Height and Women Know What They Want

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Saw this video that has a lot of interesting information in it from a study about speed dating and height. Particularly what I found interesting is that they asked the women to predict what height range they would be willing to date in, and in reality only 24.8% deviated from that, and were willing to date someone who fell outside of that range (by one inch or more). I thought this was interesting because PUAs tell you that women don't know what they want, but this study seems to suggest that they do. At least when it comes to height.

For those interested in height, there is a lot of data in this video, but probably not good news if you are sensitive about your height. But it does suggest that if you are tall, it seems to place you in a very high SMV position as a man. It almost sounds like a tall guy can command the sort of appeal that an attractive woman does, they are in position to be choosers.

This is an Alexander Grace video (although he didn't do the study). I find his videos to be very negative. In fact, watching his videos sometimes makes me wonder why a woman would ever even want to go out with a guy, because he suggests that they are in such a spectacularly superior position when it comes to dating and options.

 

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Ive been doing some espionage about this.. And it seems your agument is valid. Most of them want tall guy. No matter what they say about looks.. Their first qualification in a man are their height.. Most of them wanted a 6'
 

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I knew being tall was an advantage, but I didn't realize just how much. Some guys say big muscles are like boobs for guys. But maybe being tall is more like boobs for guys. Although I've always said there is no analog to boobs for guys.

I'm average height, 5'10", so I've always thought my height has never really helped me or hurt me. I think there's a graph in the video that says 80% women would at least consider dating someone 5'10", but apparently if you drop a few inches things could get bleak.
 

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I agree 100%.

But in real life, I’ve never had a chick talk about height requirements with me in person. I’m 5’9” on my worst day. Maybe close to 5’10” if I sharpen my pencil and try a different tape measure lol.

Other than online, they tend to bury height into looks. If a dude is tall but has an average face, they’ll call him cute/hot/attractive. If he’s short, they’ll just say “He’s not my type” unless he has exceptional face and hair.

Online, they will be more blunt and direct about height requirements.
 
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It's not enough to be tall for 2 reasons:

1) It doesnt make as much of a difference on its own as shorter guys might think. You still need the rest of the package - looks, social status/connections, low inhibition extrovertion so you can cold approach consistently, pictures, etcetra.

2) To the extent it makes a difference, it means you wont be content to just settle for any woman who swipes right on you. You might actually want to date women who are appealing to you, and the difficulty of doing so negates any advantage you may or may not have.
 
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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According to the study, the woman's height didn't really factor in. They still wanted the tall guy. I've always said shorter women want the tall guy even more, because they need the extra protection and extra help reaching things from high shelves.
 

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According to the study, the woman's height didn't really factor in. They still wanted the tall guy. I've always said shorter women want the tall guy even more, because they need the extra protection and extra help reaching things from high shelves.
Shorter girl are more blunt about height.. The taller hotter women keep it quiet. Height is one of social status.. Its even more when you have tje the face. Where they can flaunt you around her gf.
 

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Being tall helps a lot to meet women but that's it. They are also above average if you are above average too. But It doesn't make them want to fvck you, they just don't shut the door in your face, you can at least introduce yourself. After that, you deal with the same BS. I'm 6.2, good looking.

Yes he is depressing but I'm afraid that he is right. Soon it's gonna be almost impossible to date women, they just don't need men anymore, they have everything they need on their phones. The only ones that they will date is the tall, handsome guys with money and ideally a blue check on instagram. That's svcks big time but better get used to it. It's getting worse and worse faster and faster.

Yes but most women flat out will refuse to give any man shorter that her the time of day even if his face and body are chad tier. This is a fact.

Google "i hate short men" and see what comes up.

Even both my mom and sister refuse to consider a shorter man than them. So yes being over 6'1 inches tall certainly helps out more than you think it does. But it doesn't gurantee you women ofcourse.

6'6 to 6'7 will though it seems. I know because my little brother is that height and women will straight up approach him at a club or bar and tell him he is the tallest guy there then literally try to go home with him. He doesnt even talk to them first lol.

