I'm going to start cold approaching again

[Plinco]

I'm turning 38 next month and my skills are rusty. I'm going to try to cold approach subtly at the mall and especially university campus. It's going to take a lot of practice just getting started again.

 

[kavi]

Let us know your strategy/game and how it works out.

 

[biggoal]

I'm turning 38 next month and my skills are rusty. I'm going to try to cold approach subtly at the mall and especially university campus. It's going to take a lot of practice just getting started again.

See nothing wrong with it except 38 and going on campus trying to get 19 to 23 year olds is a huge uphill battle

 

[Dr.Suave]

Arent you married?

 

[Plinco]

Let us know your strategy/game and how it works out.

Will do man!

See nothing wrong with it except 38 and going on campus trying to get 19 to 23 year olds is a huge uphill battle

It's the only battle I'm willing to fight.

Arent you married?

Yes I still am. Maybe I can solve our problems this way. It might be the commitment that's turning me off.

 

[MatureDJ]

Just don't look like this guy doing it:

 

[biggoal]

Just don't look like this guy doing it:

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Actually an old guy with a few million bucks might attract them more than a 40 year old guy simply because hes rich vs a 40 year old with a typical income. Broke college girls looking for sugar daddy.

 

[Plinco]

Actually an old guy with a few million bucks might attract them more than a 40 year old guy simply because hes rich vs a 40 year old with a typical income. Broke college girls looking for sugar daddy.

Not looking to be a sugar daddy.

Just don't look like this guy doing it:

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Who's that guy?

 

[Zimbabwe]

Get a wingman to help push you into approaching, i found it helped a lot in the early stages when i had major AA.

 

[Plinco]

Get a wingman to help push you into approaching, i found it helped a lot in the early stages when i had major AA.

I've done it before, years ago. I'm rusty at it now. A wingman would be a good idea.

 

[SW15]

I've done it before, years ago. I'm rusty at it now. A wingman would be a good idea.

Wingmen are more for bar approaching than non-bar approaching. If you're talking about mall or university campus approaching, a wingman is going to seem out of place. In many cases, you're already going to get isolation. Non-bar approaching has a big advantage in getting you access to women isolated from friends.

 

[MatureDJ]

Not looking to be a sugar daddy.

Who's that guy?

He's a fire & brimstone judge that got caught in a scandal in which years ago when he was in his 30's, he would spin MallGame with high school chicks there, so much so that everyone complained to mall security about him, and he got banned. He said that he had to start with a young wife to have a big family.

 

[MatureDJ]

Actually an old guy with a few million bucks might attract them more than a 40 year old guy simply because hes rich vs a 40 year old with a typical income. Broke college girls looking for sugar daddy.

How about a few HUNDRED million bucks like this guy?

 

[devilkingx2]

Not looking to be a sugar daddy.



Who's that guy?

Looks like

 

[Plinco]

He's a fire & brimstone judge that got caught in a scandal in which years ago when he was in his 30's, he would spin MallGame with high school chicks there, so much so that everyone complained to mall security about him, and he got banned. He said that he had to start with a young wife to have a big family.

Oh it's Roy Moore, okay

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I’ve pretty much never CA’d. Best of luck!

 

[RangerMIke]

FWIW IMO, what is called 'cold approach' is really just an extension of who you are as a person. Just get in the habit of just striking up conversations with strangers.... Then if that 'person' happens to be a woman you are interested in it just comes off as natural.

If you are only trying to do this with women you are attracted too then it comes off as a creepy pick-up attempt because you haven't had enough practice.

 

[Plinco]

FWIW IMO, what is called 'cold approach' is really just an extension of who you are as a person. Just get in the habit of just striking up conversations with strangers.... Then if that 'person' happens to be a woman you are interested in it just comes off as natural.

If you are only trying to do this with women you are attracted too then it comes off as a creepy pick-up attempt because you haven't had enough practice.

Good advice! I was thinking of this earlier when I was out and about and people watching, but I did not articulate this fully in my mind.

 

[Plinco]

To complicate matters, my wife and her friend decided to go to the university campus the same day I am there. It's a big campus, but it's still annoying. My wife wants to go with me out of boredom and her friend decided to go to school for architecture.

I figure to power through the situation, it could be worse. If things continue to not work out between me and my wife I could divorce her right?

 

[Plinco]

It is vital to stay in the game

The trial never ends. Well said.