It’s the easiest but it’s limited unless you have a HUGR social circle that’s connected
Yes, social circles are conceptually going to be more limited. In theory, you can cold approach a huge pool of people. In reality, a smaller percentage of men do enough cold approaches. That's the #1 problem that I see with men who are primarily in-person cold approachers. That's actually why dating websites and later swipe apps were created. Most people weren't interacting with enough quantity of other single people.
The men who I have seen gotten the most outcomes out of social circle that had two factors working in their favor, both related to living in the same area most of their lives.
1. They lived in the same geographic area for the entirety of their lives prior to age 18 or at least lived in the same area from ages 5-18. These men can thank their parents for their geographical constancy during the K-12 years.
2. They chose to live in the same area that they were raised during their adult lives. At most, they went away for 4 years of college.
Men who have these two factors applicable in their lives never partcipate on SoSuave or similar forums. They're too busy in relationships at any given time to be even thinking about SoSuave.
There is one major problem that this type of guy experiences. He's too blue pill. Men with strong social circles tend to put rings on their extended girlfriends. One small reason why they do this is to not upset the apple cart of the social circle. A bigger reason why is that they think this girlfriend that came about from the social circle is a better option than anything else that they could come up with in the absence of a social circle.
In many cases, these are the men who ended up divorced, many times with children. The social circle might bail them out with a fellow divorcee in that situation. The social circle can more easily bail out divorced men without children. The key is your phrase "that's connected". A well connected social circle is so valuable.
I knew a guy who had those two characteristics listed above get divorced without children (and a higher than average income) and his social circle was feeding him prospects immediately after the word got out his ex filed. Even women who were his casual acquaintances were trying to seduce him when they heard about his ex filing. Because of this, he never used a swipe app upon his divorce. He never did a non-bar approach upon his divorce and likely did very few bar approaches. Like many men with good social circles, he was blue pill, and he got married for a second time. Had children in marriage #2. If marriage #2 fails, he may be less able to use his social circle again.
it’s hard to do that outside of college but possible.
I agree with this. I can think of a few ways that social circle can be used post college in a city where you didn't spend your childhood or attend college/trade school. That path is a more difficult social cirlce path than the geographically fixed path that I detailed above.
Choosing an apartment community in a singles dense neighborhood in a larger city is mandatory for doing this path. You can easily meet people through the apartment complex's pool in the warmer months. These aren't people that you will want to date due to living too close (depending on the size of your complex). At an apartment complex pool, it would be common to meet a woman who lives in the same complex and who has friends with her at the pool that day who live in other apartment complexes or are renting a single family house (typically with roommates). The women who lives outside of the complex where you live but have friends in your complex are the most ideal targets. You can date within your own complex if it is large enough and she lives far enough away from you within the complex, but it is always better to date outside the complex.
Co-ed sports leagues are another social circle type option. It would be fair to call the effort weak social circle game.
I think more men who attempt co-ed sports leagues for dating purposes end up having poor experiences than good experiences with it. I've heard of the occasional couple forming through a co-ed sports league, but more people fail with those than succeed.
A good percentage of the participating population in co-ed sports is doing it because they are single and looking to date. However, there are some established couples/established teams who do things. It can be a bit cliquey and social circle to do. . You're generally going to have a better experience in a sports league if you establish your own team from your existing circle of friends rather than sign up as a free agent to join teams that are 1-2 players short of a full team or a random team comprised of all free agents. Random teams comprised of all free agents tend to lose more games than they win, regardless of the sport. This is even more true when the sport requires actual skill, like volleyball or soccer. Regardless of the sport, most of the socializing and finding romance occurs after the end of the game at some sponsor bar. The games are filler for the actual picking up.
I recommend co-ed sports leagues if you're passionate about the sport. If you're doing it just for the dating, you're likely to be sorely disappointed. It's effectiveness is questionable and it's definitely not efficient. For efficiency's sake, you're likely better off going to fitness classes and doing approaches before or after classes, especially if you're joining leagues as a free agent and don't have social ties within the league. You're more likely to build social ties if you do the leagues season after season. Co-ed sports leagues are difficult to swoop into and get dates from random approaching after games.
I would rather do the apartment community pool scene than the co-ed sports league scene if wanting to do social circle.
Approaching strangers in these environments is a lot easier than at any bar, grocery store, or park/walking path.
