When to text after first date.

[Foe]

Correct.

Neither is discussing exes, divorces, plans for the future together and baby names.

Stick with fun stuff that you like to do, what drinks you are going to try together during the date and just talk enough to keep her talking.

Good topics- adventurous things, past traveling, hobbies, interests.

Bad things- past relationships, relationships with parents (if bad), making long term plans with her, anything negative.

Keep it light and fun. Not just the first date but always.

Yeah its only the 2nd date after a LTR so I'm still calibrating. I feel like I'm going to stuff up a fair bit before I get it going.

 

[bat soup]

Just a update, I invited her for another date, as you guys pointed out this wasnt going to work. She wrote back something about being really disappointed in the way I "said she couldn't love" on the date. Funnily enough the conversation was about red flags and I said how do you get along with your father, she said she hates him, I say that can be considered a red flag. After telling her that "perhaps it was just a miss communication". She went hostile something about "you should learn to be more open and consider other people etc etc" then I got deleted. Funnily I think I was right and picked the red flag which is why she got so butt hurt. On to the next

She probably wasn't that interested in the first place if she was picking fights and giving you all of this attitude.

Even lunatics like her know how to shut up and be reasonable when they really like a guy.

 

[BadBoy89]

Not sure if this thread Is real or not, but you are 41 years old. I could understand if this was from a 21 year old, but 41? Come on.

Instead of ”hope you enjoyed yourself” you should texted “why didn’t you take off your clothes 17 minutes in?” Remember men, these girls have likely been f*cked 17 different ways from Sunday by the alpha male. When they get older and lose their looks and sex appeal, they need beta male for the LTR.

It seems a lot of men on this site don’t want to f the girls they go out with. They got their porn so they don’t need get sex from the girl, but since they lack male friends they need friendship from the girl.

Suppose you were going to Japan in 3 days and really wanted to f this girl. How fast would you move then?

 

[Foe]

Not sure if this thread Is real or not, but you are 41 years old. I could understand if this was from a 21 year old, but 41? Come on.

Instead of ”hope you enjoyed yourself” you should texted “why didn’t you take off your clothes 17 minutes in?” Remember men, these girls have likely been f*cked 17 different ways from Sunday by the alpha male. When they get older and lose their looks and sex appeal, they need beta male for the LTR.

It seems a lot of men on this site don’t want to f the girls they go out with. They got their porn so they don’t need get sex from the girl, but since they lack male friends they need friendship from the girl.

Suppose you were going to Japan in 3 days and really wanted to f this girl. How fast would you move then?

Oh its real dude, I'm a massively late bloomer and I've been in back to back LTR's since being a 19 yo virgin. If I had my **** sorted I wouldn't be on this forum...........

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Tell her to text you when she gets home after the date. In addition, If she doesn’t send you “good morning” or something the next day then accept it as a dud.

Disclaimer: I do most of my dates from OLD so I’m used to a high attrition rate.

 

[bat soup]

send her the hope you made it home text. If she doesn’t send you “good morning” or something the next day then accept it as a dud

"I hope you weren't flattened by a bus" is better. More specific.

The real issue here is that it's totally fake. You don't really care what happened to her, you're just fishing for reassurance that she's still interested. And it is obvious, which is what makes this text so bad. It just reeks of neediness.

Unless she lives in Aleppo and has to navigate sniper alley on the way home, I wouldn't send this text.