Irrationally building up women in your head

[oc16]

I seem to fall victim to this a couple times a year and it usually happens to me at the gym.

I will see a woman who looks 10, 12, 15+ years younger than me look in my direction a few times.

I'll get all excited in my head. Oh! Does this girl find me attractive? Maybe, I will finally get my lucky break!

I think most of us older guys 35+ find it a lot more of an ego boost and dopamine rush when a much younger woman finds us attractive (or at least we think she does) as opposed to a woman closer to our age range.

Next thing you know I end developing crushes around these women and building up these women in my head even though I have never even spoken to them before and know nothing about them.

I will feel real nervous if I am working out in their presence thinking they are watching my every move (e.g. how confident my movements are)

I know this thinking is irrational and I tell myself to just stop it with such thoughts:

1.) You know nothing about this woman, she can be an airhead or a *****
2.) She's probably 15 to 20 years your junior, you are not being realistic!
3.) She probably has a serious boyfriend and is home sucking him off right now. She isn't thinking about you

How do I stop this non-sense? I think scarcity is the issue, but maybe there is more to it

 

[Willie Naylor]

Picture her on the can first thing in the morning, squeezin' one out.

Works every time.

 

[oc16]

Picture her on the can first thing in the morning, squeezin' one out.

Works every time.

Funny because obviously women do have bodily functions like that, but we tend to forget that.

I think if you saw the hottest girl working out and she had a **** stain on her ass that would knock her off her pedestal real quick.

 

[corrector]

I seem to fall victim to this a couple times a year and it usually happens to me at the gym.

I will see a woman who looks 10, 12, 15+ years younger than me look in my direction a few times.

I'll get all excited in my head. Oh! Does this girl find me attractive? Maybe, I will finally get my lucky break!

How do I stop this non-sense? I think scarcity is the issue, but maybe there is more to it

Are you sure this is just a couple of times per year?

 

[Bingo-Player]

Op you are living rent free in your own head

You can analyse and sub analyse for the rest of eternity

The crux is most women won't approach you , you need to approach them

One of my friends is practically mentally retarded but he has zero fear of approaching anyone he gets a frightening amount of pu$$y it's quite the phenomenon to watch in action

It's not all great quality but he gets it none the less

Stop thinking about these girls and approach them and just say something anything the first few will be awkward but then you will get into the swing of it

 

[Mike32ct]

I can totally understand what the OP is saying.

Try not to form “crushes” on women you never dated.* I know; it’s much easier said than done.

If you haven’t actually been intimate with her (or at least not yet), she’s just a chick you find attractive, nothing more. She’s NOT your girlfriend.

*Yes, even adults have crushes sometimes.

 

[oc16]

I can totally understand what the OP is saying.

Try not to form “crushes” on women you never dated.* I know; it’s much easier said than done.

If you haven’t actually been intimate with her (or at least not yet), she’s just a chick you find attractive, nothing more. She’s NOT your girlfriend.

*Yes, even adults have crushes sometimes.

"She's just a chick you find attractive, nothing more."

Well said!

 

[derby1]

I seem to fall victim to this a couple times a year and it usually happens to me at the gym.

I will see a woman who looks 10, 12, 15+ years younger than me look in my direction a few times.

I'll get all excited in my head. Oh! Does this girl find me attractive? Maybe, I will finally get my lucky break!

I think most of us older guys 35+ find it a lot more of an ego boost and dopamine rush when a much younger woman finds us attractive (or at least we think she does) as opposed to a woman closer to our age range.

Next thing you know I end developing crushes around these women and building up these women in my head even though I have never even spoken to them before and know nothing about them.

I will feel real nervous if I am working out in their presence thinking they are watching my every move (e.g. how confident my movements are)

I know this thinking is irrational and I tell myself to just stop it with such thoughts:

1.) You know nothing about this woman, she can be an airhead or a *****
2.) She's probably 15 to 20 years your junior, you are not being realistic!
3.) She probably has a serious boyfriend and is home sucking him off right now. She isn't thinking about you

How do I stop this non-sense? I think scarcity is the issue, but maybe there is more to it

I did this the once, and the woman agreed to a date.....

