noted. so why have you had more than one man that gets jealous of public attention? if your doing what you say and your vibe is focused on only the one should be NO issue. think think think... what could be setting off the gut feeling of the guy(s). Is it all from the same social circle and all the men already know you or .. ???
There is something sultry about my vibe. I’ve also been told since I was in my teens that I have “presence”. People have always noticed me. It used to make me feel really self-conscious when I was very young. Obviously I adjusted to it and became comfortable in my own skin over time.
The funny thing is women notice me too.
I quit wearing makeup. It didn’t matter. Attractive men still approached me, in the NYC subway, on flights, in stores, constantly. So it’s something in how I am. How I exist in the world intrinsically. My posture, my figure, my looks, something. Then when people meet me they find I am kind, charming, intelligent and genuine. That increases attraction because people who are both attractive and real are rare.
Example. Was out this past weekend on the Sunset Strip in LA with my BF. We had a blast. Several women stopped us to tell my guy how beautiful I am; and comment on what a gorgeous couple we are. Flattering to be sure. Men checking me out right, left & center. Women checking him out (he has a totally sexy LA rocker vibe) too. I shut men down if their body language & conversation seemed too interested in me. He had his arm around me, holding hands & keeping me close all night both nights. He was mate guarding. His friend texted him Sunday to say what a great time he had hanging out with us…and to say how much he was impressed with me.
I *really* like when my man is into me. It’s a turn on. I have never understood this idea that women lose attraction if a man is committed/exclusive/into a chick. I find it’s just the reverse. High interest/exclusivity from a man I’m really into is an enormous turn on. And I’m high interest in him too, so it’s a positive feedback loop. It creates security in the relationship and heightens desire. But it’s not for the insecure.
At one venue there were pole dancers dressed and performing a la strippers. Not a strip club, but a very sexualized environment obviously. My BF thought one of the dancers was hot. He wanted to stand where he could get a good view of her. Cool. So we stood where he could see her. She noticed him and would glance over while she danced. Why would this bother me? I know he’s with me, he won’t let me out of his sight, he’s holding me by the hips or the waist, we arrived together & we left together. I’m not going to disrespect him nor am I going to act like a shrew if he liked watching a random dancer. Who cares? He’s with me.
The difference in my attitude and the OP should be clear. I’m not worried about him, even if he enjoys looking at someone else in a provocative environment. If he actually wanted to date her, fvck her etc…let him. And color me gone. He knows this. He sees how easily he can be replaced…
I naturally apply Amused Mastery too. As far as some of the other advice in this thread? Take with a grain of salt. I know how to handle players in a LTR. Some on here have no idea what desire looks like in a LTR. It’s not the same as one night stand game. Not at all.
Confidence is sexy. I’m confident and yet demure and loyal AF. An appealing combination.