dating she wants to submiss and seduce him to stop him from thinking about any other women

Maybe you need to make it clear to this chick if she don't turn up the tempo your eyes may start wondering

 

[Murk]

Could be a history of abuse hidden somewhere , it defenitely isn't normal

I’ll bet it’s this.

Had same with a girl I liked who was very fvcked up mentally. No kissing or eye contact during sex unless she was drunk, very little affection. It was very draining for me as a tactile person.

May advice is seek people who mirror levels of pda, you can’t change people like that

 

[derby1]

Had same with a girl I liked who was very fvcked up mentally. No kissing or eye contact during sex unless she was drunk, very little affection. It was very draining for me as a tactile person.

I come from a loving family, the women have always held the mens arm, so I agree with you, I find it awkward. We were literally down the alley way of a cool castle friday night, you couldnt get a better location to kiss, she literally leaned away as I went to kiss her lol, it kills my interest.

Maybe you need to make it clear to this chick if she don't turn up the tempo your eyes may start wondering

shes always going on about other women, shes finished her last message with "catch ya soon"

she knows somethings up, nows my chance to show her somethings up, shes testing me to chase with that message, as she doesnt ever leave a message like that.

I think a few days NC is needed

 

[Murk]

I come from a loving family, the women have always held the mens arm, so I agree with you, I find it awkward. We were literally down the alley way of a cool castle friday night, you couldnt get a better location to kiss, she literally leaned away as I went to kiss her lol, it kills my interest.



shes always going on about other women, shes finished her last message with "catch ya soon"

she knows somethings up, nows my chance to show her somethings up, shes testing me to chase with that message, as she doesnt ever leave a message like that.

I think a few days NC is needed

Yeah, it’s a head fvck because you’re getting sex, so you know she’s attracted, but the pulling away from kisses etc makes you feel rejected.

Its her, not you, avoid these women!

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I have a current woman I'm dating, and she doesnt do public displays of affection. everything else about her is high interest.

she chases,
pays, turns up
puts out.

A lot of things about her are good. But I dont know whether I like this affection thing, by no means do I need to smother a woman, or her me. But I like us, to look/act like a couple dating, when were out. I basically look like Im with a cactus (even miles away from our town).

I noticed she shared a few humorous videos about affection so its clearly something that she doesnt understand from her childhood?

after a few drinks shes holding my arm and everything, sex was quite good and she satisfied me., but any other time its like like accessing federal reserve padlock.

I dropped her off yesterday, and we had the most awkward peck on the lips, goodbye.

shes messaged instantly to thank me for friday night. so everything else is good.

Whats your thoughts guys?

If there is too many of these "she doesn't do this or that" you probably should not be dating her, date someone more compatable.

 

[derby1]

I usually do that with women I want to have sex with but don’t find them good-looking.

I think she wants you only for sex

she spent 150 pounds on me for my birthday last week, and travels to mine. I believe she fancies me in this scenario.

 

[derby1]

I know women like this. I think its just a personality trait (not feeling comfortable as the center of attention) and not a problem, although I agree its annoying. I know some moderately healthy women like this. Promiscuous women worried about running into someone they know are also like this.

I thought this, totally agree. but we were miles and miles away

 

[derby1]

I could be wrong about the possible mental health ramifications of this PDA avoidance though.

I dont think her parents were affectionate, I think they were that stoic kind. where the dad walks 10 yards infront of the mom

 

[Black Widow Void]

If you really think about it, PDA is simply emulating behavior – witnessed in others (monkey see - monkey do).

Although I’ve done it and I don’t object to modest displays… overall it’s really an act of exhibitionism.

 

[derby1]

If you really think about it, PDA is simply emulating behavior

for sure, but in the first 6 months of dating i want us to look like a couple. its difficult enough further down the line.

I just felt like i was hanging round with a cactus, till she had a few drinks

 

[EyeBRollin]

That’s just how she is. The reason is irrelevant. Accept it or move on.

 

[spred]

She doesnt do pda (with YOU).
Most likely she doesn’t want to be seen intimate with you (former ex in the picture, she is pining for a high smw guy, she told family and friends she is/want to be single, etc).
As long as sex is happening, not a big deal.
You can force an answer by taking her out on dates on public places with high attractions, asking to meet her family and friends.

 

[derby1]

Keep in mind Derb its a game. Enjoy the practice on these types. They can sharpen you if you keep your acceptence in check. .02

my trouble is now bro, I am late 30's I literally get E.D over the slightest thing a woman does

 

[mrgoodstuff]

my trouble is now bro, I am late 30's I literally get E.D over the slightest thing a woman does

"ED" means you feel disrespected and basically you don't like her. If she's sexy as hell and all into you and pleasing you all the time your champ will stand strong. He knows when your being disrespected or getting bad energy.

 

[derby1]

ED" means you feel disrespected and basically you don't like her. If she's sexy as hell and all into you and pleasing you all the time your champ will stand strong. He knows when your being disrespected or getting bad energy.

i totally agree, cause my morning wood suggests I could drill through granite

 

[mrgoodstuff]

i totally agree, cause my morning wood suggests I could drill through granite

When we were younger we could be "dumber" and stupid and be with a disrespectful lady and it would still rise up. We were being stupid in the situation, now as we are more aware it's hard to be aroused if you know your being stupid in the situation.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Some women just feel uncomfortable with people looking at them while engaging in that.

Might get better as she gets more comfortable, might not.

If this is a huge deal then you'll have to make a decision at some point if it doesn't.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I have a current woman I'm dating, and she doesnt do public displays of affection. everything else about her is high interest.

she chases,
pays, turns up
puts out.

A lot of things about her are good. But I dont know whether I like this affection thing, by no means do I need to smother a woman, or her me. But I like us, to look/act like a couple dating, when were out. I basically look like Im with a cactus (even miles away from our town).

I noticed she shared a few humorous videos about affection so its clearly something that she doesnt understand from her childhood?

after a few drinks shes holding my arm and everything, sex was quite good and she satisfied me., but any other time its like like accessing federal reserve padlock.

I dropped her off yesterday, and we had the most awkward peck on the lips, goodbye.

shes messaged instantly to thank me for friday night. so everything else is good.

Whats your thoughts guys?

I smashed outside lulz. Girl is "religious." The lack of PDA isn't a deal breaker. It's that she has rules and she upholds to them vs getting lost in the moment when she's with you.

Getting your **** sucked in public is some next level. Smashing outdoors in the day time is another level altogether.

I'm not saying drop her. I'm saying get more girls. Rollo is spot on about burning genuine desire. Her religion, rules, and whatever else of a excuse is forgotten when desire is over 9000. Desire is animalistic. It's raw. It's flow state.

Let it play out but keep it moving. Go get more girls. Pull. Go hiking with a hot young thing. Get a throater on your hike. You'll forget the no PDA girl. It's not to say her trepidation isn't real. Maybe it is. this obstacle is there &&& it's her hangup. Higher interest level would by pass it IMHO. do you really want to grapple with this? Personally it would get played out real fast for me the sec I take my D out. Any lack of compliance means #next!

 

[DonJuanjr]