I had literally married her in my mind she looked like a 60s movie siren.

Anyway she comes in and sits at the bar table, within 2 minutes shes using F bombs, and C*nt in every sentence.

Repulsed me completely, and I went from simp mangina to qualifying her within 2 seconds. then disqualifying her. The way the story flipped as she could tell I was repulsed, was amazing. A true red pill moment

 

[DonJuanjr]

Repulsed me completely, and I went from simp mangina to qualifying her within 2 seconds. then disqualifying her. The way the story flipped as she could tell I was repulsed, was amazing. A true red pill moment

I bet that was a good thing to see. Her seeing you transform from simp mangina to don don't give a fvck juan. Then seeing her transform from you have to work for da booty to I'm good enough I'll show you.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

How do I stop this non-sense? I think scarcity is the issue, but maybe there is more to it

You are correct. If you have many options, hot girls aren't so special anymore. They are a dime a dozen. Really they are.

Second is that once you have enough experience with a high number of hot women, you'll see how fvcking bat-sh*t crazy they all are which will reduce their value. Yeah, sex is great, but many times it comes at a cost, and occasionally a high cost.

 

[Plinco]

I seem to fall victim to this a couple times a year and it usually happens to me at the gym.

I will see a woman who looks 10, 12, 15+ years younger than me look in my direction a few times.

I'll get all excited in my head. Oh! Does this girl find me attractive? Maybe, I will finally get my lucky break!

Next thing you know I end developing crushes around these women and building up these women in my head even though I have never even spoken to them before and know nothing about them.

I will feel real nervous if I am working out in their presence thinking they are watching my every move (e.g. how confident my movements are)

I know this thinking is irrational and I tell myself to just stop it with such thoughts:

1.) You know nothing about this woman, she can be an airhead or a *****
2.) She's probably 15 to 20 years your junior, you are not being realistic!
3.) She probably has a serious boyfriend and is home sucking him off right now. She isn't thinking about you

You're thinking about this completely wrong because you are thinking that these women are above you. You should be asking yourself whether or not she is impressing you; does she respect you, etc.

I think most of us older guys 35+ find it a lot more of an ego boost and dopamine rush when a much younger woman finds us attractive (or at least we think she does) as opposed to a woman closer to our age range.

Sounds like you lack respect for yourself.

 

[derby1]

Then seeing her transform from you have to work for da booty to I'm good enough I'll show you.

I think I nutted mentally, over how proud i I was with the energy change at the table

Never again

 

[2Rocky]

 

[oc16]

You are correct. If you have many options, hot girls aren't so special anymore. They are a dime a dozen. Really they are.

Second is that once you have enough experience with a high number of hot women, you'll see how fvcking bat-sh*t crazy they all are which will reduce their value. Yeah, sex is great, but many times it comes at a cost, and occasionally a high cost.

I don't have many options, but I am a realist. However, I should try and have an abundance mindset even though that is not my reality at the moment. It can't hurt to at least pretend.

 

[Willie Naylor]

I have an irrational fear that the plane I'm flying in will all of a sudden lose power, and we'll fall 35,000 feet to the ground.

 

[2Rocky]

I have an irrational fear that the plane I'm flying in will all of a sudden lose power, and we'll fall 35,000 feet to the ground.

There's an answer for that....I looked it up....
Well, it has been a while since I flew airliners, but, if I remember correctly, the ones I flew had a typical (unpowered) glide ratio of 17:1. That means they would glide forward 17 miles for each 1 mile of altitude lost.

A typical airliner is flying at around 35,000 feet, as the OP mentions, which is about 7 miles up. 7x17=119 miles. A little less for maneuvering and circling to land. Even less if the reason you are gliding is damage to the aircraft. In accidents that 17:1 could become 12:1 or less.