Strange you would get that from 40 something, Gen X women. Millennial women are all about wokeness, which includes vaccinations. I guess mid-20s women aren't letting their wokeness get in the way of their sex lives whereas older women are letting their wokeness impede potential interactions.
There are a number of good condom brands/varieties of brands out there. Not sure if you've been using any of the better ones.
I am usually able to finish inside of a condom with a woman but it can be more challenging to do so, especially in a second round in the same night.