Has this Ever Happened to Anyone else?

[Zimbabwe]

You start talking to a girl you met on OLD, and you get a feeling of Deja Vu. Like you met her somewhere before on another website,dating app or even irl?

Sometimes I've matched with girls I messaged on instagram years ago, some I even met on tinder before and there was even a girl i dated like 5 years before who i matched with on tinder. Recently on Coffee meets Bagel, I've matched with 5 different women that seem extremely familiar.

Does anyone else feel like they keep running into the same women?

 

[SargeMaximus]

I recently did. The girl claimed to have seen me on the sight for years and decided to reach out again. I told her I was still looking for a fwb and she tried to convince me otherwise. I told her my way or the highway and she blocked me

 

[Zimbabwe]

I recently did. The girl claimed to have seen me on the sight for years and decided to reach out again. I told her I was still looking for a fwb and she tried to convince me otherwise. I told her my way or the highway and she blocked me

A lot of women stay on OLD for years, it makes you wonder why can't they find at least one guy? There's one specific girl that I've seen on various OLD apps since 2014, she's still on even now and I've matched with her a few times over the years.

Did she want a relationship instead of fwb on Tinder?

 

[Zimbabwe]

they are damaged.

A woman who has a good social life, friends, good looking, good upbringing.......is getting hit on in real all the time and has no need to be on OLD.

You know why it is sometimes "hard" for men on OLD? these women know they are having to lower themselves by going on OLD. They know they are not getting hit on in "real". They know it and they loathe themselves secretly. They see you there and they project their own inner workings on to you. "why does he have to lower himself and be on OLD?" She hates herself and she despises you. She asks the same question "why is he not out there having success in "real".

A lot of these women have extremely toxic personalities and they aren't good looking enough for men to tolerate it for too long.

The funny thing is these women also think men are being bombarded with messages from simps.

They also expect men to "work" for it and slowly develop a relationship since that's what other women do through their social circle. They don't seem to be able to comprehend that OLD doesn't work that way.

I've used OLD sporadically in the past and I have to agree with bonecrker here:

Bonecrker #34 - Online Dating - NOT!

Nothing will change the fact that all of the women on dating sites are what you might call "hard to place"... as in the adoption term for ...

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Now that I think about it, so many women would use the same lie that "their friends convinced them to join Tinder".

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I’m literally talking to a girl that blocked me early this year and rematched with me lol

 

[AttackFormation]

It's a red flag in itself that a woman uses OLD. That's not a pleasant thought, but regrettably, it's what my decade of experience on OLD has led me to conclude. Those women have some sort of chronic flaw, from our point of view, which is why they are on and especially why they stay on OLD.

It could be a personality disorder, or behavior that makes you think it would be. It could be just wanting validation and entertainment. It could be delusions. It could be something else. But i guarantee you that there is a reason why she is on OLD, and it's not a reason that looks pleasant in daylight.

they are damaged.

A woman who has a good social life, friends, good looking, good upbringing.......is getting hit on in real all the time and has no need to be on OLD.

You know why it is sometimes "hard" for men on OLD? these women know they are having to lower themselves by going on OLD. They know they are not getting hit on in "real". They know it and they loathe themselves secretly. They see you there and they project their own inner workings on to you. "why does he have to lower himself and be on OLD?" She hates herself and she despises you. She asks the same question "why is he not out there having success in "real".

This post and especially the 3rd paragraph is spot on. However i think there are two categories of disdain:

A) The men she wants elsewhere dont reciprocate. She despises herself for in her mind "resorting" to OLD, and projects that to loathe both of you as you explained. This woman wants to be better than you, but knows she isnt and is probably even worse.

B) The men she wants elsewhere do reciprocate. She doesnt despise herself for using OLD, because she is just using it as validation and entertainment. However she still sees you as a clown for using it. This woman thinks she is better than you, and that's why she disdains you.

 

[sangheilios]

Now and again I'll check out tinder in my area and over the past few years I've seen a handful of the same women on there. Being on a dating app or site isn't really a "red flag" but the fact they are still on there all these years later to me is a red flag. Particularly with Tinder, it sounds like an STD waiting to happen. I know of a handful of women that met all sorts of men off of that and from what I heard they had more microbes lingering around inside them than a CDC laboratory.