But wherever he does approach he usually has success much more often than not. I have watched this happen numerous times. Women relate height to male strength and dominance as well as good genetics. That is just another fact.
 

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And if the girl is tall, forget about it, she will never date a short guy. Unless the guy is a celebrity, it doesn't happen.
I'm 5'10" and not a celebrity. It's VERY difficult for me to date a 5'10" - 6'2" woman. There are some attractive women around this range. Some I would find compatible. Almost no one in this range is interested.
 

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why? do you often see hot girls with short guys? I don't. And if the girl is tall, forget about it, she will never date a short guy. Unless the guy is a celebrity, it doesn't happen.

It all depends on the woman and how open minded she is and how otherwise appealing the short guy is. In general it is very accurate that women are naturally turned off by shorter men though.....especially if the guy is shorter than her. That is key.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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I know, that's what I'm saying, tall girls just don't date short guys (by the way I don't consider 5.10 to be short)

https://www.mtlblog.com/10-reasons-.../1-short-guys-get-insecure-about-their-height

Lmao at the woman who wrote that. Every chick says these same things to me when i ask if they would ever date a shorter man or not. That same woman will call you shallow though for not wanting considering a fatty or even a woman with short hair or tatoos for a real relationship. The no tatoos really offends them if they are tatted. They get hyper insecure fast.
 

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I have a 15% chance that a woman would find my height acceptable. It's OVER ...
 
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Yes I agree, but if you ask them why they wouldn't date a short guys, some of those reasons will come up. I live in Russia, lot of tall girls here, every time I meet a new girl, I ask her the question, the answer is always "No I wouldn't date a short guy" especially from tall girls (175-184cm).

Life is unfair but it's just the way it is.

Russian women are all about the money though in my experience. I have never been to Russia but have met so many abroad. I can totally see them brutally looking down on short men though unless he is rich.

Those are some stone cold women you got over there. But holy crap they look good when compared to their American white counterparts. Physically speaking i mean.
 

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6'6 to 6'7 will though it seems. I know because my little brother is that height and women will straight up approach him at a club or bar and tell him he is the tallest guy there then literally try to go home with him. He doesnt even talk to them first lol.
I have a friend in that height range, and when he was younger his plan to get laid was to show up at a bar and wait to get picked up. And this actually worked for him. And as you say, he didn't even talk to them first, same experience.

At a certain age, it quit happening for him though, which left him kind of flummoxed. But he's in a LTR now.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

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I have a friend in that height range, and when he was younger his plan to get laid was to show up at a bar and wait to get picked up. And this actually worked for him. And as you say, he didn't even talk to them first, same experience.

At a certain age, it quit happening for him though, which left him kind of flummoxed. But he's in a LTR now.

Yep. That height range is instant high status to women especially when you are out at night time and alcohol is flowing. Even men will go out of their way to show respect to him like saying something like wow how tall are you? Are you a basketball player?
 

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Yes but most women flat out will refuse to give any man shorter that her the time of day even if his face and body are chad tier. This is a fact.

Google "i hate short men" and see what comes up.

Even both my mom and sister refuse to consider a shorter man than them.
But why would a man need to date women who are taller than him in the first place? Of course the women can have a minimum of preference. Women wanting to date guys who are at least as tall as themselves is a perfectly reasonable preference.
 
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But why would a man need to date women who are taller than him in the first place? Of course the women can have a minimum of preference. Women wanting to date guys who are at least as tall as themselves is a perfectly reasonable preference.
I prefer to date women shorter than I am - which is the vast majority of women anyway. But a woman being very tall seems like a masculine trait to me, and therefore not attractive. Girls in the 5'3" to 5'7" range seem especially sexy to me. But it's not a dealbreaker. I dated a 5'9" woman for a good long time.
 

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At my height, only 15% are interested. It's OVER. :(:mad:
 
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But why would a man need to date women who are taller than him in the first place? Of course the women can have a minimum of preference. Women wanting to date guys who are at least as tall as themselves is a perfectly reasonable preference.
I agree it is natural. Therefore your average manlet has it rough.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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