My thoughts about errection problems

[Bigpapa]

So recently I started having some problems with my erection , and initially I was a little bit worried

then I realized that when this happens it is mainly because I do not like the girl enough to f8ck her

so the erection problem is mainly in the guy head ... after your share of women , you basically know what you like and what you do not like , and is very difficult to make something that you already know that you do not like pleasurable

I thought that I had this issue so I started imagining that I am having sex with someone else and my errection was horse worthy . In the moment I was opening my eyes or heard her moaning , my penis would die slightly soon after little by little

in this case was a good looking black woman, first I had and basically realized early one that I do not like her . The body type of black women is very different then a white one

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So recently I started having some problems with my erection , and initially I was a little bit worried

then I realized that when this happens it is mainly because I do not like the girl enough to f8ck her

so the erection problem is mainly in the guy head ... after your share of women , you basically know what you like and what you do not like , and is very difficult to make something that you already know that you do not like pleasurable

I thought that I had this issue so I started imagining that I am having sex with someone else and my errection was horse worthy . In the moment I was opening my eyes or heard her moaning , my penis would die slightly soon after little by little

in this case was a good looking black woman, first I had and basically realized early one that I do not like her . The body type of black women is very different then a white one

Not being properly attracted can kill your erection. The other way was if your attracted but she's mean and keeps rejecting you and treating you badly. That'll kill your desire, and raise insecurities killing your erection with it.

Don't force yourself to like or be attracted to someone. It will mess you up in several ways.

 

[Bigpapa]

Not being properly attracted can kill your erection. The other way was if your attracted but she's mean and keeps rejecting you and treating you badly. That'll kill your desire, and raise insecurities killing your erection with it.

Don't force yourself to like or be attracted to someone. It will mess you up in several ways.

The problem that I am facing recently is that I really like the person , either I do not . Not really a middle ground

and sometimes I am forcing myself to like that person , because I think that I am just moody , but the reality is that there is no spark

 

[Medina]

It's p0rn dude. Even 18 year olds are having problems now

Before the net, you'd fvck a landwhale if need be. You'd butter up that fat azz

Exposure = Desensitization

 

[Romanemp22]

Whenever Im with a smoking hot girl I have a boner which is through the roof. If I'm with a girl who I don't find that attractive I lose a boner.

I wouldn't say it's a problem, that's completely normal when you just don't like that specific girl. Or when a girl is boring in bed (just lying in bed and that's it), that's a biggest mood killer imo.

 

[Romanemp22]

It's p0rn dude. Even 18 year olds are having problems now

Before the net, you'd fvck a landwhale if need be. You'd butter up that fat azz

Exposure = Desensitization

I lost my virginity when I was 17 and I was watching porn almost daily, never had a problem but I agree that in today's generations it may be a problem. Does exposing to semi nude pictures of girls without fapping makes people lose erections? Maybe but if you're not fapping to it than there is no problem

 

[TheNewStyle123]

I'll never forget the first time I ran into this problem. It was my senior year in college and I saw a girl at the bar that was in one of my classes. One thing led to another and we ended up back in her apartment. Once we started hooking up she was a terrible kisser, had no sexual drive, and was honestly as stiff as a board. Not to mention she overtly dropped "I don't give head" mid hook up. It was honestly just terrible and I kept trying to get hard and force the moment, but every time I would try it would be more and more awkward. I remember leaving that night and thinking "What the hell is wrong with me? Why can't I get hard?" Looking back I should have been saying "What the hell is wrong with HER. You are the most frigid and asexual girl I have ever hooked up with!"

Now that I am recently separated from my soon to be ex wife and I am dating again I am seeing this phenomenon @Bigpapa described above. Some girls just do it for me more - whether its looks, body type, sexual energy, chemistry during the date, etc.