I can specifically cite 2 examples of women that literally had a harem of men they gained from tinder and regularly had a line up of at least a dozen guys. Crazy part is they were both quite overweight, one was actually likeable but the other was literally one of the most obnoxious women I've ever come across. These are people that I met or crossed paths with in a social setting by chance and were not women that I had approached or asked out.

@Zimbabwe I'll also mention that I feel that many of these women aren't really all that attractive and are fully aware of it. I feel that they gain a sense of validation from having sex with all sorts of random men but I believe they also are aware that these men are interested in nothing more than that. A major reason for this is because these women have chosen to set this tone from the very beginning.

 

[AttackFormation]

I can specifically cite 2 examples of women that literally had a harem of men they gained from tinder and regularly had a line up of at least a dozen guys. Crazy part is they were both quite overweight, one was actually likeable but the other was literally one of the most obnoxious women I've ever come across. These are people that I met or crossed paths with in a social setting by chance and were not women that I had approached or asked out.

As long as a woman loosely resembles a human female, she can have as much sex with as many guys who are attractive to her as she decides to. The fact that they are both quite overweight doesnt matter haha. You probably know that already, but there are still guys on this forum who think women have to be passably conventionally attractive in order to date up and have countless options.

 

[SW15]

Does anyone else feel like they keep running into the same women?

Now and again I'll check out tinder in my area and over the past few years I've seen a handful of the same women on there. Being on a dating app or site isn't really a "red flag" but the fact they are still on there all these years later to me is a red flag.

It's normal to see this.

There was one instance on a swipe app in the past where I matched with a woman on a swipe app who I knew from a co-ed sports league years earlier. We talked on the app and I didn't ask her out due to some other options and remembering that she didn't give off big IOIs years earlier when we were at a bar after a league game.

 

[Robert28]

It's normal to see this.

There was one instance on a swipe app in the past where I matched with a woman on a swipe app who I knew from a co-ed sports league years earlier. We talked on the app and I didn't ask her out due to some other options and remembering that she didn't give off big IOIs years earlier when we were at a bar after a league game.

Man I’ve had women that I distinctly remember didn’t even know I was in the same room with them 10 years ago, and how they’re suddenly trying to talk to me. What sucks is they don’t even remember how they acted towards me back in the day, but I remember.

 

[sangheilios]

As long as a woman loosely resembles a human female, she can have as much sex with as many guys who are attractive to her as she decides to. The fact that they are both quite overweight doesnt matter haha. You probably know that already, but there are still guys on this forum who think women have to be passably conventionally attractive in order to date up and have countless options.

This is something I saw years ago but you should seriously check this out lol, proves everything we are talking about. I recall reading something a few years back about some startling trend where otherwise straight men were having casual hookups with male to female trannies, even hiring them as "escorts".

The Online Dating Pig Experiment - Male Thirst - The Hidden Dominion

 

[AttackFormation]

This is something I saw years ago but you should seriously check this out lol, proves everything we are talking about.

The Online Dating Pig Experiment - Male Thirst - The Hidden Dominion

Yep, that's the one i was thinking about. I swear some men still just dont understand how different dating is for men and women, it's a completely different game.

 

[sangheilios]

Yep, that's the one i was thinking about. I swear some men just dont understand how different dating is for men and women.

Not all men are that thirsty but there are definitely a lot of men like that. This is part of the reason why OLD sucks for the vast majority of men. As has been mentioned on here, OLD/internet and the real world are not entirely aligned. If a man's only means of meeting women is through OLD he is going to be very disappointed and depending upon his personality he could become very discouraged and grow bitter. This is something I've been guilty of in the past, which is the reason why I personally choose to avoid OLD or any venues that create this odd environment that puts men at a huge disadvantage.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Not all men are that thirsty but there are definitely a lot of men like that. This is part of the reason why OLD sucks for the vast majority of men. As has been mentioned on here, OLD/internet and the real world are not entirely aligned. If a man's only means of meeting women is through OLD he is going to be very disappointed and depending upon his personality he could become very discouraged and grow bitter. This is something I've been guilty of in the past, which is the reason why I personally choose to avoid OLD or any venues that create this odd environment that puts men at a huge disadvantage.

