There’s a girl at my University who I have no interaction with, but whenever we make coincidental eye contact she gets this deer in headlights expression on her face. Also, she sometimes blatantly stares / watches at out the corner of her eye even when I’m a distance away. What could be the reason for this, and how would you guys react? Thanks!
Can anyone offer input on this situation?
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Maybe she finds you hot or likes something about you. Maybe she find you repulsive or intimidating. Who knows?
Go strike up a convo with her and find out.
In general, anytime you find yourself wondering what you should do with a new woman you haven't spoken to yet, the answer is take action.
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Here's whats happening: you are noticing this girl. You are noticing her behaviors. Other than that, there's no telling what's going on in her head. Often time when you notice people, they notice you as well. This is why a lot of guys think girls are staring at them, but simply they are noticing u look at them and looking back, possibly thinking "why is this guy looking at me". We all do it. It's only a fraction of us that put meaning to it or analyze it beyond a certain point.
To take it even further, what I noticed about a lot of people in general, is that people who are passively thinking about something, in this case, you passively thinking about women, approaching women, dating or we, they tend to notice actions and behaviors of women and for some reason associate that with themselves. While it would make sense to do that, when you have any interaction with a woman or know the woman or talk to them, it doesn't make much sense to do that with random people.
More often than not, when you're unsure of someone's behaviors, its likely that it has nothing to do with you.. and there's no telling what is going on in their head.
Also, Deer in the Headlights look is no "IOI". a possible IOI, can be when a girl who makes eye contact with you, and looks away really quickly or acts instantly nervous in her actions. This can be a sign that she was thinking about you before, and got caught looking at you. Now, another 'POSSIBLE' (but not definite) IOI would be if a girl saw, you made eye contact, and gave you a smile. A blank face is not an IOI. And to add to this as well, a girl smiling at you can also just be a kind gesture.
To take it even further, what I noticed about a lot of people in general, is that people who are passively thinking about something, in this case, you passively thinking about women, approaching women, dating or we, they tend to notice actions and behaviors of women and for some reason associate that with themselves. While it would make sense to do that, when you have any interaction with a woman or know the woman or talk to them, it doesn't make much sense to do that with random people.
More often than not, when you're unsure of someone's behaviors, its likely that it has nothing to do with you.. and there's no telling what is going on in their head.
Also, Deer in the Headlights look is no "IOI". a possible IOI, can be when a girl who makes eye contact with you, and looks away really quickly or acts instantly nervous in her actions. This can be a sign that she was thinking about you before, and got caught looking at you. Now, another 'POSSIBLE' (but not definite) IOI would be if a girl saw, you made eye contact, and gave you a smile. A blank face is not an IOI. And to add to this as well, a girl smiling at you can also just be a kind gesture.
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Just strike up a normal convo each time you see her, slowly escalate and eventually ask her out.
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In my experience, they show me their teeth like if they were smiling. Most girls do it, but this one was something else.
We eventually met, introduced each other and she took me thru her personal questionary like trying to get to know who you are Mr. Kind of thing.
See if you can corner her into an introduction and get to know her. Just try.
In my experience, and with the girl of my introduction, we finally introduced each other when I was sitting outside at a bench in a parking lot and she came outside and sat next to me to smoke.
I was reading the news paper and I saw her coming and when she sat next to me, I felt and saw her on the peripheral of my eye that she was trying to read from my news paper. Upon realising it, I shut closed the news paper in a very swiftly way and I turned my head to her and asked, so! are you a nurse or a doctor? There after the conversation dragged on for 15 minutes.
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Are you talking about the expression on the face of the driver or the deer eyes?
The deer’s eyes.
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In short my dude, you gotta talk to them to find out. Have an interaction. Right now, you have had no "interaction" , yet you've attributed ideas to seeing her, and her seeing you physically with eyes.
Now i'm not saying "this is a dumb question". that would be the extreme form of what i'm getting at.
the lightest form of what i'm getting at is, you noticed a girl. now go talk to her for christ sake.
Now i'm not saying "this is a dumb question". that would be the extreme form of what i'm getting at.
the lightest form of what i'm getting at is, you noticed a girl. now go talk to her for christ sake.
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I hope OP is not as ugly as this dude in your pic.....