PUA does 5000 approaches with no success!

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I doubt it´s even possible to do that many approaches and learn nothing.
'learn' is probably the wrong word (not that one should even need to 'learn' to hold eye contact and stuff lol)

But yeah, this is about attraction; It's about whether you are her type or not. Does she think you're hot or not. No amount of 'learning' will change the results, although I guess if one hasn't been socialised they might need to learn to read the room and realise earlier when she's not into him and to eject.

But one could be doing everything perfectly and still get rejected 300 times in a row if he's not that handsome and maybe older, and he's hitting on super hot 18 year old cheerleaders lol. He might tell himself 'Hmmm...I wonder what I did wrong. What can I learn from that rejection. Maybe my approach angle was off a few degrees and I need to start with a neg??' without realising he never stood a shot. And it goes the other way too, where people attribute their success on a girl too a cold read or self amusement or whatever, but in actuality, she was just into him and liked how he looked lol
 

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If you do something that many times and don't learn how to improve and get some success then either you are completely oblivious or simply have no ability to do so.

After a minimum of 500 he should have at least gotten 1 person to bite.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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If you do something that many times and don't learn how to improve and get some success then either you are completely oblivious or simply have no ability to do so.

After a minimum of 500 he should have at least gotten 1 person to bite.
Some people have no ability at all. He's claiming 20 approaches a week for 5 years. 20 approach weeks aren't that difficult for short period of time, but unsustainable for 5 years. That's close to 3 approaches a day. If he lives in NYC or London pre-pandemic, 3 approaches on the street isn't that difficult. If he's going to the bars regularly pre-pandemic, a 3 approach night in a bar is easy to achieve. To get 3 approaches in on a hiking/walking path or grocery store with any social calibration is going to take a 2 hours a day.

Even 200 consecutive rejections is going to really be traumatic and de-value one's self worth. Also, given that Millennials are snowflakes, that's difficult to imagine someone barreling through 200+ rejections.

The guy would be better off just devoting the approaching time to weight lifting. Getting huge muscles will get some women to give you their vag with minimal effort if you are average height or taller.
 

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Insane....But, on the positive side - At least he hasn't picked up a charge - Yet!
 

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With numbers like then even if you were crude and asked for the order with everyone you are going to get a hit here and there. If you begged around you would get a pity outcome or something. Ballsy approaches verses lame approaches. After 50 failed lame approaches in a row then I'm stepping up the ballsiness, calculations of where and whom I'm approaching and social calibration of them.

20 approaches per week that's a WARM-UP. You always have to warm-up because the first FEW approaches in any given day are going to suck. Your nerves get the better of you and you are coughing up words out of your mouth. Warm-ups should not count as real approaches.
 

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The guy would be better off just devoting the approaching time to weight lifting. Getting huge muscles will get some women to give you their vag with minimal effort if you are average height or taller.
Exactly...Look good - Feel good - Smell good - And the females will approach him!
 

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I like Facelms, but who has time to watch a multi-hour yt video?
I always have projects orcleanup around the house or on my computer (e.g., building my genealogy spreadsheet) where I can be minimally invested in the video. I actually could use more videos from him.
 

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I met a guy who told me that he had approached 2000 girls and had no success. He was a bit socially awkward and in his country the women are difficult (holding out for marriage etc). But since I didn't see how he was approaching women or what exactly he was saying, I don't know what he was doing wrong. What I suspect is that what he counts as an approach is just talking to a woman.
 
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I met a guy who told me that he had approached 2000 girls and had no success. He was a bit socially awkward and in his country the women are difficult (holding out for marriage etc). But since I didn't see how he was approaching women or what exactly he was saying, I don't know what he was doing wrong. What I suspect is that what he counts as an approach is just talking to a woman.
But technically its that though. As long as you dont chicken out too early if she is showing enough interest then it should all count.
 

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But technically its that though. As long as you dont chicken out too early if she is showing enough interest then it should all count.
I think if you don't make a move then it doesn't count. I think guys are often thinking they got rejected when the girl didn't even know that they were interested because they didn't make it clear.
 

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I think if you don't make a move then it doesn't count. I think guys are often thinking they got rejected when the girl didn't even know that they were interested because they didn't make it clear.
Women make up their minds about guys 3 seconds after seeing them. They think they are hot and every guy wants them.
 

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The game has 100% changed no doubt I still highly recommend men acquire competence. No AA. Can approach. I am going to always take my shot. At this point in my life, I pull or next. Comply or bye. Sniper approach. Flash game. No clubs in a year. Fully London day game model though I'm not adverse to night or swipes.

I'm well over a decade of pickup cold approach and we'll beyond 10,000hrs + in the game. I suggest fellas get a better skill set. Have a life and marketable skill sets. Learn to code or have a trade. Start a biz. At least have a side hustle and acquisitions of resources. A far greater ROI. Approach a handful of girls everyday until dead or D falls off = #GOATSTATUS!

If I could tell my 18yr old self advice that would be it. Chase high value self actualization YOU not women. I'm here to say women are not worth the efforts. Cultivate being THAT GUY through reps and lifestyle in taking your shot (for better or worse). Prepare to take Ls and come back stronger. Tomorrow is a new day.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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