How to look past a sh!tty personality?

SargeMaximus

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Before you tell me “find a girl you can enjoy her personality” I’ll just say i doubt one exists. I don’t get along with most people let alone women. My values are polar opposite to most people. And women are herd creatures so I’m pretty much fvcked in that area.

just wondering how you guys do it. I’ve been in plenty of dates where my d!ck is literally crawling inside my crotch trying to get away from the person I’m talking with.It’s like the biggest turn off for me so yeah, I guess that’s why most guys get drunk?
What’s the secret?
 

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"My values are polar opposite to most people."

What kind of things do you value? Give us an example.
 

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What’s the secret?
You don't look past a woman with a sh!tty personality. Why would you lower your standards for what you welcome into your life?

I'm not sure why you're implicitly content settling with chicks who make your d!ck crawl back into your crotch.

There's plenty of women with great personalities, but you're likely giving off a vibe that those women avoid. Like attracts like. So work on your own sh!tty personality first, then you'll attract women with better personalities.

You also self-admitted you don't get along with people, especially women. That's not an external problem, that's an internal one. Therefore the solution still lies within yourself.

Drop your expectations of women (but not your standards), and take them less seriously.

Dating should be fun – you shouldn't be "not getting along" with a chick on a date.
 

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You don't look past a woman with a sh!tty personality. Why would you lower your standards for what you welcome into your life?

I'm not sure why you're implicitly content settling with chicks who make your d!ck crawl back into your crotch.

There's plenty of women with great personalities, but you're likely giving off a vibe that those women avoid. Like attracts like. So work on your own sh!tty personality first, then you'll attract women with better personalities.

You also self-admitted you don't get along with people, especially women. That's not an external problem, that's an internal one. Therefore the solution still lies within yourself.

Drop your expectations of women (but not your standards), and take them less seriously.

Dating should be fun – you shouldn't be "not getting along" with a chick on a date.
My own sh!tty personality is just fine. I have a unique way of looking at the world. Not gonna change that just to get my d!ck wet. Is this the great advice? Change who you are to conform to women?
 

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Improve your personality to improve all aspects of your life, for yourself.
You are misunderstanding. Even if I became a suave charming and social god I’d still hold my same values which would still be in conflict with everyone else
 

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You are misunderstanding. Even if I became a suave charming and social god I’d still hold my same values which would still be in conflict with everyone else
Causw your not going to just go along and it'll be a problem ? Do they have to know what you think?
 

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Stick to your values and stay the course. Don't listen to these other phony advise on here. That is what being an alpha guy is about.
 

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You mentioned you go against the grain and do you. Do you have to let people know your thinking? I do me as well and sharing too much has never helped.
Yeah I don’t share much either what I mean is when I’m on a date with a girl and we’re talking I myself get annoyed with her. It’s got nothing to do with me sharing and every thing to do with her sharing
 

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I don't. It's a huge turn off for me. Plenty of chicks have fun, adventurous personalities where we have a good vibe together, so I have no interest in wasting my time with someone who doesn't.
 

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@SargeMaximus reading your OP, and your replies to those who've chimed in trying to help you, it seems like part of your 'unique personality' is to find ways to disagree with people and to be difficult.

Individuality. Nonconformity, including nonconformity to nonconformists.
You've eliminated the possibility of anyone helping you. You say you're a non-conformist, but also that you don't like non-conformists.

My head already hurts from this. Go be miserable somewhere else.
 
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