How often do you like or comment on women's social media posts?

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Let 's say you've got an attractive coworker you would like to date....or a cute waitreses ....
do you completely ignore the social media part of the game ? Do you ever like when she changes her profile pic ?
 

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Let 's say you've got an attractive coworker you would like to date....or a cute waitreses ....
do you completely ignore the social media part of the game ? Do you ever like when she changes her profile pic ?
It's better to just message her directly. You want to get information from her (about her level of interest), not give away information.
 

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Once in a blue moon or if she has done something particularly worthy of this attention like fvcked your brains out

I see a lot of guys fall into the trap of liking everything she posts …..what this is telling her is that she has your full attention / desire and its very easy for her to undervalue it

A smart play is too connect with her on social media and then avoid everything she posts don't watch her stories nothing

If her interest is medium - high then she will 100% pick up on this because women are on social media for like 15 hours a day they see everything if your not engaging with her content it will bother her
 
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Yeah being a long time lurker on this site i expected those answers.
It's just that i see people who are giving women attention on social media getting laid. I'm trying to find the balance between too much or too little.
This balance has always been my biggest problem since i'm a very proud person who at the slightest percieved disrespect reacts by whitdrawing. So i feel like i'm missing out on many women by being too proud to invest more...it's like i want 100% interest from women otherwise i just stop contacting them.
 

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Very seldom to never.

By commenting, liking posts, etc, you are feeding the AW that every women has. Even when I am "dating" someone, I dont like their social media posts.

Are you in a better position making them chase your validation or just handing it out like candy?

Think about that.
 

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I was seeing a cute college chick for a couple months and then we randomly stopped seeing each for no particular reason. A few months went by and she hits me up saying she was thinking about me lately. Well, my dumbass decided to go on her IG and leave a comment saying was cute or something. Apparently that act alone was enough to make her do a 180 and lose interest in me, and we never got together again.

That was one of the only times I've ever commented on a girls content and it pretty much immediately backfired. Complimenting a girl in person can sometimes work (except at bars/clubs where they expect it), but doing it on social media is particularly simpy and thirsty, and it frames them as the prize.

All that said, I don't think men should use social media, period. I got rid of all of mine and haven't looked back. If you insist on having social media, ignore all the thots. Literally unfollow/defriend/block whatever.
 
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I would only like or comment on posts of hers that aren’t photos of her.

Ie. food, animals, scenery, etc.

Never photos of her where she is clearly fishing for validation. When I was younger I would comment something like “simply hideous” or “you forgot to shave” amidst all the simps commenting with “so beautiful!” but I don’t bother much with social media anymore.

If she’s a selfie queen and all of her photos are selfies or thirst traps, I wouldn’t follow her to begin with. That’s low value behavior.
 
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I would only like or comment on posts of hers that aren’t photos of her.

Ie. food, animals, scenery, etc.
Why bother with these either? They tend to take the same basic ***** photos that every other thot takes and think they're special. You know a lot of women purposely go places just to take photos so people will think they're interesting, right? (guys do this too)

If they are genuinely original and interesting, I guess that's fine, but in my limited experience that was almost never the case.
 

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Why bother with these either? They tend to take the same basic ***** photos that every other thot takes and think they're special. You know a lot of women purposely go places just to take photos so people will think they're interesting, right? (guys do this too)

If they are genuinely original and interesting, I guess that's fine, but in my limited experience that was almost never the case.
Yes if the photo is interesting or otherwise provocative to me, I will “engage” it, if I feel like it.

I don’t “engage” boilerplate “look at what I cooked” or “look at my artsy flower photos” photos in the hopes that I can remain in a girl’s orbit. I rarely, if ever, comment or like anyone on social media but I’m also not concerned with appearing simpy or needy or beta if a girl I like posts a photo I like.

This is venturing into uncalibrated “always be alpha” game, which is try-hard, immature and inauthentic. This is also a form of neediness.
 

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This is venturing into uncalibrated “always be alpha” game, which is try-hard, immature and inauthentic. This is also a form of neediness.
It's not. Social media is cancer and is primarily responsible for womens decline. Best to not even participate in it.
 

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Never. Never even watch their stories because they can see you do it.

And never F with a co-worker. So my following advice is general - not specific to your co-worker situation which you should not get into.

