Sh!t test before the first date - ignore it?

[user252009]

I've matched and chatted with a Russian girl (she's 32 I'm 35) a few weeks ago, and since I'm currently out of country on vacation, we've only been texting sporadically, a text every few days or so. She knows my creative side career, but says that it's "invalid" because I taught myself and didn't go through "proper" education for it - I studied IT, which is my main career. Obviously it's a sh1t test, which I already replied to and won't be referring to that again, so I'll just ignore it if it comes out again.

 

[user252009]

Good choice. Ignore it.

Yeah, I know what I'm doing and am having growing success in my side career, so I said what I said and that's it

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I've matched and chatted with a Russian girl (she's 32 I'm 35) a few weeks ago, and since I'm currently out of country on vacation, we've only been texting sporadically, a text every few days or so. She knows my creative side career, but says that it's "invalid" because I taught myself and didn't go through "proper" education for it - I studied IT, which is my main career. Obviously it's a sh1t test, which I already replied to and won't be referring to that again, so I'll just ignore it if it comes out again.

Disrespectful. Ignore and cut contact.

Modern Man Advice

 

[jaymbrs]

Disrespectful. Ignore and cut contact.

Modern Man Advice

I don't typically like to jump ship at the first sh!t test but this one just screams "you need to prove yourself worthy" to me. Screw that. That's a waste of time when there are plenty of other women.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Is it possible to pass a sh!t test by purposefully failing it? Like for example:

her: How much can you bench?

me: I can’t bench at all. I’m a weakling

 

[Barrister]

Is it possible to pass a sh!t test by purposefully failing it? Like for example:

her: How much can you bench?

me: I can’t bench at all. I’m a weakling

Your scenario isn't a sh1t test. That is just her asking you a simple question. Your scenario, however, would be a prime example of a time to use C&F. Instead of self-deprecation, tell her you're glad she's also adventurous in bed. The implication for her is clear. Or use whatever you want.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Your scenario isn't a sh1t test. That is just her asking you a simple question. Your scenario, however, would be a prime example of a time to use C&F. Instead of self-deprecation, tell her you're glad she's also adventurous in bed. The implication for her is clear. Or use whatever you want.

Well I was trying to think of an example where the girl is trying to qualify you. Can you use self-deprecation to avoid qualifying to her? How do you pass the qualifying frame? Either way you are qualifying to her

 

[Barrister]

I've matched and chatted with a Russian girl (she's 32 I'm 35) a few weeks ago, and since I'm currently out of country on vacation, we've only been texting sporadically, a text every few days or so. She knows my creative side career, but says that it's "invalid" because I taught myself and didn't go through "proper" education for it - I studied IT, which is my main career. Obviously it's a sh1t test, which I already replied to and won't be referring to that again, so I'll just ignore it if it comes out again.

I have dated Russian women before and they appreciate a man who is very direct. I would have actually challenged her on this because I think you would earn points with her (only because she is Russian). Granted, if this is over my text, my only question would be why you are discussing your job via text message. Keep texting to light and fun topics.

 

[Barrister]

Well I was trying to think of an example where the girl is trying to qualify you. Can you use self-deprecation to avoid qualifying to her? How do you pass the qualifying frame? Either way you are qualifying to her

I disagree. First, I would never use self-deprecation. It makes us look weak even if it comes off funny. You want to appear confident and like no one can fu*k with you -- even if you are a weakling. Second, you don't pass or fail her sh1t test. You simply be yourself and either she gets in line after you have established your frame or you end up dumping her a$$. Too many of us get swept up by a woman's looks/her pu$$y and end up letting her ruin our frame. Don't let it happen and stop worrying about sh1t tests. You qualify a woman by simply giving her your attention. Don't make it any more complicated than it needs to be, brother.

I have been in an LTR with a hot chick where I have had to constantly re-establish frame after being sh1t tested. It gets tiresome and it is, over the course of time, a losing battle. The only real solution is walking away if the sh1t tests keep coming despite your boundaries being set.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I disagree. First, I would never use self-deprecation. It makes us look weak even if it comes off funny. You want to appear confident and like no one can fu*k with you -- even if you are a weakling. Second, you don't pass or fail her sh1t test. You simply be yourself and either she gets in line after you have established your frame or you end up dumping her a$$. Too many of us get swept up by a woman's looks/her pu$$y and end up letting her ruin our frame. Don't let it happen and stop worrying about sh1t tests. You qualify a woman by simply giving her your attention. Don't make it any more complicated than it needs to be, brother.

I have been in an LTR with a hot chick where I have had to constantly re-establish frame after being sh1t tested. It gets tiresome and it is, over the course of time, a losing battle. The only real solution is walking away if the sh1t tests keep coming despite your boundaries being set.

Yeah for sure but if one wants hot girls, like me, then do we have to pass them or is there a meta frame?

 

[Barrister]

Yeah for sure but if one wants hot girls, like me, then do we have to pass them or is there a meta frame?

Just depends on what you're looking for I guess. If you want an LTR with a HB 8+, be prepared for a lot of bullsh1t. If you just want to bang them, you probably can do that without having to worry about too much.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Just depends on what you're looking for I guess. If you want an LTR with a HB 8+, be prepared for a lot of bullsh1t. If you just want to bang them, you probably can do that without having to worry about too much.

Open relationship is ideal. And from my experience, all women sh!t test constantly. So it might as well be a hot girl I have to put up with

 

[user252009]

Granted, if this is over my text, my only question would be why you are discussing your job via text message. Keep texting to light and fun topics.

It's not my job, it's my creative side hustle - my education and actual day job is in IT. That's why this sh!t test didn't even boggle me (and also because I know I'm right). Anyways I cut contact for a week or so, and then we'll see.

 

[Glassguy]

Disrespectful. Ignore and cut contact.

Modern Man Advice

This. OP thinks its a shyte test when she is actually just being a little bytchy c*nt.

Ignore her.

 

[zinc4]

I've matched and chatted with a Russian girl (she's 32 I'm 35) a few weeks ago, and since I'm currently out of country on vacation, we've only been texting sporadically, a text every few days or so. She knows my creative side career, but says that it's "invalid" because I taught myself and didn't go through "proper" education for it - I studied IT, which is my main career. Obviously it's a sh1t test, which I already replied to and won't be referring to that again, so I'll just ignore it if it comes out again.

That's just flat out disrespectful. You fail the test by even giving her the time of day. Set up the date and time act like you are going then dont show up and just ghost her. Women like this need to be humbled.

 

[Paper Crane]

dawg not everything is a shi.t test.. i feel like you might just be lookin too into a little comment she made breh. why are u worried about whether she is testing you? you should be imagining what you plan to do to her when u guys actually get together

 

[zinc4]

dawg not everything is a shi.t test.. i feel like you might just be lookin too into a little comment she made breh. why are u worried about whether she is testing you? you should be imagining what you plan to do to her when u guys actually get together

Nah man dont tolerate disrespect from these bitches just to get sex. Be a ****ing man. ***** aint ****. You going to be friends with a guy who disrespects you like that? Same **** applies This is why western women are out of control. Too many cucks will accept anything just to try and get the lay.

I saw a girl blatantly disrespect a guy she was with tonight when i was in the elevator going up to my room and flirting with me right in front of him. Dude just sat there all embarrassed looking. I felt like slapping that gIrl for him.