Girl is talking to someone else, but wants to grab drinks

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GreatHornedOwl

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First of all, you quoted something I never said. Secondly, I never addressed how attractive she was.

And of course I don't know her that well, I never said at any point in this thread that I did. My point was what I'm looking for at this point in my life is not a hookup. So what are you going on about?? You are completely making assumptions about what I'm thinking.

Do people just make things up in their head and convince themselves it's true?
 

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First of all, you quoted something I never said. Secondly, I never addressed how attractive she was.

And of course I don't know her that well, I never said at any point in this thread that I did. My point was what I'm looking for at this point in my life is not a hookup. So what are you going on about?? You are completely making assumptions about what I'm thinking.

Do people just make things up in their head and convince themselves it's true?
Interesting discussion...

One thing that's kinda true in today's world is that the "looking for a relationship" or "looking for a wife " has been tried many times. It tends to fail. The woman can either string you along for hopes of a relationship, or she can get turned off or scared because you "want a relationship".

It has to happen naturally and organically. And in this site its recommended to let her press you for a relationship. Its always better if she wants you more.

In my honest opinion its best if you are close to her physical preference. Your mindset and personality and life must interest her, be attractive to her.
 

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Interesting discussion...

One thing that's kinda true in today's world is that the "looking for a relationship" or "looking for a wife " has been tried many times. It tends to fail. The woman can either string you along for hopes of a relationship, or she can get turned off or scared because you "want a relationship".

It has to happen naturally and organically. And in this site its recommended to let her press you for a relationship. Its always better if she wants you more.

In my honest opinion its best if you are close to her physical preference. Your mindset and personality and life must interest her, be attractive to her.
So, how should I handle this situation?
 

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So, how should I handle this situation?
Date her. Sex by 3 dates. Perhaps 5. She must be the one who wants to lasso you. When you get the pvssy keep hitting it. In the first month if you can get it in near-term day great. Initially you should have other women you hang with.
 

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Date her. Sex by 3 dates. Perhaps 5. She must be the one who wants to lasso you. When you get the pvssy keep hitting it. In the first month if you can get it in near-term day great. Initially you should have other women you hang with.
I tried to make plans for this weekend and she basically blew me off, lol. Didn't you read what I wrote?

Me: Hey, are you going to be around this weekend?
Her: Unfortunately no, I'll be with my sister this weekend. What's up? What about next weekend maybe?
Me: I wanted to see what you had going on. Let me know.


That was this afternoon and she hasn't responded.
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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I tried to make plans for this weekend and she basically blew me off, lol. Didn't you read what I wrote?

Me: Hey, are you going to be around this weekend?
Her: Unfortunately no, I'll be with my sister this weekend. What's up? What about next weekend maybe?
Me: I wanted to see what you had going on. Let me know.


That was this afternoon and she hasn't responded.
Forget about her. That "whats up?" Is a response my daughters and exes give when they're acting like I'm bothering them. An interested babe will be bothering you.
 

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I deleted her number. Maybe 15 minutes later she texted me:

Her: Heyy

(This was at 8 a.m.)
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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Amazing at 75% of this advice, I honestly wouldn't even bother with a chick like this. If a chick tells you there are other guys she has low IL. no chick with high IL would say that. The fact that you have been chasing her just to get a date proves this

Guys really need to learn to spin plates, once you have multiple options you wouldn't even think about dealing with a chick who is using you as a "Backup" and has the gal to tell you. I wouldn't have wasted my time with this chick
 

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@GreatHornedOwl

Hey man you are doing good!!! You should be able to get in her pants if you keep at it. There is always going to be some resistance when you start to get to know a girl. If you haven’t yet try to escalate to touching or maybe even kissing her next time you guys hang out. She ain’t going no where anytime soon so again if you play your cards right she could get the pipe.

Just don’t get desperate or let the attention go to your head. Keep us updated and make sure you keep the pimp hand strong and your meat hard!!!!!!
 

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She texted me that she wants to be friends, but she isn't ready to open herself up or her heart right now.

I texted back a smiley face.

Her: You're not very open are you?

Me: It's not in my nature.

Her: Soo... idk what else to say.

Me: Nothing really. You made your intentions perfectly clear.

Her: Okay... sorry?

Me: What response are you looking for?
 

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She texted me that she wants to be friends, but she isn't ready to open herself up or her heart right now.

I texted back a smiley face.

Her: You're not very open are you?

Me: It's not in my nature.

Her: Soo... idk what else to say.

Me: Nothing really. You made your intentions perfectly clear.

Her: Okay... sorry?

Me: What response are you looking for?
Case closed with that one, go find a woman that isn’t involved with another man, wants you, and is open to it…
 

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She texted me that she wants to be friends, but she isn't ready to open herself up or her heart right now.

I texted back a smiley face.

Her: You're not very open are you?

Me: It's not in my nature.

Her: Soo... idk what else to say.

Me: Nothing really. You made your intentions perfectly clear.

Her: Okay... sorry?

Me: What response are you looking for?
Tell you aren't interested in that but to get in touch if she changes her mind and then never initiate again.
 

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I thought you said that she is coming over for wine and dinner at your place unless I read the wrong topic??
 
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