I have a friend exactly like this; single mom, current bf the same age as yours, and men REALLY like her. She has had alot of engagements, guys chasing her, was a former model. Heck. I like to talk to her.
And I think there is a word for this, don’t mean to offend you, but the word is “Vixen”.
This is good and a man should improve all the time.
Personally I think the most important thing a woman can do, that will make a man fall in love hard, is initiate. Her picking up the phone and calling or texting first, without “wanting” something, more important than sex in 2022.
No offense taken. In fact I find that to be a compliment. It’s funny. I have Pottery Barn Christmas china with Charactures of Santa’s reindeer. Guess which plate is always at my place on the table? Yup. Vixen. My exBF always sent me Jessica Rabbit memes. He saw me as that Jessica Rabbitt/Vixen persona.
Women like your female friend and I understand how to display sexiness without vulgarity. It’s edgy and sexy but also elegant in its restraint. It intrigues the hell out of men. Added to that is the fact that I adore men. She must as well. There is magnetic attraction in women who know how to wield sexual power with class and grace. It is a dichotomy that most any man desires in a woman. It’s rare. Therefore valuable.
Here’s the problem with a woman who initiates. It’s backwards. It robs the man of his natural desire to conquer. It lessens value. Think of it this way. Let’s say you are a hunter. What if your prey just simply walked out of the brush and laid down for you to slay? Yes you would have easy prey. But you’ll value the experience more if you have to go through the effort of preparing, waiting, finding the prey, being still and quiet, getting your aim right, making your shot, etc. The thrill of the hunt is where the value really lies. Easy prey is easy come, easy go. And men percieve women who initiate as easy come, easy go. Lacking value. Not requiring investment.
People fall in love with two things. How they feel and what they invest in. If as a woman I require a man’s investment (of time, money, effort) and I reward him for that investment by making him feel amazing about making that investment (sexually, emotionally, conversationally etc.) and throw in an appropriate amount of competition anxiety then guess what? He will fall and fall hard. He can’t help it. It’s a man hack of sorts. And as a highly desirable woman it is incumbent on ME to respect men enough to only garner that reaction in men I desire.
And that is a big part of why I only choose men who choose me. Out of respect for myself AND for men.
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@bat soup ‘s point he is utterly correct. Women will create opportunities in subtle ways for men they are drawn to. It will be a glance, a proximity, a smile & look away…it’s fleeting but it’s there.
Women show indications of interest in subtle, covert ways. That is why social calibration and skill at social cues is so important in seduction. Often she will indicate that you are green lighted to approach if you pay attention & pick up the cues.