The only environment that doesn't put a man at a disadvantage is social circle, cold approach and nightgame are both uphill battles for men.

 

[SW15]

Not all men are that thirsty but there are definitely a lot of men like that. This is part of the reason why OLD sucks for the vast majority of men. As has been mentioned on here, OLD/internet and the real world are not entirely aligned. If a man's only means of meeting women is through OLD he is going to be very disappointed and depending upon his personality he could become very discouraged and grow bitter. This is something I've been guilty of in the past, which is the reason why I personally choose to avoid OLD or any venues that create this odd environment that puts men at a huge disadvantage.

The only environment that doesn't put a man at a disadvantage is social circle, cold approach and nightgame are both uphill battles for men.

Men are so thirsty.

It's nice that @sangheilios said app dating and the real world aren't the same. Most men are best served avoiding the swipe apps. Dating on websites in the past and swipe apps now has the potential to emotionally traumatize a man

I agree with @Zimbabwe that cold approaching either in bars or non-bar settings are both uphill battles.

 

[sangheilios]

The only environment that doesn't put a man at a disadvantage is social circle, cold approach and nightgame are both uphill battles for men.

People are dating and having far less sex compared to in the past, there are multiple surveys and studies that show this to be the case. People in the modern world are far less social now than in the past, leaving many people relatively socially isolated. I recall seeing a study where a fairly sizeable chunk of the population did not have a single person to which they could confide with in regards to personal matters.....think about that and what that means. Why do you think medications for anxiety, depression and a whole host of other psychological issues are so common now compared to in the past? It's not just that the dating market is screwed up, which it clearly is, but it all ties into the social culture has been poisoned. I personally believe that the internet is a major contributor to this and I also believe that social media has contributed to the widespread narcissism you see amongst women in particular. I recall see some studies where millenials and gen zs are ridiculously unhappy because they compare themselves to what they see on social media and the lives these people portray to have on there. I can think of a handful of people in my area that have a fairly large instagram following and they are the fakest and most insecure people ever, I'm talking a grown man in his early 30s editing his photos to make himself look bigger/more jacked for instance.

 

[Robert28]

I honestly don’t get how so many men have the emotional stamina to be as thirsty as they are. I couldn’t do it. There’s no way in hell I could ever be like that and chase after women 24/7 and make a fool out of myself in the process.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

You start talking to a girl you met on OLD, and you get a feeling of Deja Vu. Like you met her somewhere before on another website,dating app or even irl?

Sometimes I've matched with girls I messaged on instagram years ago, some I even met on tinder before and there was even a girl i dated like 5 years before who i matched with on tinder. Recently on Coffee meets Bagel, I've matched with 5 different women that seem extremely familiar.

Does anyone else feel like they keep running into the same women?

Yeah these girls tend to be on it for many years. They exist in a type of social circle:

I have a friend who is active on OLD like me. When I visit his profile on social media I can see our mutual friends. The funny thing is the girls I've matched with on OLD who I've moved to my Social Media, they were also his friends. Then I realised that the men (including myself) and women on OLD actually constitute a very specific circle of people. Its generally the same faces. If I were to visit a guy's profile and see the large number of mutual friends from Tinder, I'd know he's active. Many of the faces have been the same over the years.

In my own personal experience, I've have matched with girls again, ones that I messed up the initial match then years later, we matched again and almost don't talk about it, a fresh start haha. It is very strange.

 

[bat soup]

You start talking to a girl you met on OLD, and you get a feeling of Deja Vu. Like you met her somewhere before on another website,dating app or even irl?

Sometimes I've matched with girls I messaged on instagram years ago, some I even met on tinder before and there was even a girl i dated like 5 years before who i matched with on tinder. Recently on Coffee meets Bagel, I've matched with 5 different women that seem extremely familiar.

Does anyone else feel like they keep running into the same women?

There are some women on there just to get free dinners and attention. Those women match with everyone and stay there for years.