Also, backing off of porn daily has helped a ton... haaha. I was fapping at least 2x/day when I was in my sh!t marriage due to lack of sex or affection. Thank god that's over.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The problem that I am facing recently is that I really like the person , either I do not . Not really a middle ground

and sometimes I am forcing myself to like that person , because I think that I am just moody , but the reality is that there is no spark

Move on. Its not fair to you or HER.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I'll never forget the first time I ran into this problem. It was my senior year in college and I saw a girl at the bar that was in one of my classes. One thing led to another and we ended up back in her apartment. Once we started hooking up she was a terrible kisser, had no sexual drive, and was honestly as stiff as a board. Not to mention she overtly dropped "I don't give head" mid hook up. It was honestly just terrible and I kept trying to get hard and force the moment, but every time I would try it would be more and more awkward. I remember leaving that night and thinking "What the hell is wrong with me? Why can't I get hard?" Looking back I should have been saying "What the hell is wrong with HER. You are the most frigid and asexual girl I have ever hooked up with!"

Now that I am recently separated from my soon to be ex wife and I am dating again I am seeing this phenomenon @Bigpapa described above. Some girls just do it for me more - whether its looks, body type, sexual energy, chemistry during the date, etc.

Also, backing off of porn daily has helped a ton... haaha. I was fapping at least 2x/day when I was in my sh!t marriage due to lack of sex or affection. Thank god that's over.

So with a flourishing sex life you have more inspiration, energy, motivation and life just seems good huh?

 

[SW15]

It's p0rn dude. Even 18 year olds are having problems now

Before the net, you'd fvck a landwhale if need be. You'd butter up that fat azz

Exposure = Desensitization

Always do no porn and no fap if you want to max out your sexual performance.

Also, backing off of porn daily has helped a ton... haaha. I was fapping at least 2x/day when I was in my sh!t marriage due to lack of sex or affection. Thank god that's over.

No point in a relationship if you are resorting to fapping that much.

 

[Xenom0rph]

It's a combination of poor diet, poor cardiovascular health and dopamine insensitivity due to p0rn....

I've dropped 25lbs since the shamdemic hit and my erections have much improved. And when i take tadalafil my erections are like a lead pipe.

Bro lifting culture seems to discourage cardio because it supposedly kills gainzzzzz, but without cardio you cant properly maintain strong erections....

 

[TheProspect]

Assuming nothing is off medically, what worked for me is:
- Cutting out porn
- Exercising and maintaining a healthy diet
- Not masturbating too often, and not using a death grip on my unit when I do

You optimize those 3 and then it’s just a matter of bedding a girl whose sexually attractive enough to you.

Sexually attractive not only in how she looks physically, but also her behaviour...

It’s easier for me to stay hard if the girl I’m bedding shows a genuine sexual desire for me through submissive behaviour and a willingness to please, and if she is vocal via moaning or dirty talk.

 

[Bigpapa]

I'll never forget the first time I ran into this problem. It was my senior year in college and I saw a girl at the bar that was in one of my classes. One thing led to another and we ended up back in her apartment. Once we started hooking up she was a terrible kisser, had no sexual drive, and was honestly as stiff as a board. Not to mention she overtly dropped "I don't give head" mid hook up. It was honestly just terrible and I kept trying to get hard and force the moment, but every time I would try it would be more and more awkward. I remember leaving that night and thinking "What the hell is wrong with me? Why can't I get hard?" Looking back I should have been saying "What the hell is wrong with HER. You are the most frigid and asexual girl I have ever hooked up with!"

Now that I am recently separated from my soon to be ex wife and I am dating again I am seeing this phenomenon @Bigpapa described above. Some girls just do it for me more - whether its looks, body type, sexual energy, chemistry during the date, etc.

Also, backing off of porn daily has helped a ton... haaha. I was fapping at least 2x/day when I was in my sh!t marriage due to lack of sex or affection. Thank god that's over.

to be super frank , after a while with a girl , I feel much better when I masturbate than when I sleep with her ... and sex just feels like a chore

dunno why this happens ... maybe because I do not feel fulfilled from an emotional point of view or something

and I have been with seriously hot girls , but more or less I end up in the same situation eventually

 

[mrgoodstuff]

to be super frank , after a while with a girl , I feel much better when I masturbate than when I sleep with her ... and sex just feels like a chore

dunno why this happens ... maybe because I do not feel fulfilled from an emotional point of view or something

and I have been with seriously hot girls , but more or less I end up in the same situation eventually

Probably don't like them enough.

 

[Stoic]

Yeah theres a lot of different reasons. Here's what works for me.

