Cute chick vendor at the fleamarket by my store

[biggoal]

So I have a business at the market. Anyway, there is this cute girl and her and her mom set up a business a couple spots down from me.

The main issue is they don't speak a lot of English. I think they're light skinned Cuban or Mexican bit not fluent in English.

The girl is really quiet though. Other issue she looks about 19 at the most, I'm 38.

So what's the best way to talk to her if English isn't her primary language?

Dont want to be creepy and get thrown out because this is my full time job my business.

 

[Alvafe]

I really shouldn't, but I will try to help you a little

first don't matter her skin color, if she is cuban or mexican don't matter, what you should is ask her where is she from, and try to talk with her, talk with the mom too, and try to learn where and how they are doing.

take note be polite don't try to think too much about here she is, and see if they are family oriented


but then its you so i'm sure you WILL crash and burn so

 

[biggoal]

I really shouldn't, but I will try to help you a little

first don't matter her skin color, if she is cuban or mexican don't matter, what you should is ask her where is she from, and try to talk with her, talk with the mom too, and try to learn where and how they are doing.

take note be polite don't try to think too much about here she is, and see if they are family oriented


but then its you so i'm sure you WILL crash and burn so

She looks about 19, but worried she might only be 17 though. She looks pretty young. Fl is 18.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Just say ANYTHING and see how she responds. Mention the weather, the business, anything.
If it turns out she really doesn’t speak English well, then later catch her eye and do some kind of comical pantomime or quickly point to someone there and make some kind of silent facial expression about them. Maybe there’s a funny looking person there and you can gesture toward them and raise your eyebrows. See if you can get a rapport going with her.
You’d have a much easier time with people closer to your own age though.

 

[Alvafe]

She looks about 19, but worried she might only be 17 though. She looks pretty young. Fl is 18.

that is why you tak with her mom together, they have a new bussiness close to yours, chances are they will also ask you about it, and they would be willing to talk and try to learn the language more, even more the girl, did you ever saw a woman without talking? they will learn fast.
the thing here is like atom said, you enter her radar first and see how it goes, you have a huge source of questions to ask and to receive, if even so she is not that keen on talking you will take your leave

 

[Modern Man Advice]

So I have a business at the market. Anyway, there is this cute girl and her and her mom set up a business a couple spots down from me.

The main issue is they don't speak a lot of English. I think they're light skinned Cuban or Mexican bit not fluent in English.

The girl is really quiet though. Other issue she looks about 19 at the most, I'm 38.

So what's the best way to talk to her if English isn't her primary language?

Dont want to be creepy and get thrown out because this is my full time job my business.

Reminds me of a Seinfeld episode where George ends up messing around with this old man's maid from Senegal.

George tells her (knowing she doesn't speak English) that he wants to rub his head on oil against her body. Haha

I'm telling you, you can learn a great deal about intergender dynamics and dating from watching that sitcom.

But anyway, to your conundrum. 19 and 38 is a big gap. In Latin/Hispanic culture (depending on where she is from) her family is a big influence on a child's life. The age difference will not be seen favorably in your favor. In fact, the father might want to strangle you if he catches you.

Also, what are you expecting from that interaction? She is 19, her mindset might not quite be there yet. 22and up, maybe. If on the other hand you are looking for something casual just make sure you are super proactive and smart about consent, etc.

Having said all the important things, the key is to gain trust over time. As you continue shopping there (not every single week or worse day as that would raise a red flag) spark small convos with her. Over the course of 2 or 3 interactions test her interest and find out if she would be down to interact outside that setting. Oviously, don't ask her like that, its too proper and it is not the 1800's. But you know what I mean.

Keep us updated.


Modern Man Advice

 

[biggoal]

Reminds me of a Seinfeld episode where George ends up messing around with this old man's maid from Senegal.

George tells her (knowing she doesn't speak English) that he wants to rub his head on oil against her body. Haha

I'm telling you, you can learn a great deal about intergender dynamics and dating from watching that sitcom.