My social media does a good job of communicating my status so I'm fine with connecting with women I meet or date on social media, however, I will NEVER like their pics or watch their stories. This even applies to a girl I'm in an LTR with. It drives most of them nuts but I have found 9 out of 10 women seem to be obsessed with leveraging their social media as an attempt to assess many things about you, and they do this specifically by posting old "memory" pics of them with other men or current pics/stories of them with other men, with zero context of any kind. Is it their cousin? Date? Gay best friend? WHO KNOWS?! That's the point. You can't react. But then you also have to consider boundaries around her posting pics like that, when and if the relationship becomes serious. So I just won't watch stories. The girl I'm dating now has absolutely noticed I haven't watched a single story of hers and she hasn't said anything overtly about it, but is trying to "lure" me in by messaging me, "Oh I found the funniest thing and posted it on my story... you have to check it out!" LOL!!! I'm definitely going to "forget" about her ask.

Game women in person, directly. Not over social media. It can work on social media but you are competing with WAY more people than if you have the balls to do it F2F. Gaming on social media is also very beta and sheepish in situations where you see the woman in real life daily or from time to time and could approach her F2F. It communicates you are too much of a pvssy to talk to her F2F and have to do it behind a keyboard instead.
 

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It's not. Social media is cancer and is primarily responsible for womens decline. Best to not even participate in it.
I agree 100%, but whether social media is good wasn’t the argument I was making. I don’t participate in it myself, I deactivated Facebook years ago and maintain a LinkedIn and, unfortunately, an Instagram for work from which I do not like, comment or post on anything not related to business.

My argument is that if you like a girl, in general, it’s okay to give her a little validation. A girl I liked posted a really cool photo of bullet holes in a building in Bosnia. I posted “whoa that’s crazy those are still there.” That’s the extent of it.
 

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Never. Never even watch their stories because they can see you do it.

And never F with a co-worker. So my following advice is general - not specific to your co-worker situation which you should not get into.

My social media does a good job of communicating my status so I'm fine with connecting with women I meet or date on social media, however, I will NEVER like their pics or watch their stories. This even applies to a girl I'm in an LTR with. It drives most of them nuts but I have found 9 out of 10 women seem to be obsessed with leveraging their social media as an attempt to assess many things about you, and they do this specifically by posting old "memory" pics of them with other men or current pics/stories of them with other men, with zero context of any kind. Is it their cousin? Date? Gay best friend? WHO KNOWS?! That's the point. You can't react. But then you also have to consider boundaries around her posting pics like that, when and if the relationship becomes serious. So I just won't watch stories. The girl I'm dating now has absolutely noticed I haven't watched a single story of hers and she hasn't said anything overtly about it, but is trying to "lure" me in by messaging me, "Oh I found the funniest thing and posted it on my story... you have to check it out!" LOL!!! I'm definitely going to "forget" about her ask.

Game women in person, directly. Not over social media. It can work on social media but you are competing with WAY more people than if you have the balls to do it F2F. Gaming on social media is also very beta and sheepish in situations where you see the woman in real life daily or from time to time and could approach her F2F. It communicates you are too much of a pvssy to talk to her F2F and have to do it behind a keyboard instead.
FYI, you can watch Instagram stories anonymously via 3rd party sites. Google “Instagram story viewer.” In case you want to stalk an ex.
 

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Let 's say you've got an attractive coworker you would like to date....or a cute waitreses ....
do you completely ignore the social media part of the game ? Do you ever like when she changes her profile pic ?
Only if I genuinely like the content. Never to get her attention.

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SO an interesting thing happened when I started dating my current girlfriend about 5 years ago. I never liked or commented on anything on her social media. She was quite active on SM as a single woman and had a plethora of selfies, and memes with a specific theme etc when I first met her. Quite a few men in her comments. When we had been dating a year, she posted her first pictures of me and vice versa. In that time her selfies had decreased as did her overall posting on social media. The men commenting dried up almost immediately.

I think she got her dopamine from me directly rather than through thirsty comments on her social media so she devoted more energy towards that. So you can't be stingy with validation on all fronts. If long term success is what you want you have to be the source of her positive emotions. Don't allow social media to become a surrogate communication avenue.
 

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I never saw the point of doing it, she isn't going to sleep with you because you "liked" her post. I've never really been active on social media though
 

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Zero, the moment you hit that like button youre already simpin. Dude shes sleeping with aint in her likes or comments.
 

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Let 's say you've got an attractive coworker you would like to date....or a cute waitreses ....
do you completely ignore the social media part of the game ? Do you ever like when she changes her profile pic ?
Never. I don’t do social media “game” at all. That’s orbiter shvt.
 

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I do it, as long as ive met the woman I play them up, it suits me because I dont care.

however one thing i learnt is , i barely reply to her reply,

even if women wanted to know the cure to cancer they would ghost the convo half way through. Their dopamine receptors are fried & corrupted
 
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