1. 1 beer or less.

2. Heavy lifting and sprints to build muscle and force the body to create more testosterone.

3. Living a calm life without a drama and a lot of stress. Stress kills erections and libido. Cut out the news. Dont get in firefights with people online. For finances, I'm big into cash and carry. No debt means not a lot of financial stress. Her massages if you can afford it. Maybe hot bath if you cant. Sounds gay, but this calms your parasympathetic system and you are just more relaxed.

4. Clean diet and very little or no caffeine.

5. Cut out porn. Replace that habit with reading. Porn wrecks a man's mind. Dont masturbate. My take is you should be getting enough sex that you dont need to rub one out. If you are in a drought, use that pent up sexual energy to accomplish something big.

6. I also keep Viagara on hand. On first lays when I want to make sure theres no issues, I'll just pop a pill. It's just an insurance that I'll be ready to rock.

7. Keep raising SMV so you are dating better looking women. When good looking women are excited to be with you, male sexual problems tend to vanish.

 

[Barrister]

Erections can be tricky. You can easily mindfu*k yourself in the middle of the deed if there is something that you don't like. I have had issues sometimes in the past when I am with someone brand new (adrenaline is pumping so hard that you get the fight or flight response that can overtake your other processes like having an erection), with someone who I was pissed off at (hard to want to fu*k them if you want nothing to do with them at that moment), and even sometimes if I got way too hot (temp wise - this one always seems odd to me but I have had it happen before). And the problem is that once it happens then sometimes you get in a negative loop about it which only makes it worse.

I do agree that No Fap in short term will definitely improve erections. I am not a believer in it EVER but limiting yourself on how often you do it is definitely a good idea.

 

[sangheilios]

I remember a story a friend of mine told me about that you may find interesting. He said when he was in college he had this opportunity to have a gang bang with him as the only guy and a bunch of girls, I think he said there were 3 of them. He told me that he had this feeling something was off and in the moment he wasn't able to get it up. He then said that shortly after that he found out they all had herpes and a host of other nasty STDs.

I had a one time fling with this woman shortly before covid, there was some making out and she gave me a bj but something told me not to perform oral on her or have full blown sex with her.

It's possible you just aren't really feeling it with a particular woman and you just aren't up for it, no pun intended. Despite what you may have read or seen in movies, not all men are so raging and horny that they are literally desperate to the point of sticking their penis into any hole that is available to them. There are some men like this, I can think of a few I've met over the years, but they are outliers.

 

[Bigpapa]

It is not about this , it is about that if I do not really like the girl , I have this issues

the problem is that I started becoming very picky in this regards , which kinda affects my performance with girls that I am meh about , even though they are good looking for whatever

i Guess that what happens in mind is that I see this as a chore , doing something that I am Meh about it

 

[brolly]

If your having erection problems and you want a solution that actually works , if it’s not from fapping to much or only getting a few hours of sleep a night, I have found the best solution is to micro dose viagra everyday at around 10/12mg with Rosuvastatin at 10mg per day, now the latter significantly increases the effectiveness of pde5 inhibitors (viagra etc) , while this solves one side of the problem you want to maxamise circulation , vitamin e and b vitamins specifically, now when it comes to overall better bloodflow, garlic ginger and ginko supplement.

also it’s critical you cutout all stimulants they are Vaso constrictors and limit bloodflow so no coffee, caffeine energy drinks etc, remove alcohol if you are consuming it as well.

 

[Dash Riprock]

90%+ of erection problems for men under 40 are psychological. Yes, being healthy, working out (especially cardio), no smoking, diet, and moderate drinking all help, but far and away the number one issue is performance anxiety.

It does help if you're into the girl, but if you've been out drinking and it's a ONS or girl you just met or stared dating, PA is fairly common. Nowadays, there's no reason not to have some Viagra/Sildenafil (generic) on hand. I pop 10mg every time a bang a casual chick which is 100% these days. It's all I need. Any more and I get side effects and it affects my ears (have tinnitus). 10mg works like a charm for a few hours.

Chicks watch porn these days too so, like it or not, they do expect you to perform. Just the way it is. If you can't get a hard d*ick, she'll find someone who can, especially if she’s hot.