But anyway, to your conundrum. 19 and 38 is a big gap. In Latin/Hispanic culture (depending on where she is from) her family is a big influence on a child's life. The age difference will not be seen favorably in your favor. In fact, the father might want to strangle you if he catches you.

Also, what are you expecting from that interaction? She is 19, her mindset might not quite be there yet. 22and up, maybe. If on the other hand you are looking for something casual just make sure you are super proactive and smart about consent, etc.

Having said all the important things, the key is to gain trust over time. As you continue shopping there (not every single week or worse day as that would raise a red flag) spark small convos with her. Over the course of 2 or 3 interactions test her interest and find out if she would be down to interact outside that setting. Oviously, don't ask her like that, its too proper and it is not the 1800's. But you know what I mean.

Keep us updated.


Modern Man Advice

I know. I see guys on here mid 30s and such complaining they can't get 20 year olds. I recall Johnny Depp flirted with a young girl and people went nuts over it despite him being famous and high smv and called him a creep.
80 years ago the age thing wouldn't be a big deal! Why is there a stigma these days about guys liking younger women??

 

[Barrister]

So I have a business at the market. Anyway, there is this cute girl and her and her mom set up a business a couple spots down from me.

The main issue is they don't speak a lot of English. I think they're light skinned Cuban or Mexican bit not fluent in English.

The girl is really quiet though. Other issue she looks about 19 at the most, I'm 38.

So what's the best way to talk to her if English isn't her primary language?

Dont want to be creepy and get thrown out because this is my full time job my business.

I recommend that you bring an interpreter with you to speak to her. Also, have the interpreter ask for her identification to make sure she is at least 18.

In all seriousness, why don't you just try to speak to her? This isn't rocket science. Do you not realize you overthink every possible approach and end up losing even the possibility you could get a date? Just strike up a friendly conversation and see how it goes. Good vibe? Well then ask for her number.

 

[joesbigship]

Make sure she has a green card too.

 

[biggoal]

I recommend that you bring an interpreter with you to speak to her. Also, have the interpreter ask for her identification to make sure she is at least 18.

In all seriousness, why don't you just try to speak to her? This isn't rocket science. Do you not realize you overthink every possible approach and end up losing even the possibility you could get a date? Just strike up a friendly conversation and see how it goes. Good vibe? Well then ask for her number.

LOL. In all seriousness I don't get the age thing these days in society. Like if an 70 year old guy gets a 40 year old hot babe people just think it's funny cause she wants a sugar daddy. But if a 35 year old likes a 19 year old then it's YUK, pervert, creep, etc. Even when it's someone like Johnny Depp. It's biology men like women younger than them, human nature. Women like tall guys and say it's biology but no one calls them out on being shallow for not liking guys under 6-1!

 

[Barrister]

LOL. In all seriousness I don't get the age thing these days in society. Like if an 70 year old guy gets a 40 year old hot babe people just think it's funny cause she wants a sugar daddy. But if a 35 year old likes a 19 year old then it's YUK, pervert, creep, etc. Even when it's someone like Johnny Depp. It's biology men like women younger than them, human nature. Women like tall guys and say it's biology but no one calls them out on being shallow for not liking guys under 6-1!

Stop worrying about what our PC society says is OK and just approach women you find attractive.

Edit: So long as it is legal that is - ha.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I know. I see guys on here mid 30s and such complaining they can't get 20 year olds. I recall Johnny Depp flirted with a young girl and people went nuts over it despite him being famous and high smv and called him a creep.
80 years ago the age thing wouldn't be a big deal! Why is there a stigma these days about guys liking younger women??

I personally don't have anything against it as long as it's legal. This is why I mentioned covering your bases, etc. You can get in serious trouble if she ends up not being age-legal.

But I also personally wouldn't go that young. But that's just my personal preference. I just set standards and boundaries, and 22 and under just doesn't cut it unless it's just something casual. But to date? Not for me. I don't have that kinda time/patience to figure what kids are about these days. Those little aliens are too complicated with their snap chat, tik tok, and whatnot.

Again, keep us posted.

Modern Man Advice

 

[Billtx49]

The main issue is they don't speak a lot of English.

So what's the best way to talk to her if English isn't her primary language?

They’re set up as sellers at a flea market in Florida. They understand english well enough to get that done, plus the younger generation is usually better at the English language than their parents. I don’t see any communication problem here.…

 

[biggoal]

They’re set up as sellers at a flea market in Florida. They understand english well enough to get that done, plus the younger generation is usually better at the English language than their parents. I don’t see any communication problem here.…

She knows basically English I mean of course but talking to her wasn't super easy because she wasn't fluent.

 

[biggoal]

I personally don't have anything against it as long as it's legal. This is why I mentioned covering your bases, etc. You can get in serious trouble if she ends up not being age-legal.

But I also personally wouldn't go that young. But that's just my personal preference. I just set standards and boundaries, and 22 and under just doesn't cut it unless it's just something casual. But to date? Not for me. I don't have that kinda time/patience to figure what kids are about these days. Those little aliens are too complicated with their snap chat, tik tok, and whatnot.

Again, keep us posted.

Modern Man Advice

True, the maturity thing. But they're nice to look at though!

 

[Billtx49]

She knows basically English I mean of course but talking to her wasn't super easy because she wasn't fluent.

Then go find another girl if it bothers you enough to make a thread about it…
This is your female sighting due to circumstances only, not a girl you found and selected through the usual methods.

 

[oc16]

I personally don't have anything against it as long as it's legal. This is why I mentioned covering your bases, etc. You can get in serious trouble if she ends up not being age-legal.

But I also personally wouldn't go that young. But that's just my personal preference. I just set standards and boundaries, and 22 and under just doesn't cut it unless it's just something casual. But to date? Not for me. I don't have that kinda time/patience to figure what kids are about these days. Those little aliens are too complicated with their snap chat, tik tok, and whatnot.

Again, keep us posted.

Modern Man Advice

What's your opinion on the half your age + 7 rule? Do you think it's realistic or logical?

 

[Modern Man Advice]

What's your opinion on the half your age + 7 rule? Do you think it's realistic or logical?

I don't follow rules. The moment I hear rule it goes out my other ear. I just think it's simple, it's subjective and dependent on your own standards and boundaries.

But you have to set those for yourself. And they come from knowing yourself and "been-there-done-that" well enough to know what you can accept vs not.

In terms of age, we all (hopefully) have read Rollo Tomassi's books and are well aware of women's general SMV. So I generally just shoot for women with who I can have a stimulating conversation and that is "physically prime". That is usually early to mid 20's.

Like I saw before, if it's just something casual then neither are important as long as she is HB7 and up. And of course, age-legal.


Modern Man Advice

 

[bat soup]

So I have a business at the market. Anyway, there is this cute girl and her and her mom set up a business a couple spots down from me.

The main issue is they don't speak a lot of English. I think they're light skinned Cuban or Mexican bit not fluent in English.

The girl is really quiet though. Other issue she looks about 19 at the most, I'm 38.

So what's the best way to talk to her if English isn't her primary language?

Dont want to be creepy and get thrown out because this is my full time job my business.

Tell her "you look nice. No, not you, your daughter"

 

[biggoal]

Tell her "you look nice. No, not you, your daughter"

I did introduce myself today. She must be cuban due to the accent. Again, very quiet when I watch her and she's very soft spoken, shy, stays in her booth and her and her mom don't socialize with none of the vendors around them. Dunno if that's due to being new or the language barrier. We have one vendor who's cuban on the aisle but everyone else is white and old and doesn't speak any Spanish. She had an iPhone 8 cause she bought a case from me the other day. Old phone so they might not have a lot of money.

We get Spanish shoppers in there a lot and they buy my stuff. Usually they point to the product.